final girl

i'm one bad day away from becoming the unabomber can i sit this ass on you

it really is unfortunate that loving someone enough doesn't give you the ability to pass not entirely painlessly but with complete trust and encouragement through the boundaries preventing you from reaching into each other's chests and wrapping your hand around the slippery-warm muscle of their beating heart. then again we would probably all be having less sex if this was an option so.

if you like the playlists for my fics i am once again self-promoting my music sideblog @glosstracks where i post songs i enjoy and occasionally say funny things in the tags

dating suffers, i think, from the desire that somebody will come to us fully realized so that we can be treated and loved the way we deserve. that’s a very tall order. it’s a frankly insane thing to ask of someone. you hold them to the expectation that they should know, from get, how to communicate hard things to you or how to handle your worst days or know what you need before you need it… who have you met that can do that? even our parents can’t do that. every relationship you have in life necessitates learning the wholeness of another person as best as you can and as it changes so that you can show up for them in the way they deserve. you will never have the love you desire until you learn to wait for somebody to build it, piece by piece, from the ground up with you. you want somebody to come to you fully realized when the person you’d spend the rest of your life with is somebody who’s simply willing to do the work with you.