A Messy Bitch 💕

Wonderful art by Alena Aenami on Artstation. Lonely… :’)

Any bars in or around Georgetown. My favorites to hit:

Joe & Tony’s Seafood

The Hamilton

POV Rooftop at the W Hotel

The Jefferson

Round Robin

Bourbon Steak

Hay Adams

The Capitol Grille

Oceanaire

My travel SD found my SA profile and sent me an angry email asking if I was spending “his” money on clothes for other dudes. This is how I responded. He’s the passionate, lookin’ for love type so I match his tone. He came back offering to switch to monthly allowance and to pay my tuition. Watch and learn xxo

Dear —-,

I wanted to replace the blue dress with something form fitting, since that’s what you like and most of my wardrobe is loose and shapeless. As for the photos, it saddens me to think that you would doubt whether those were for you. But I don’t think explanations really do much to ease feelings of jealousy. 

I am open to the option of exclusivity. There isn’t anyone else, and I would be happy to end my search for further financial support. It didn’t occur to me as a possibility, given that you support a whole family. 

There are some things I would like to draw to your attention about my commitment to our relationship. Each time we go away, I lie to my parents about where I am. This may seem insignificant but it makes me sad, anxious, and uncomfortable for several reasons, particularly because they are not in good health. In November my shifts at work were cut back because I had been asking for too much time off. When I came back from our trip to San Fransisco I was told they had hired someone in my place because it was evident that I didn’t “need” the job. I’ve also been experiencing some degree of loneliness the past few months. You have never before made it seem like it would be an issue if I had a “normal” boyfriend, but our arrangement precludes that possibility. I take no issue with your infidelity. In fact I have a lot of compassion for your situation. But for myself, I am not comfortable pursuing even casual relationships without being honest about my dating situation. Which means I do not date at all.

I haven’t discussed these things with you up until now because, quite simply, they are not your problems. They are consequences of decisions I’ve made. I didn’t want to make them “our” problems, because I think part of what makes our time together so incredible is the amount of freedom and acceptance that we give each other. However, had I better anticipated the personal and financial risks associated with being with your travel companion, I would have asked for a more generous gift structure. Make no mistake, you have given me so many experiences that I treasure deeply. But like any kind of “secret” relationship, no matter how passionate and loving, it comes with an aspect of burden.  

I can understand the insecurity you’re feeling but I feel unappreciated when you talk like this. I like to think you see some strength of character in me, as I see in you. I care deeply about you ——-. I’m not sure if what we need is better communication, to change the structure of our arrangement, or a combination of both. Tell me what you think you need. I hope we can work this out.

Love,

– 

🐍❤️

*I asked for $3K in compensation for losing my job and he obliged 

** I might be a literal genius

1.) They will spend it anyway

2.) You were a terrrific asset to them during the time you spent with them

3.) Someone else will get it if you don’t!

Being spoiled and treated to a five star restaurant is something you’re going to experience as a Sugar Baby. My first time at one of these reputable establishments was, let’s just say, not my best performance.

Please reblog this post if you need a fellow SB to go freestyling with.

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It is a big part of sugar baby’s lifestyle to be comfortable go out on dates with their SDs to high-end restaurants, opening galleries, charities, fundraisers, and balls. What most newbies do not know/lack is the proper etiquette habits. 

For those men who surround themselves with successful people 24/7, would be a big turn off to be with a young lady who does not know how to behave and know the unspoken rules in the public. It is important for all sugar babies to know how to act classy and elegant, take your time, don’t be in a rush, be sophisticated and be a mystery for your SD. 

When you are dating a millionaire, the right manners and ways of conducting yourself assume an even a greater importance since they indicate grooming and class – qualities which are important in the upper classes.

Here are a few tips on dating etiquette if you are seeing someone rich and successful and wish to come off as his/her ideal partner.

#1 How to Communicate

Not every thought that comes into your head should come out of your mouth. Vet your thoughts. Speaking your mind does not mean sharing every thought. Some thoughts are not appropriate and could cause irreparable damage to your relationships.

Never gossip. Most gossip is bad, negative and damages relationships.

