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How to Hustle & Be a Long-Term Sugar Baby

I have been with my current SD Red for almost a year and a half now. We have been through a lot of ups and downs because he is married. But I think our arrangement has developed into a strong friendship and relationship. Because of Red, I have been able to travel to Punta Cana with friends, New Orleans, San Francisco, Florida, and soon Canada. I’ve been able to have plastic surgery (breast implants), get a new car (soon), pay for school courses, help out my family, spoil my friends, pay off my credit cards twice now, been given gifts (MacBook Air, Beats, Prada bag, LV), etc. I’m extremely thankful for everything I have received from my SD.

So I wanted to share some tips on how to hustle to get the most out of your arrangement and also some tips on maintaining your hustle as a long-term sugar baby. Most sugar arrangements only last a few months because any number of reasons (SDs’ work schedules and work traveling conflicts, age and maturity differences, differing allowance expectations, finding other SBs/SDs, SB choosing to date traditionally or settle down, etc.). Hopefully you dolls find these insights helpful for your sugar hustle :)

COMPANIONSHIP:

-Time with your SD should be stress-free and carefree. Your SD probably has a lot of stressors in his life (work, kids, wife), and he looks to you to be his “escape.” I remember one of the last times I hung out with Red that he was visibly disappointed that he had to leave me early to go run an errand his wife requested. Being with a sugar baby means being with someone who can make you forget about your real everyday life. Do your best to be positive, happy, and funny when you’re with your SD. He has enough drama in his real life. I’ve never gotten visibly angry with my SD because he’s said before how his wife can be a bitch and has anger issues. The last thing you want to do is remind him of his wife.

-But do be real with your SD. Red and I share similar family dysfunctions when it comes to our families. We open up to each other and discuss family issues. I read about another SB who basically said you need to be happy 24/7 around your SD, and I don’t think that’s always the case. You’re a real person who has real issues too. You can’t be expected to be a robot, you have to be authentic. I’m not saying to make your SD your personal therapist and have crying sessions. But sharing some of the problems in your life shows you’re a real person and this communication connects you two emotionally. Relating to your SD despite your age, maybe race, and socioeconomic differences can only help strengthen your bond.

KEEPING THINGS SPICY SEXUALLY:

-Buy lingerie and model it for your SD. You get to be your sugar daddy’s ultimate fantasy. Chances are, any sex is great sex to men (lets be real here). But you want to ensure you keep your sugar daddy satisfied so he doesn’t go looking for a side sugar baby, or drop you altogether. I like buying inexpensive Yandy lingerie online and surprising my SD with outfits. Send your SD “sneak peak” or “preview” pictures to indulge him and get him really excited for your next meet. Men are visual creatures. Try out different looks (school girl outfit, really trashy looking body stockings, teddys, bras and undies) to keep your SD on his toes and intrigued with what you’ll be wearing next. Don’t wear lingerie each time you see your SD though, you naked works just as well sometimes.

-Research and practice. Read AskMen or Cosmo (sometimes questionable) or the Kama Sutra for new sex positions or sex tips. You can also bring sex toys into the bedroom (whips, handcuffs, vibrators, dildos) to keep things interesting. If you’re not into sex toys, try different flavored lubes, whip cream, syrups. Just be sure to clean up after! You don’t want to leave any marks or residue on your SD when he has to leave to head home.

-Give good blowjobs. I cannot stress having a good head game enough. Men will literally turn to putty in your hands. Watch porn or read online technique posts for inspiration.

-Practice safe sex. My SD and I still use condoms when we have penetrative sex. Sometimes I get the feeling that he doesn’t want to, but he always does. You can’t risk your sexual health for any amount of money. A lot of men from the older generation seem to be uninformed about current STIs, birth control, etc. So educate yourself and educate your SD too.

-Dress to impress. Sometimes you can be sexy without even trying. I wore fishnet tights underneath a tight skirt with a loose top on a date with my SD. I thought my outfit was fairly relaxed. But Red said he couldn’t stop staring at my legs and still thinks about that outfit to this day. You can be unintentionally sexy and leave a lasting impression with just one outfit piece.

KEEPING THINGS INTERESTING CONVERSATIONALLY:

-People love to talk about themselves. I’ve taken a few psychology and sociology courses and I learned that people are very egocentric by nature. So asking your SD an open-ended question about HIMself, HIS work, HIS family, HIS hobbies, his cars, his interests etc., and then asking follow-up questions off that is a sure way to keep the conversation flowing.

-There are always safe topics. If you can’t seem to find the words, you can always refer back to safe topics like your day, his day, your school, his work, his family, your family, summer plans, plans together, talk about the food you’re eating, weather. Or just smile and flirt if all else fails!

-Deeper conversations show maturity and intelligence. I also like to have somewhat deeper conversations with my SD about policy (minimum wage, cost of college, wealth disparity in this country), politics, family, relationships, marriage, religion, etc. People are complex individuals and I just enjoy learning about people’s thoughts and lives. It’s fun for me to pick the brain of someone twice my age who is successful, a white male, intelligent (Ivy league educated), and married.

