Two Ends of One Leash

Blow jobs whenever I want? 🤷🤷🤷

No seriously...

Why do I enjoy being a Dom?

Because the journey of building trust with someone and seeing them give me more and more of their submission is one of the most amazing and truly intimate journeys I experience as a human.

Seeing someone give themselves to me, giving me control over their body, their safety, their growth, their mind, their basically everything is a treasure that's hard to quantify.

You'll hear many guys claim to be a Dom but only want or care about the sexual stuff. Those guys are Tops at best, and abusers at the worst. They care nothing about aftercare, boundaries, emotional, physical or mental safety, and they damn sure don't care that you're choosing to trust them with such a huge gift.

When I have a sub I worry about everything for her. I worry about the sleep she gets, the water she drinks, the career she has or wants, the Drs appointments, the family stuff, etc. I worry about the anxiety she has from some trauma ten years prior that she's only told to maybe a handful of people and I'm one of them. I worry about every piece she chooses to share with me and because of that effort by me, she then let's go and becomes the amazing Sub or Little I deserve.

I'm always extremely confident in my abilities as a Dom, and some would see it as cocky, but I'm also well aware that my job as a Dom isn't just sex or beating someone. My job is proving to her that I can be trusted with all of it. I don't break boundaries, I don't abuse safewords, I don't even consider sex as a need in a D/S relationship, I know. Shocker. It's an amazing bonus once I've earned that right, but it's not a need.

As a degrader and a sadist it's so hot that some subs will be as pathetic as you want them to be... so don't fuck around with their emotions outside of that, that sub is already literally playing with and altering their emotions for your benefit and pleasure. You're overstressing the emotion muscle if you do and rest is essential to any healthy exercise.

You're not giving their feelings any time to rest and recover if you cause emotional distress outside of playtime and you're not giving them the safety and security to play with their emotions again. If you consistently play with humiliation, degradation, or other forms of psychological sadism, you need to be aware of this and plan accordingly.

Avoid big talks or heavy topics immediately after, and do things that will lift your partner's mood in the days following an intense scene even if their mood doesn't need a lift. While you can't see it, by doing that, you've essentially put an emotional ice pack on a sore muscle.

Delete anyone's nudes that doesn't fuck with you anymore.

Its creepy as hell to keep nude/lewd photos of someone who has CUT OFF that kind of connection to you.

Delete them.

asking for consent before sending nudes? very hot.

asserting your personal boundaries by declining to send nudes? so fucking hot.

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