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I can answer a question or two, but I won't be able to have whole sessions through here.
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I'm here if any of you kiddos (or adults) ever need to talk about anything. đź«‚đź’•
I can answer a question or two, but I won't be able to have whole sessions through here.

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I think it’s normal for people to be mad at each other sometimes even if they’re close friends or family or intimate with each other. Like I think that’s a normal and healthy part of relationships that can happen sometimes
“Why were you on Mad At Me island” because at the time I was mad at you and yet our friendship has weathered that without trouble
I went to Mad At You island because my feelings are my problem. I needed to stomp down the beach until I could sit and watch the sunrise. I built a sandcastle and did some thinking. Then I boarded the good ship You Matter To Me and sailed it all the way to meet you on the Let’s Talk Shore of I Love You Island.
Ouppy *points*
Yeah, kid, I'm ouppy
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Thanks, kiddo
There is a road I take every day on my commute to work. It's not a smooth road, but I've driven through it for years. I know where every bump and pothole is; which ones to avoid and which are okay to drive over. It's not ideal, but I take comfort in the familiarity.
My friend told me about a different road I can take. They say it's smoother, that I won't have to worry about as many bumps in the road, but I can't know that for sure. I don't know how many different obstacles could be on that road, and the uncertainty worries me. My current route is okay because I know exactly what to expect, bumps and all. How am I meant to adjust to something so different?
Well, there are a few things I can do. I can carpool with a friend, someone familiar with my concerns who can provide emotional support as I traverse a new environment. I can learn about the area from a map or someone else familiar with it so there's less uncertainty going in. I can find where the new route connects to the old one, so I can return to my comfort zone if I need to. I can give myself grace, accept that it may be difficult to get used to, and know that it's okay if the new road isn't actually better. Just trying to find the easier route is worth the effort.
TL;DR: It's perfectly natural for new things to be scary, even when they're "supposed" to be easier. But there are ways to make it more accessible,
Even if you have a hard time being kind to yourself right now, please spare some kindness for the you that will still be here tomorrow
The notice sent to Mr. Vlad excused Rin for the first three class periods. He had a three-hour window to visit Hound Dog. He spent the first hour switching between anxiously pacing around his room, and lying in his bed, contemplating. Did he really need to go? He sent that meeting request in a moment of panic, but now that he had time to rest, his mind had cleared a bit, so visiting the counselor no longer felt like life or death. It was just like he said in that message: if given the chance, he'd just psych himself out of attending.
It was easier for him to spill his feelings when he was in the midst of drowning in them. He didn't feel like dredging them all up again when he'd just settled down—and bearing those vulnerable thoughts to a (relative) stranger no less.
But he knew he needed to. How many times in the last month alone had he started spiraling like that? And how much worse would he get if he didn't seek help?
Distantly, a bell rang, signaling the start of second period. Rin's fingers curled into his blanket. He felt sort of bad just lying here, doing nothing when he had places to be, and someone waiting on him...
With a deep sigh, he pushed himself up, grabbed his bag off his desk chair, and made his way outside.
And, a fifteen-minute walk later, he was outside the counselor's door. Hesitantly, he knocked.
( @fullscalecarapace )
// OOC: Sorry ik I'm sending this in late </3 pardon meee
After a moment, the door opened. Hound Dog stood on the other side, his large, almost intimidating stature taking up most of the frame. Though there was a softness to him. Yes, he was a large dog-like person, but he knew how to carry himself in a welcoming manner. He was a therapy dog, after all.
Good to see you, Rin. I'm glad you could make it.
He steps aside, gesturing into his office.
"Thank you for letting me visit on such short notice."
Rin hesitates a little before stepping inside, and spends a few moments more hovering in the doorway as he studies the room. It's quiet, warm, with a palette that's gentle on the eyes. Not what he'd been expecting, but certainly welcome.
"I'm sorry for keeping you waiting," he says as he sets his bag down by the door. He eyes the spare chair across from Hound Dog's, but doesn't move to sit down just yet.
Hound Dog sits in the chair at his desk, spinning it around to face Rin.
"It's alright. Thank you for showing up." He nods towards the other side of the room, where a chair, beanbag, and floor cushions reside. "Feel free to have a seat wherever you feel comfortable, then we can get started."
Rin chose one of the floor cushions and sat cross-legged, both hands resting on one of his knees. He was quiet for a few seconds, eyes fixed on the floor while he bounced his leg.
"... How does this work, exactly?" he eventually asked, "Never seen any sort of counselor before. Do you ask questions, or should I just start talking, or—where should I even start?"
"Why don't we start with what brings you into my office today, and we can go from there."
"Yeah, yeah okay."
He straightened up and took a deep breath.
"Yesterday specifically, I was having a rough time mentally because one of my friends has been expressing some concerning thoughts lately. I've tried to be there for them, because I love them, and I understand what they're feeling. I've been there. But nothing I say seems to get through to them.
Sometimes it'll calm down for a day or two, then they get bad again, that sort of cycle. And no matter what I do, they remain convinced that my love and concern for them is all a facade, that I'm a monster who's going to all these lengths just to keep up a lie and hurt them.
And like I've said, I understand that mindset, but hearing that still hurt. I want to be there for them and help them get better, but at the same time, I already feel horrible enough for unrelated reasons. I can't keep expending my limited energy for it to be in vain, or subject myself to someone who apparently loathes me. I can't do this, but I want to. I want to help my friends, I hate not being able to do anything for them. Everything feels out of my control these days."
"First of all, I'm proud of you for coming to me about this. It's a lot for you to have to carry all on your own. From what I'm hearing, you're expressing care for your friend, but they just can't accept your concern as real.
