Pebble

Full DNI List: Shippers of incest, p*dophilia, ab*sive relationships, etc (tag your r/mr/m, if you ship r/mr/m and keep it on another blog, and don’t see them as brothers?? I’m not gonna go off. I’m not here to scream at you. Just tag your stuff and keep it away from me.) This includes ALL pro-shippers, even if they don’t ship these things themselves. If you’re going to defend remrom shippers, get the fuck off my blog. MAPs (p*dos) or anything similar, TERFs, SWERFs, Nazis, LGBTQA+ exclusionists, racists, bigots, sexists, battleaxe bis, against neopronouns, ableist, enbyphobic, transphobic, homophobic, or transmed/truscum.

I’m an anti, to an extent. I believe people rarely tag things even remotely close to properly, and that topics romanticized in media should be taken down. Also more on tagging romanticized media. (Everything I think in one place pretty much, so unless you either agree or you can genuinely argue every point, don’t fucking interact.) This means, for an example, mental illness should never be written in a good light, as mental illness is a heavy burden that many of us have to deal with. If it is, it needs to be tagged as inaccurate, OR it shouldn’t be written because the creator very clearly isn’t mature enough to do as much on their own.

I go by Pebble or Petal preferably. I’m genderfluid, but I’m not big on pronouns (I go by any, including neopronouns). I really appreciate when people use he/him though because most people don’t.

I am a minor. (I will not say what age, for the sake of privacy.) If you want me to stay away from your blog and I follow you (probably not realizing you’re an adult who posts adult content), I’ll unfollow respectfully. Just message me!

I also do some writing! Mostly sanders sides, I might branch out into some other things later. Feel free to request anything! Writing and moodboards masterpost down below <3 feel free to make requests!! (Pls make requests)

https://on-fic-writing-spree.tumblr.com/post/635595263031001089/hey-guys-this-just-a-masterpost-full-of-links-to

If you have a problem with human rights, get off my blog.

Let me know if you need anything tagged!

romantic, alterous, platonic, and all other forms of attraction are all great but none of them are necessary for a happy fulfilling life!!

the absence of attraction does not make you broken or wrong

not being in a romantic relationship is fine and even qprs aren’t necessary to be “complete”

love doesn’t need to be romantic to be real

Lovely ask!

So! Honestly it took me a couple days to figure out exactly what being arospec meant for me. I’ll make these a bit more broad since you referenced “aspec” and not “arospec” specifically.

To start off, I had to look at my attraction. I experience some. I experience something that isn’t platonic but isn’t quite the die-hard romance that I roll my eyes at. So here’s some starter questions to figure out:

1) How do you feel about romantic/sexual actions? As in, what are you comfortable with? This can help determine if you’re repulsed, indifferent, or positive, even if you don’t experience the attraction, or only experience the attraction in a different way. For me personally, this changes, and despite being in a romantic relationship, there are times where I feel really disgusted with the thought of kissing, and other times (though rarely) where I want to kiss my partner senseless. Mostly I tend to lead into the indifferent category though.

2) What kind of relationships are you comfortable with? Platonic (friendships), queerplatonic, romantic, sex based / friends with benefits, etc?

3) Do you experience romantic attraction? How strongly? Does it vary, or stay consistent? Do you experience crushes, or a less intense form of attraction, does your attraction fade or perhaps lack entirely at the drop of a pin (or the reverse, becoming really intense and perhaps dropping from there)? Identify the types of attraction you feel. (These can all be changed for sexual contexts as well, but I thought it was easier to provide some specific examples with romance)

So in short: identify your feelings towards actions, identify your feelings towards potentially having each type of relationship, and identify how your experiences with romantic attraction (if you have any) function.

@neopronouns was the one that I remember who digitally recreate my flag. They also let me talk about it and honestly even just having a place to type it out helped me figure it out, and it was really nice seeing a supportive blog when I was trying to figure everything out.

1)I’m ok with just about any romantic interactions depending on the person of course and would say i’m mostly indifferent/positive

2)all kinds i just need rules/what we want in the relationship explained beforehand

3) I have very little romantic attraction and the attraction I do kinda varies?

I’ve only had 2 crushes and these were people that I looked at and my face just heated up didn’t know them personally but I have what I remember to be a very intense form of romantic attraction to, just head over heels.

Then the other 3 people I’ve had what I think to be romantic attraction for were people I got along with really well (we clicked and were really good friends) and I eventually wanted more than a friendship with. But can’t tell if it’s romantic attraction or something different bc it doesn’t feel the same as the two people I had a crush on.

I have a I want to be more than friends but it’s not the same feeling as having a crush so like exactly what you explained as isn’t platonic but isn’t quite the die-hard romance that you would roll your eyes at.

Few more questions:

How did you come up with the name for your attraction

Lovely ask!

So! Honestly it took me a couple days to figure out exactly what being arospec meant for me. I’ll make these a bit more broad since you referenced “aspec” and not “arospec” specifically.

To start off, I had to look at my attraction. I experience some. I experience something that isn’t platonic but isn’t quite the die-hard romance that I roll my eyes at. So here’s some starter questions to figure out:

1) How do you feel about romantic/sexual actions? As in, what are you comfortable with? This can help determine if you’re repulsed, indifferent, or positive, even if you don’t experience the attraction, or only experience the attraction in a different way. For me personally, this changes, and despite being in a romantic relationship, there are times where I feel really disgusted with the thought of kissing, and other times (though rarely) where I want to kiss my partner senseless. Mostly I tend to lead into the indifferent category though.

