Hey! If you think people with BPD are inherently abusers, you're literally just an ableist piece of shit.
I actually love to break it to you, so here you go:
if you've been hurt by a person with a certain trait or an individual who belongs to a larger community, and you use your personal hurt to validate your bigotry against all other people who share that trait or also belong to that group, you're just that, a bigot.
I don't know why it's seemingly okay to vilianize, dehumanize, and abuse people with cluster B disorders, even in progressive spaces. Especially BPD.
As someone with borderline, I've been mistreated by a wide swath of people (obviously, considering this is the disorder you develop from being abused), but I've never harbored dehumanizing ideas or perpetuated harmful behaviors towards or about entire minority groups because of my individual expirences.
It's wild to me that so many people with BPD are so deeply empathetic and considerate, but people just choose to demonize us because that's easier than accepting the reality that all individuals from all walks of life are capable of doing harm.
I'm not responsible for the actions of someone with BPD who hurt you just because we share a diagnosis. Everyone with a cluster B disorder does not have to die on the cross for the sins of one individual. This is a very simple concept that people generally understand until they're looking for an excuse to be ableist.
And also FUCK pop psychology for instilling the general idea that anyone who does harm MUST be disordered (specifically cluster B) because normal, nice, safe neurotypical people are incapable of doing harm. The world and the people in it are a lot more complex and multifaceted than you think. I know everyone wants an easy way to deem individuals safe and kind and good, in contrast to those bad, evil, unsafe people, but ableism is not the answer. In fact, there is no answer because that's not how the world works. That's not how people work.
If your acceptance of and advocacy for neurodivergent people only includes woobified notions of people who are "too afraid to ask for no pickles," you are basically just virtue signaling.
If you actually care about mental health awareness and mentally ill people, you might have to be ready to feel uncomfortable in order to confront some deeply ingrained ableism. And you might have to, God forbid, engage with mentally ill people who have lost the ability to perform or mask, or who never could in the first place. You'll have to see and recognize pain that is not "tragically beautiful" or whatever. You'll have to see our reality, warts and all.
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