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"Go on, sweetheart," she murmurs, her tongue dragging along your jaw. "Hump my thigh. I know you want to."

Her voice is sweet, a hint of condescension amidst her commanding words. Her teeth nip slightly at your neck, her thigh pressing insistently against your throbbing core.

You hump. God, it doesn't take long for you to become desperate, shuddering against her as you buck your hips with abandon. Your head buried in her shoulder, whines muffled as you jerkily thrust, your arousal smearing against her thigh.

"Perfect, so perfect for me. Such a pathetic little thing, aren't you?" Wanda whispers, encouraging you. If your hips falter, she simply presses her thigh harder against you, pleasure blooming but never reaching its peak.

You just nod, your whines becoming whimpers, and eventually moans, your muscles burning as you continue to grind against her thigh.

but nobody talks enough about the doms who immediately starts asking “are you okay? do you feel alright?” before they’ve even checked in with themselves..the ones still running on adrenaline. carrying the weight of every decision they’ve made, every boundary they navigated. every moment of trust that was handed to them.

the one who insists they’re fine..

and maybe, they are.

hold them anyway. bring them water anyway. run your fingers through their hair and kiss their forehead and tell them they did so well anyway.

because sometimes, the people who spend all that time in control need somewhere to put it down.

and maybe they’ll laugh, roll their eyes..and say they don’t need aftercare. like it would be ridiculous for you to even suggest it.

maybe they’ll try and make it about you again. redirection and deflection is easier isn’t it?

but darling, i’m begging. learn the shape of their exhaustion. learn the way their shoulders finally drop, just a fraction when someone else handles things for a little while.

learn how to coax them into resting.

there’s something so special about a person who has been trusted with your vulnerability, and in return, entrusted you with their own.

not because they’re a dom.

because they’re human.

because they gave so much of themselves to hold you safely.

I have seen a lot of people recently when talking about their kinks, and what they don’t like, they saying age regression, which is very much not what people mean. So let me explain the difference so in future people can use the correct term and not damage a community that already receives a whole lot of hate for doing something due to trauma.

Age Regression

A non-sexual coping mechanism with therapeutic practice, or a natural psychological state where a person mentally and/or emotionally reverts to a younger age. (This age can be any age younger than your current age)

It can be voluntary (intentional) or involuntary (triggered by stress, trauma, comfort, exhaustion, etc.). More often than not it is triggered by some kind of trauma but not always.

It is often used for self-soothing, emotional regulation, healing, and/or stress relief.

May involve activities associated with childhood, such as coloring, watching cartoons, using comfort items, playing with toys, or speaking in a more child like voice.

It is NOT apart of the kink community, which a lot of people seem to confuse with age play.

Age regressors may be adults, teens, or children.

Some regressors have caregivers or support people, while others regress independently without need and/or want of a caregiver.

Caregiving dynamics are usually focused on comfort, support, and safety.

Age Play

A roleplay dynamic where participants intentionally act as different ages as part of a consensual scene, relationship dynamic within kink.

It is typically considered part of the broader BDSM/kink community, however experiences do tend to vary.

Participants remain aware that they are roleplaying and do not actually believe they are the age being portrayed.

It may involve roles such as caregiver/little, teacher/student, babysitter/teen, or other age-based dynamics.

Can be sexual, non-sexual, or a mix of both, depending on the people involved.

It is based on informed consent, negotiation, boundaries, and roleplay between adults.

Focuses on age-related roles, power dynamics, nurturing dynamics, or fantasy scenarios rather than entering a genuine regressed mental state.

Not all age players are age regressors, and not all age regressors are age players. But some are both.

One of my absoloute nos is age play, but in the past due to my trauma I have age regressed, which is why this is so fucking important to me, that you hear what I am saying.

Age play and age regression are different. Please do well to remember which is which. Because calling age play “age regression” can be extremely harmful, they are not the same thing. You may not understand age regression, or why someone’s trauma induces regression, but to call it something its not is not okay. And is dangerous to a community (age regressors) who already get enough hate as it is.

When the two terms are used interchangeably, it stigmatises age regressors by incorrectly associating their coping mechanism with kink, while also creating confusion about consent, community spaces, and the needs of the people who are involved. Using the correct terms helps protect both communities and allows each to be understood on its own terms.

The key thing to remember here is;

Age Play = Kink