-Cherry picking is a conversational technique. It’s pretty useful in keeping a conversation going. You can read more about it here. I think I first read about cherry picking in a psychology/dating book. You’ll have much better active listening skills once you practice this too.

HOW I HUSTLE:

-The “planting the seed” hustle. I was able to get my SD to agree to a boob job, and now a new $20k car among other great gifts by “planting the seed.“ You don’t want to come right out and ask your SD for something big out of nowhere. I wouldn’t plan a whole speech or sitting your SD down at dinner and asking him point blank. He will feel ambushed and most likely say no. I would first bring up what I wanted casually and jokingly in conversation while we were having fun at dinner, or in private. You have to choose the “right” moment to bring it up initially and then continue to “water” and “feed” what you planted in his mind :)

-The “benefits you too” hustle. For my boob job, I didn’t even know I wanted one until I thought it would be cool to get big boobs one day. I decided to bring it up with my SD while we were being intimate (it’s hard to say no to a girl sucking your penis). My SD said he would think about it, but he soon said yes. I was able to sell him on me getting boobs because he gets to enjoy them too! My SD even said that he really liked the idea of buying me boobs because he got to be with the young/innocent (aka flat chested me), and then the bombshel/slutty (aka big boobed me). I also pointed out that getting me a car benefits my SD because I’ll be able to drive to him now when we meet. He agreed and said he didn’t think of the benefit to him before. The best sales people make you think you need to buy whatever it is they’re selling. So hustle smart, not hard.

LASTLY… -No doesn’t mean no. My SD has told me no before when I’ve asked for things. But no doesn’t necessarily mean no. My SD has changed his mind before on things I’ve asked for. It never hurts to ask again, and the worst thing your SD can say is no. Do not be resentful because your SD will be as generous as you are with him.

-Be YOUnique. Be yourself. Just because you’re a sugar baby doesn’t mean you have to be a glam goddess 24/7. Be real, ladies. We are young! Be a little crazy ;) Red and I can appreciate each other for who we are as people and not just who are are in an arrangement, and because of this we have true companionship.

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Stay safe X

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I needed this reminder. Especially the first one. Even with a platonic that is important!!

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If I were to take commissions for knit/crochet/sewn items and include free shipping, would anyone be interested in buying from me? I need to raise funds to go pick up my service pup! Im not asking for donations* I’m asking for support!

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Ultimate Guide to Get Started in Stripping

So, you’ve thought it through, given yourself a good once over, and you’ve decided you’re ready to make money getting naked on stage. And somehow all of you then find me. And ask me for advice.

I’ve considered writing a big long advice guide for this and finally, here it is!

Buy a pair of Pleasers . Pleasers is the brand of high heel every credible stripper in the world wears. They’re made for strippers/to be danced in while still looking sexy af. Don’t get the off brand shit, get the real thing. It’s cheapest on amazon, but some sex shops sell them and give discounts if you mention you’re a stripper, especially in strip-friendly cities.

Work Out. More than that. You’re going to be working, and that means dancing, for 8 hour shifts. You need to prepare your body for that kind of lifestyle.Stripping *will change your body*, so change your attitude now to make that transition easier. Squats are your friend.

Call around. Google clubs in your area and find out who’s hiring, and how to audition there. Visit if you can for a night (and tip the dancers!), watch a few sets, maybe buy a private dance, and ask the girls what it’s like to work there. Tip them for their time though, don’t be a mooch. If you’re in a strip club, and you’re not working, you should be tipping.

Watch Tutorials. Look up lapdance how-tos, basic pole dance, stripping guides, and floor routines . Learn some tricks that you can do that flatter you. If you can, practice on a pole in a studio or at a friends. The first time I ever touched a pole was my audition though, and I did just fine, so don’t stress if you can’t get stage practice. Just relax, work out, stretch every day, and practice the moves you see on youtube.

Ask questions at your audition. Do girls here get lockers? Do you have to rent them or are they free? What are the costume requirements? Can you finger yourself onstage? Can you use anal plugs, whips, or props during your sets? Can you negotiate dance prices or are they set in stone? How much is tip out?

Be careful who you befriend. Not all the girls in strip clubs are nice. Some of them will be very mean, manipulative, partake in illegal activities, will try to steal from you, will try to scam you , will pressure you or put you in danger, or will put you, for any number of other reasons, at risk. Be cautious and trust your gut.

Don’t Get Drunk at Work. A shot to calm the nerves is fine, but drunk = sloppy = loosing money = loosing business . Plus, men will notice and try to take advantage. Drink water instead! You’re dancing, after all. Hydration is important. Your muscles and skin will thank you.

Don’t blow all your hard-earned money on clothes and shoes for work. After a while, you’ll learn men will buy these things for you anyway. Once you have the basics - a couple of g-strings, a pair of heels, a top (Even a t-shirt cut off will do) , and maybe some stockings or booty shorts will do you just fine. Replace things as needed, and occasionally splurge or stock up, but don’t be tempted. So many girls spend half their money every night for the first week on new clothes. It’s a waste. You’re going to only wear your favorites anyway.

