I am myself for myself, and not for anybody else

Working on being a better woman everyday for myself

Working hard from self worth = building

Being independent from fear = avoidance

Being independent from wholeness = freedom

Overexplaining from anxiety = seeking approval

Explaining from clarity = communication

Staying busy from discomfort = escaping

Staying busy from purpose = creating

Chasing someone from fear = attachment

Choosing someone from confidence = alignment

Avoiding conflict from fear = suppression

Choosing peace from standards = discernment

Overgiving from fear = earning love

Giving from fullness = generosity

Withdrawing from fear = self protection

Taking space from awareness = regulation

Seeking validation from lack = dependency

Receiving validation from wholeness = appreciation

Controlling outcomes from fear = anxiety

Leading outcomes from trust = stability

Being chill from fear = self abandonment

Being calm from security = groundedness

Holding back feelings from fear = disconnection

Pacing vulnerability from wisdom = emotional intelligence

Clinging from fear = scarcity

Allowing from trust = abundance

Perfectionism from fear = never enough

Excellence from self respect = pride

People pleasing from fear = losing yourself

“I can’t lose this person”

“There’s no one better out there”

“I have to make this work no matter what”

“If this doesn’t work I’m a failure”

And it shows in your behavior more than your words. You tolerate disrespect because you’re afraid of starting over. You ignore red flags because losing them feels worse than losing yourself. You think the more you struggle and hurt the deeper your love is. You overgive, overexplain and overextend just to keep someone around

You feel anxious when they pull away because you don’t believe you’ll find better. You stay loyal to potential instead of reality. You chase consistency from someone who has already shown you inconsistency. You make excuses for things you would never accept if you truly believed you had options

Scarcity in relationships looks like holding on tighter the worse it gets. It looks like confusing attachment with connection. It looks like choosing familiarity over peace

“I’m just not ready yet”

“Now isn’t the right time”

“What if it doesn’t work out?”

“I don’t want to mess it up”

“I’ll start when I feel more confident”

Lanterns

𝐚 𝐛𝐥𝐚𝐬𝐭 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐭

You can want love and still accept less

You can want success and still sabotage ease

You can want more and still feel like it’s not meant for you