Look everyone in the eye for no more than 5 seconds at a time, then divert your glance for another 5 seconds. Practice will turn this into a habit. 

Make eye contact with people you speak with.

Never criticize, condemn or complain about anyone to another relationship. It’s a giant red flag. People will assume that you are bad mouthing them and will try to stay away from forming any strong relationships with you.

#2 Focus on your partner

When dating a rich man , it is important to let them know you value the time and effort your partner is spending on you. And one of the best ways to do this is by being attentive to your date. Maintain steady eye contact with him and listen actively to what he has to say. Smile often and present a positive body language. Also avoid fiddling with our phone (do not take pictures of the food, take snapchat of yourself, etc. do not present yourself as immature girl.). Unless you’re on call at a high-pressure job, you have no excuse for frequently checking your PDA. Flashing expensive technology makes you look self-absorbed and immature. If you must take a call or check a text, apologize for being rude, and tell your date why it’s necessary.

#3 Eating Etiquette

Believe it or not, most people don’t know how to eat. In the adult world of the successful, you need to know how to eat at social settings. Let’s go down the list:

As soon as you sit in your chair take the napkin off the table and drape it over your lap.

Never begin eating until everyone has their meal.

Never chew with your mouth opened.

Never talk while you’re chewing your food.

Never dip any food you’re eating into a sauce everyone is using.

Don’t wolf down your food. Eat at the same pace as everyone else at the table.

Never hold a spoon, fork or knife with your fist.

Outside fork is for salads, inside fork for the meal.

Never make gestures while your utensils are in your hands.

Never reach for anything like salt and pepper. Always ask someone to pass things like that.

Don’t slouch at the table. Sit straight up.

After the meal, excuse yourself and go to the bathroom and make sure you don’t have any food in your teeth. Carry a toothpick or something similar in your wallet or purse wherever you go.

If your date orders, compliment his choices, whether it is his choice of dessert or the wine. At the end of the dinner, thank your partner for inviting you out and don’t leave it for the next day.Focus

#4 Dress Etiquette

When dating a millionaire, it is crucial to turn out in a classy and elegant manner. Adopt a personal style which highlights your best features and above all, get the basics of grooming right. Even though you may not be able to afford a Louis Vuitton handbag or a Cartier watch, ensure that whatever you are wearing is suits you and is appropriate for the occasion.

Work and Job Interviews – Some professions have special purpose clothing like construction, roadwork, electricians etc. If you work in an office, dress like your boss or your boss’s boss. In some offices it’s business casual, in others, it’s a suit and tie for men. For women its slacks, or skirts with open collars, heels or no heels are ok.

Weddings, Wakes, Funerals –  In most cases, this will be suit and tie for men. For women, it’s the same as work clothes but many women like to wear more formal gowns or a more stylish cocktail dress, usually worn with heels. Some cultures have special dress codes you need to be aware of.

Formals – Usually formals are black tie optional, black tie or white tie for men. Optional usually means a dark suit, tie or black bow tie, dark shoes. Black tie means black tuxedo, dark shoes, white tie means black tailcoat, white wing-collar shirt, white bow tie, black shoes for men. For women, it’s a long formal gown or short cocktail dress or dressy long skirt and top, usually worn with heels. White ties are very rare.

#5 Introducing Yourself

In life, you will be forced into situations where you will meet new people. This is an opportunity to develop valuable relationships.

There are 5 basic rules to making introductions:

Smile

Firm Handshake

Make Eye Contact

In one sentence explain who you are, why you’re there and who you know at the event

Ask Questions About the Person You are Introducing Yourself to.

#6 Basic Manners

Yes

Please

Thank you

Be punctual (Being punctual is especially important when dating the rich since for them time is money, and as soon as they find you tardy, they will see you as a waste of time.)

Excuse me when interrupting or entering a conversation

Don’t interrupt someone while they are talking

Don’t roll your eyes when someone says something you disagree with

Don’t look away when someone is talking to you

Never check your cell phone when talking to someone

Stay positive and keep criticisms and negative comments to yourself

Compliment, compliment, compliment

Thank anyone hosting an event, dinner etc.

Never curse or use inappropriate language during social events

Never be rude

#7 Learn to handle embarrassing moments