Ball-less and Flawless

hard fucking month. having a pet die is expensive, grief is expensive, being low mobility is expensive. i just paid my rent fine, but i don't have much left now for groceries. also my big-ass ankle surgery is finally scheduled for the first week of august so i'm trying to get my place set up now for being on cast & crutches for 6+ weeks. anything helps ♥️

thinking about how my healthcare chart reads ten different explicit renditions of "male to female transsexual" and "gender dysphoria" but not once has a doctor bothered to note that i have a posterior spinal fusion from neck to hip

i had the spinal fusion when i was 19. it's not a new development and it's the first thing i mention to any new doctor or relevant medical professional

Landlord update:

I'm actually gonna tack my links on here because if the court does decide they just hate humanity and love profit more than anything I'm going to be in a really bad situation financially on top of probably losing the home I've lived in longer than any other, so if you can help me out please do

🏳️‍🌈 Help your Queer Black girl out 🏳️‍🌈 Please boost

I would actually go as far as to say that MOST abuse is unintentional. I think most people will go through their lives without ever experiencing intentional abuse. People are abusive because they're selfish, because they're stressed, because they care more about what society thinks they should do than the impacts of their actions on their children and partners, because they think what they're doing is correct, because they've made it make sense in their own heads, because they think they can fix their victims, they think they can fix their relationships, they think they can stop you from leaving, they think they can make you a better partner to them, they think that means you need to do what they want. We've sort of constructed mental illness in a way that doing this shit to other people counts as a form of mental illness because it is anti social behavior in the literal sense— it is behavior that causes social harm.

speaking from experience, if you're a lesbian and you're attracted to a trans man then two options present themselves to you:

a lot of advanced level 100 enlightened queer thinking is really just bioessentialism in disguise frankly

a lot of trans women I've met who initially discuss enjoying topping their partners have, over time, after getting space from the expectation to top, said that they've stopped enjoying topping and no longer want to do it

me (and like a million other tgirls): I can't believe I think I look good today... wow... sexualizing myself.... im such an evil ugly moid... I dont deserve to be a woman...

like. the basis for "autogynephilia" is just the idea that there is something wrong with a woman (in the case of agp, specifically a trans woman) who loves herself and loves her own beauty without a man having to be involved.