2) What kind of relationships are you comfortable with? Platonic (friendships), queerplatonic, romantic, sex based / friends with benefits, etc?

3) Do you experience romantic attraction? How strongly? Does it vary, or stay consistent? Do you experience crushes, or a less intense form of attraction, does your attraction fade or perhaps lack entirely at the drop of a pin (or the reverse, becoming really intense and perhaps dropping from there)? Identify the types of attraction you feel. (These can all be changed for sexual contexts as well, but I thought it was easier to provide some specific examples with romance)

So in short: identify your feelings towards actions, identify your feelings towards potentially having each type of relationship, and identify how your experiences with romantic attraction (if you have any) function.

@neopronouns was the one that I remember who digitally recreate my flag. They also let me talk about it and honestly even just having a place to type it out helped me figure it out, and it was really nice seeing a supportive blog when I was trying to figure everything out.

1)I’m ok with just about any romantic interactions depending on the person of course and would say i’m mostly indifferent/positive

2)all kinds i just need rules/what we want in the relationship explained beforehand

3) I have very little romantic attraction and the attraction I do kinda varies?

I’ve only had 2 crushes and these were people that I looked at and my face just heated up didn’t know them personally but I have what I remember to be a very intense form of romantic attraction to, just head over heels.

Then the other 3 people I’ve had what I think to be romantic attraction for were people I got along with really well (we clicked and were really good friends) and I eventually wanted more than a friendship with. But can’t tell if it’s romantic attraction or something different bc it doesn’t feel the same as the two people I had a crush on.

I have a I want to be more than friends but it’s not the same feeling as having a crush so like exactly what you explained as isn’t platonic but isn’t quite the die-hard romance that you would roll your eyes at.

Few more questions:

How did you come up with the name for your attraction

not going to uni

taking as much time as needed before going to uni

changing your majors many times before finding what you like

changing your career path

not knowing what you want

attending a community college 

shoutout to nonbinary people who default to presenting as their assigned gender bc it’s safer

shoutout to nonbinary people who default to presenting as their assigned gender bc they don’t feel like they can pull off anything else

shoutout to nonbinary people who default to presenting as their assigned gender bc presenting as their real gender is impossible

shoutout to nonbinary people who present as their assigned gender bc they want to

shoutout to nonbinary people whose presentation is mistaken for their assigned gender but is in fact how they express their real gender

I ask a pretty girl if she wants to dance. She looks at me with disgust and says, “I’m not gay” in the snottiest valley girl voice I’ve ever heard. 

A short greasy dude will not leave me the fuck alone at the bar. I tell him multiple times “I am a lesbian.” He says, “me too” and in the same breath tells me I’ll like it if I try it. When the guy steps away to talk to his friend, three gay men surround me and buy me a drink and swear to keep him away from me for the rest of the night.

2am, drunk, cheering on my favorite local drag queen on stage. A contestant from Dr*g R*ce is in the audience, hanging out, supporting her friends. The straight girls next to me spot her and start shrieking at the top of their lungs and trying to get to her. Security escorts the contestant elsewhere so no one could get near her. Not a single straight person in the audience tips any of the performing queens. 

I’m by myself on the dance floor, feeling myself to Bey, as you do. A man comes up to me and starts dancing. After a minute, he starts grinding on me and tries to kiss me. I put my hand in his face and tell him I’m a lesbian. He says something very vulgar that I don’t completely remember because I was drunk af. I tell him to fuck off and I leave the dance floor completely. I end up on the patio with a beautiful butch girl and when I tell her what just happened, she offers to beat him up for me. 

A girl with a bachelorette party, telling me, with complete seriousness, that she was just discriminated against at the bar for being straight. What happened? The bartender didn’t pay attention to her immediately and she had to wait “forever” for her drink. 

Related: Almost every negative review of my favorite gay bar is by a straight person. At least half of them claim that the bartenders or bouncers discriminated against them. 

And then this one isn’t bad, it just made me laugh when it happened 

I ask a pretty girl if she wants to dance. She looks at me with disgust and says, “I’m not gay” in the snottiest valley girl voice I’ve ever heard. 

A short greasy dude will not leave me the fuck alone at the bar. I tell him multiple times “I am a lesbian.” He says, “me too” and in the same breath tells me I’ll like it if I try it. When the guy steps away to talk to his friend, three gay men surround me and buy me a drink and swear to keep him away from me for the rest of the night.

2am, drunk, cheering on my favorite local drag queen on stage. A contestant from Dr*g R*ce is in the audience, hanging out, supporting her friends. The straight girls next to me spot her and start shrieking at the top of their lungs and trying to get to her. Security escorts the contestant elsewhere so no one could get near her. Not a single straight person in the audience tips any of the performing queens. 

I’m by myself on the dance floor, feeling myself to Bey, as you do. A man comes up to me and starts dancing. After a minute, he starts grinding on me and tries to kiss me. I put my hand in his face and tell him I’m a lesbian. He says something very vulgar that I don’t completely remember because I was drunk af. I tell him to fuck off and I leave the dance floor completely. I end up on the patio with a beautiful butch girl and when I tell her what just happened, she offers to beat him up for me. 

A girl with a bachelorette party, telling me, with complete seriousness, that she was just discriminated against at the bar for being straight. What happened? The bartender didn’t pay attention to her immediately and she had to wait “forever” for her drink. 

Related: Almost every negative review of my favorite gay bar is by a straight person. At least half of them claim that the bartenders or bouncers discriminated against them. 

And then this one isn’t bad, it just made me laugh when it happened