Under Going a Complete Makeover...

Ladies night. #herwayornoway #herwayalways #zaful #stulemoi #asos #asoscurve #gojane #forever21 #lanebryant #c21stores #barneys #sephora #urbandecay #kashmirvii #selfridges #macys #dermstore #girlfriends #curvyapproved #curvyclothes #jaemonet

It's just something about a man in a suit. #suits #menwithclass #stylishmen #meninsuits

Ladies! Stop bashing yourself. Today I had a lady come to the store and she was so upset with everything she tried on. She was a pretty pear, with less up top and more on the bottom. She tried on everything that she thought would hide her legs. She thought they were hideous and continued to ask me if I agreed. And all I could do was stare at her. She was crazy. Her legs were fine. But she wasn't trying to hear it. During the vmas, her boyfriend kept talking about how Britney Spears was hot and how she had gotten thick. He was excited that she had gained weight. It made her look human. But as she looked at Britney, she kept telling him "she's not big, where in the world do you see thick?" His response was "yes she has, look at her legs". At that moment all she could think of was he must think she's hideous, if he thinks Britney's legs are like that. She missed the whole part about him loving Britney's thick legs. And I tried to explain that. But she continued to shop for something that would hide her hideous legs. Ladies don't do this to yourself. She was and is a beautiful woman curves and all. I wish I could have found that confident outfit but she just wasn't feeling herself enough to allow me to work my magic. Love yourself fully ladies. And stop thinking everything your man says is negative. He's with you, because he loves the things you hate about yourself. Embrace it and be happy. Life's too precious to be living in a constant funk. Love those chubby thighs! #embraceyourchub #embraceyourcurves #effyourbeautystandards #confidenceiskey #smile #loveyourself #plussize #lovethechub #prettyfatulous #chubrub #thickthighs #thighdimples #cellulitesusie

There is nothing I would not do for those who are really my friends. I have no notion of loving people by halves, it is not my nature. It's the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter. I think if I've learned anything about friendship, it's to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don't walk away, don't be distracted, don't be too busy or tired, don't take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together...... If you have good friends, no matter how much life is sucking , they can make you laugh. Photo from: @livelovelaughladies #blackphotography #friends #girlfriends #oldschool #classyladies #smile #livelaughlove

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I'm in love. With the way she walks, the way she talks and the way she carries herself like a queen. I'm in love with her smile and how on her worst days, she can still pull it together. I'm in love. In love with her... In love with me. #nuayophotography #nuayu #jaemonet

Stop living for everyone else! Your life is just that, YOURS. It's my prerogative. It's your prerogative. It's their prerogative. We're too involved in everyone else's business. Worrying about what the next person is doing with their life, does nothing for us. Instead of constantly prying in on the personal lives of others, why not pry in on ourselves? It takes a lot of time and energy to know the ins and outs of someone else's well being. If we put all that energy into ourselves we can get further than expected. Like I said it's out prerogative, we can do what ever we want. Step outside of the cliques, the circles, the small minded friends that attempt to hold us back. Worry about yourself and focus on your story. Stop trying to recreate, rewrite, reread, and reenact stories that aren't your own. Be original, inspire others, share your struggles and your accomplishments. Let the world know who you are. What it takes to be you and what it took to become you. No single story is ever the same, they may include similar situations, but at the end of the day they're different. It's great to see the people around you succeed, but it's even better when you're succeeding with them. Focus on yourself, they'll be alright.

"The problem with men who regularly identify me as the “ideal” is that they rarely compliment me without putting down other black women. I’m always set aside from the ratchet, materialistic, hypersexual, “ghetto”, “ugly”, unedcuated, loud, etc. and I never take it as a compliment, I never, ever see myself as above or better than any black woman who aspires to long weaves and red bottoms and spends her free time twerking in the club. I admire her aesthetic and savvy. That black girl can walk many paths and if her path differs from mine, then so be it. The bottom line is this, when black men insult other black women, I consider myself insulted. There are only a few things in my life that could have gone differently and I would be the same. And if I were, it wouldn’t make me any less deserving of love and respect. It wouldn’t make me any less valuable. So I refuse to be some standard, men set as a means to degrade women, who really aren’t that different from me at all. you can keep that admiration and recognition of me being “one of the good ones.” I’m just one. that's it" ---Curvellas

I've been told time and time again, what I need to do, how I should be doing it and why my life isn't going anywhere. Basically, all the shoulda, woulda, coulda's of my life. You can tell me over and over again how my life could be so much better if I just did this or that. But you have to remember it's my life. If I mess up, I'll clean up. If I break something I'll fix it. If I fall, please believe I'll get my big butt up, brush off the dirt and keep it moving. I'm not here to live life for you, or be the person you want me to be. I'm here for me. I'm here to pursue the life I want. If you're not with me, get out of my way. With the Lord by my side, I can conquer anything. Just watch!