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🎀 encourage them to take their pills,

🎀 keep their inhaler in your bag/pocket just in case,

🎀 make sure to love them just as much as they love you,

🎀 if they get sad make sure to cheer them up with colourings and stickers,

🎀 encourage them to do things such as shower and get dressed,

🎀 don’t get sad/mad if they’re too sad to pay all their attention onto you,

🎀 cuddle them close and make them feel safe,

🎀 if they’re struggling to do something, encourage them and tell them you’re proud,

🎀 be patient with them,

🎀 stay calm during mood swings - i know it’s scary but you need to stay calm,

🎀 comfort them,

🎀 if they have a past of self harm, make sure to keep them safe,

🎀 memorise techniques to calm them down during an anxiety/panic attack,

🎀 make sure they eat if they struggle with it,

🎀 remember that caregivers can have problems too, and it doesn’t make them any less of a caregiver.

Because so many littles have asked me about this topic. I decided to take the post on my blog and I added some points to it because there was some information missing in my opinion.

💥 Unfortunately Tumblr is becoming filled with “Daddies” that don’t deserve to ever be called Daddy by any little, because these guys are just perverts/creeps in disguise. Here’s some ways to spot these “Fuckboy fake Daddies” as I like to call them, before they hurt you. 💥

1. He asks for nudes and insists you do whatever he says within hours of meeting you.

2. Doesn’t give you structure. Doesn’t act like a Daddy. There are no rules. No bed times. Nothing.

3. His compliments exclusively focus on your appearance, so he says things like “you look great” and “your boobs are amazing”, but you never get a compliment on your personality, character or what you have achieved today.

4. Is suspiciously quick to punish you. You’re always being told you’ve “been a bad girl”, you always feel like you’re not doing enough to make him happy.

5. He’s only ever really engaged in the convo when he needs something. Other times he’s distant or he is busy with work and barely tolerates you. You feel like you’re bugging him.

6. His profile icon is a picture of his dick, or of him shirtless, or something dumb like that. Further his blog will be full of just porn and nudes.

7. He never really feels like your Daddy, the relationship feels empty and hollow. He is never or barely there for you when you really need him. You still feel still alone and sad.

8. Calls you pet names so often that it becomes nauseating. Ends every sentence with “little one” and “princess” and “little girl”; it comes across like he’s trying too hard.

9. He doesn’t seem interested about learning more about DD/lg and BDSM. You won’t find him reblogging long text posts such as this on his blog (instead it’ll be 100% sexual content).

10. He doesn’t seem to want to find out more about you to get to know the real you. Like what you do, your mental issues, your family, friends and so on.

11. Can be very mean and hurtful when he doesn’t get his way. Doesn’t understand how sensitive littles can be and is quick to make harsh personal comments.

You have adopted a title that should come with a giant heaping dose of honor, respect, and trustworthiness. 

1. Don’t make demands of submissive girls that don’t belong to you. You should know the difference between having the ability to control your own submissive, and how you should be treating all the rest that don’t belong to you.

2. Don’t talk intimately/woo other submissives behind the back of the one that belongs to you. All the time and energy you have to put into the submissive world should be aimed at your own submissive. If you want a different submissive, do the right thing, and break with the one you currently own first.

3. Don’t ditch submissives. How would you feel if the person you depend on for nearly everything suddenly went up in a puff of smoke, and was never heard from again? How would it effect your ability to trust someone else to take up the same role in your life? Stop ghosting, and ruining perfectly good submissives. 

4. Don’t cut your submissive out from contributing to your relationship. Yes, I know she put you in charge, but relationships evolve, and if you don’t attend to what she wants out of yours, your relationship is likely to evolve in separate directions. You can still be in charge, and listen to her wants and needs, I promise. 

5. Don’t ask someone you just met to be your submissive. It’s your job to inspire her to submit to you, by getting to know who she is, and showing her that you are the single most qualified man to be her Dominant. Don’t be lazy. Being a Dominant takes a lot of focus and energy. If you’re not up for that, go find another title to adopt. 

6. Don’t put your submissive on a shelf when caring for her is not convenient to you, and take her down off the shelf when it suits you. Submissives are human beings, and though some of them like to be treated like objects from time to time, they should not be ignored when you don’t feel like dealing with your relationship. If you don’t have to the time and energy to adopt the role of Dominant for someone, then don’t do it in a half-assed way.

7. Don’t compare your current submissive with past submissives. It’s not a competition. You should be making her feel like she’s the most important person in your current world, so don’t make her feel like she’s less than other submissives, or that you’re pining for something you no longer have, and feel you can’t have with her. 

8. Don’t skimp on the essential ingredients in D/s relationships. Don’t be that guy who limits your submissives safeword in any way. A safeword is the difference between consensual sex, and possible rape and abuse. Don’t skimp on aftercare. Let her know how much you appreciate all the control she continuously allows you to have over her, and how well she is performing for you. It’s the difference between a proud and happy submissive, and a sad and confused one. 

9. Don’t make unilateral decisions that your submissive is directly opposed to. You don’t get to decide your submissive needs a sister because it suits you to have a second submissive to play with, when it’s patently against her wishes. Once again, it’s her relationship too. 

10. Don’t lie to your submissive. It’s all about trust. It’s trust that inspires her to submit to you. It’s trust that inspires her to allow you to continue to hold her submission. One or two breaches of trust, and it all falls apart. 

I was super scared but I love it I love it I love it!!!!