“What’s tip out?” Tip out is how much you give to the DJ, bouncers, bartender, etc at the end of every shift. Sometimes it’s a flat rate, sometimes it’s a percentage of what you make over all. BE SURE TO ASK, it’s different regionally and in every club.

Also, be sure to bring a small bag or purse to carry around with you to collect money in throughout the night. Some girls just carry in their garters and wrap it up with a rubber band to keep it secure, but I don’t think that seems secure tbh.

Finally, remember: Never, ever let the opinions of men define you. They mean nothing. You are a queen.

Now go make that cash. Wiggle that ass, and make me proud.

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For all the girls who constantly ask me questions on here that i dont want to answer. Here are all the answers

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Beware girls

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How did you find this?? Some notable posts from the thread. Ladies these men are professionals/hobbyist. They do this for fun, for sport. It’s disgusting and frightening. Please please be careful. “My total cost after sleeping with 7 people in three weeks (all on the first “date”) is around $220 bucks. •Noticed a lot of guys mentioning how women will say how great it is to have a young attractive guy on the site. I realize the majority of women who say that are lying to stroke that ego (guilty!) But please please lie about how great the men on the site are. Don’t tell them that the men are flaky or stand you up or cheap. A question and answer-•”What do you do after the first date?”- “disappear” One user asked this question- do they bring up the “arrangement” on the first date, what do you say? This was the response- “Sometimes they do on the first date, sometimes they do beforehand. I tell them “I don’t discuss such things before seeing if we have a connection. It makes the relationship transactional. I have zero desire for a hooker.” That usually get’s them off the subject as most SB’s don’t want to be considered an escort. I use the word hooker for shock value as it is not PC in today’s world. It conveys the fact I look down on hookers with disdain, both raising my value and showing I want more than just a pump and dump. (Little do they know) And if she really is a hooker she’ll blow herself out by bringing it up again later.” - Another response - “I do essentially the same thing. “We need to see if we have a connection first.” During the date, I’ll dangle the possibilities in front of her. I’ve traveled a lot so I will discuss some of my adventures and ask her what places she’d like to visit. I’ll even ask her if she has a passport and if she’d consider taking a weekend trip with me. Of course these bitches eat it up. “We can spend a weekend in New York sometime, maybe somewhere in Europe if it’s a long weekend. I prefer Budapest and Prague over Paris; Paris is overrated. Do you have a passport?” Some chicks want money upfront. These girls are probably legit hookers and just get ignored. If she wants to talk money after the bang, then I’ll bullshit her and pretend to negotiate. Then I disappear. It’s easy to stall for a week or two and then say you met someone else, especially if you establish upfront that you have a very busy travel and work schedule. To avoid a false rape charge That night or the next day after the bang, I always send a message similar to the following: “Hey, I had a good time last night, I’m glad we met. We should set up something regular.” They always respond with something positive such as “I had a good time too, let me know when you’re in town again”. The types of chicks who go on SA seem like the type to make a false rape charge when the money doesn’t materialize. This is insurance against a rape charge. The hamster is much stronger in Sugar Babies than in most women.” - referring to women as bitches and broads - pump and dump - never actually give a girl money. Show her money, take her to fancy lounges.

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Please reblog this every time it shows up on your dash because their will always be a new sugar baby who needs to read this. Please be safe girls! These man can be absolute monsters and you always need to be knowledgable of their games. Don’t ever let them take advantage of you. Always stay one step ahead and always be aware of your situation and surroundings!

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Watch out for swindlers.

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MOST of the men on SA are dudes who cannot afford dates with escorts. There was a whole thread on a hobby board about how guys (who have never seen escorts because they are cheap as fuck) get unsuspecting SBs to fuck them. SA is a cesspool, literally.

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This is too true for me not to repost.

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Did you ladies see the post about “how to avoid a rape charge?!” Fuck these douche bags!

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Ugh that one in particular freaked me out. This is so gross and scary ))): I know you guys are smarter than to to fall for their shit. Don’t be afraid to call them out on it, either.

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ladies, please be careful! xo

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for the newbies…. a must read

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When a man tells you he needs this or needs that because he has trust issues or wants a connection first…. bounce baby. Ain’t no one got time for fuckbois.

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PLEASE, please read this garbage. Don’t go to hotel rooms, don’t give him a hand job in the car, don’t do SHIT sexual with him prior to when you feel ready and prior to the money.

I don’t care if he’s dangling a literal $1M in front of you, these old white geezers are the worst and are willing to scam you and your pussy.

Be safe and be smart.

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Be safe and be smart

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I will never forget reading this.

In case you needed a quick refresher on spotting salt/playing the game/safety!

I first saw this back in 2015. It’s 2018 and they’re are still going and still scamming women using the same old tactics.

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I read this before every single pot meet so here it is again

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Yes…

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Not all of these but…yes☹️

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