The montage thing in Episode 14 where it shows Dongkyung and Sa-ram spending time together before he disappears (going grocery shopping, making dinner together, eating together, attending her doctors appointments together, and sleeping in the same bed) really hit me emotionally when I first watched, even as someone whoâs not hugely emotional or empathetic when they watch dramas. It struck a chord with me because it seemed like a portrayal of a young married couple.
A young couple in love, sharing a home and a common space and enjoying each otherâs company and standing united in the face of a presumed future together - which they will never get to have (or so they think at the time, anyway). And I think it makes the anticipation of his departure more impactful because this is what they could have had, in another life. In another reality. They have it right now because soon it will be gone, and they could have had this every day if they werenât who they were and if their circumstances were different (theoretically. Who knows, really)
And they know theyâre on borrowed time. This togetherness - does it feel like a mourning ritual? Or like preparation?
And when she wakes to find him sitting in the window, I think they really portrayed a sort of anticipatory grief. You look at someone you know with certainty that you will lose, and time freezes. You try to memorize their sweet face, the way they look at you, the kind recognition in their eyes when they see you. And you understand suddenly that there will come a day after which you will never get to see that expression again.
âWhen spring comes, and morning comes, I will think of you for the rest of my life. Would I be able to endure it?â
And after he disappears⌠oh. She lays in his big bed that feels too empty. She messages him even though she knows he wonât answer, but still she hopes for a miracle - the way on occasion Iâll text my mom or call her with the tiniest, nonsensical belief that maybe sheâll answer, even though itâs been 5 years since I felt her ashes on the tips of my fingers. Sometimes Dongkyung dreams he comes back, and it feels like a nightmare has ended. It all feels so real until she wakes up. This is the real nightmare, she realizes.
Anyways the grief portrayed in DAYS is so fascinating to me because once you feel grief, you carry it with you for a long time, and I think I search for reflections of my own in everything I see. Itâs why this show touched me in ways that I didnât expect and donât often experience from other dramas.
Itâs also not just about the romance - itâs about their partnership and connection. Sa-ram swore he couldnât empathize, couldnât love, couldnât live like a human. But what is more human than sharing in each otherâs happiness and each otherâs pain? He is living because he is shouldering the agony and the joy of a life with Dongkyung, even if itâs in a horribly compressed span of time, and initiated through a really unique set of circumstances.
Sorry, in my head this idea is kinda messy and hard to verbalize but i swear itâs just because Iâm inarticulate. I tried my best.
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