Hallow(een)

really everyone you love has something miserably wrong with them or an obvious flaw that won't ever be fixed but like it's up to you what kind of person you can and cannot deal with. someone in my family has anger issues which I can handle and diffuse with no problem, but a person who can't tolerate yelling could not be close to him. another person I know is very anxious & needs constant reassurance and she gets along famously with gentler and more straightforward people than myself, but I can't handle being second guessed all the time. someone who is loosey goosey with their morals wouldn't bother me, but a person with a profound sense of justice makes me feel afraid of getting on their bad side. none of these traits actually make someone a bad person & just because there are personalities I can't handle doesnt mean I'M a bad person either. litany against callout posts for stupid shit and simple incompatibilities we all have to live on this earth together & need to learn how to deal with each other

actually to add to this point having one person leave you due to a flaw they cant tolerate may make you feel fundamentally unlovable but i promise theres a person out there who will look at the same thing in you and find no fault with it

don't know who needs to hear this but, you *should* project emotions and trauma onto silly characters. idc if it's from a "non-serious" piece of media, do it. make an unironic dramatic edit of Meg Griffin to a Simple Plan song, write angst fanfic about Stepbrothers (2008), draw beautiful, dramatic fanart of your favorite Spongebob ship. dont let anyone tell you it's not that deep. if you feel it, do it. someone will appreciate it, your fandom needs you

also, the opposite of this. make stupid silly little edits of very serious and sad characters, do it. draw fanart of Ennis Del Mar from Broke Back Mountain in a princess dress, write fanfic of Jude St. Francis from A Little Life in a romcom like scenario. trust me, fandoms that are allergic to joy need a few silly ppl to keep everything from imploding

Throwback to the time my dad complained that I never opened up to him, so I tried to vent about how hard it had been to overcome anorexia and he basically just responded with, "No. You never had anorexia."

Like, I need to emphasize how incredibly BS this response was. I had disordered eating ages 9-14. Interestingly, my father and I were mostly estranged until just before my 15th birthday. But, yes, please tell me, Father, how you know exactly how easy and carefree my life was when you weren't fucking there

they have decided on “mother in law forever” and “daughter in law forever.” fucking. MILF and DILF. yes they are both FULLY aware of what those mean and not even god and his angels can make them stop

update! you haven’t experienced horror until your partner greets your mother by screaming “hi milf!!!” across a crowded pride festival!