"Running yourself thin trying to convince them of something they're refusing to believe is just going to hurt you both in the long run. You're doing what you can by being there for them, and that in itself is enough. Trust takes time. Your patience as you wait for them to understand that you care will mean a lot to them. Sometimes just seeing that someone will stick around is enough."
"But what if it isn't enough?
What if I do everything I can, and I'm still not able to protect them? I feel like the lives of my friends are completely out of my hands and I can't stand it."
"Is this a life-or-death situation? Or is it closer to a friend going through a hard time where there may not be a correct answer?
"As a hero student, and especially this year, you're exposed to a lot of extreme situations and are expected to expertly navigate your way through that. Not everything is like that. Therapy isn't going to be like that.
"The stakes are lower here. You can take a second to breathe before trying to put all that weight on your shoulders. You are allowed to get things wrong."
"I'm not entirely sure? They keep implying that they don't want to be here anymore, saying their life doesn't have value and they don't see a reason to stick around. I'm hoping nothing comes of it, and I've already told Mr. Vlad, but—"
He tried to take a deep breath and collect himself but his head was not being cooperative. Panic started rising in him, his thoughts raced, and he couldn't help but think (despite being reassured he was safe here) that the teacher must've seen him as ridiculous for reacting so strongly to this. A bunch of hypotheticals and worst-case scenarios that he invented.
"I just don't know. All I know is bad things keep happening and I can't deal with it anymore. It's rare I go a day without freaking out like this because even tiny things will get me to spiral. I've been such a miserable person lately."
He noticed as the panic started to show, then tension in Rin's shoulders and the shallow breaths. This didn't seem like something that could be fixed in one session.
"Alright Rin, first of all, I'd like for you to breathe with me. Nice and slow."
He placed a hand on his chest and exaggerated his breaths, closing his eyes to give Rin a little privacy. He was patient, and let his heightened hearing let him know when the kid seemed ready.
"This seems like on ongoing concern. Can you tell me how long these 'bad things' have been happening? Is it just during your time at UA, or a more persistent issue?"
The notice sent to Mr. Vlad excused Rin for the first three class periods. He had a three-hour window to visit Hound Dog. He spent the first hour switching between anxiously pacing around his room, and lying in his bed, contemplating. Did he really need to go? He sent that meeting request in a moment of panic, but now that he had time to rest, his mind had cleared a bit, so visiting the counselor no longer felt like life or death. It was just like he said in that message: if given the chance, he'd just psych himself out of attending.
It was easier for him to spill his feelings when he was in the midst of drowning in them. He didn't feel like dredging them all up again when he'd just settled down—and bearing those vulnerable thoughts to a (relative) stranger no less.
But he knew he needed to. How many times in the last month alone had he started spiraling like that? And how much worse would he get if he didn't seek help?
Distantly, a bell rang, signaling the start of second period. Rin's fingers curled into his blanket. He felt sort of bad just lying here, doing nothing when he had places to be, and someone waiting on him...
With a deep sigh, he pushed himself up, grabbed his bag off his desk chair, and made his way outside.
And, a fifteen-minute walk later, he was outside the counselor's door. Hesitantly, he knocked.
( @fullscalecarapace )
// OOC: Sorry ik I'm sending this in late </3 pardon meee
After a moment, the door opened. Hound Dog stood on the other side, his large, almost intimidating stature taking up most of the frame. Though there was a softness to him. Yes, he was a large dog-like person, but he knew how to carry himself in a welcoming manner. He was a therapy dog, after all.
Good to see you, Rin. I'm glad you could make it.
He steps aside, gesturing into his office.

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Evening, sir. I'm sorry for the message, I know it's late right now, but I wanted to ask if I could talk with you sometime tomorrow? Whatever time works best for you, I don't mind.
And would I need to inform Mr. Vlad in the morning, or would you be messaging him about that so I can leave class? Sorry for all the questions. I've never been to your office before.
Also please make it mandatory if possible because I know myself, and by tomorrow morning I'll be psyching myself out of talking to anybody and probably try to cancel, but I really need this.
( @fullscalecarapace )
Hello Rin,
I do have time in my schedule for a meeting tomorrow. While I can't make it mandatory, I can make the appointment and write a message for Kan to excuse you from some morning classes, so you have no reason not to show up.
If that all sounds good to you, then I'll start inputting it into the system before I finish my rounds for the night.
P.S. There's nothing wrong with asking lots of questions, I'd never expect you to be an expert on something you'd have no reason to know about.
Yes, that sounds good. Thank you. I'll be there.
Great. I'll write it up now
Evening, sir. I'm sorry for the message, I know it's late right now, but I wanted to ask if I could talk with you sometime tomorrow? Whatever time works best for you, I don't mind.
And would I need to inform Mr. Vlad in the morning, or would you be messaging him about that so I can leave class? Sorry for all the questions. I've never been to your office before.
Also please make it mandatory if possible because I know myself, and by tomorrow morning I'll be psyching myself out of talking to anybody and probably try to cancel, but I really need this.
( @fullscalecarapace )
Hello Rin,
I do have time in my schedule for a meeting tomorrow. While I can't make it mandatory, I can make the appointment and write a message for Kan to excuse you from some morning classes, so you have no reason not to show up.
If that all sounds good to you, then I'll start inputting it into the system before I finish my rounds for the night.
P.S. There's nothing wrong with asking lots of questions, I'd never expect you to be an expert on something you'd have no reason to know about.
Just gonna drop these here as a starting point :)
How to identify, and then deal with, your emotions
Emotional regulation skills
Conflict resolution skills
Creating and enforcing boundaries
Dialectical Behavioural Therapy skills
Emotional intelligence ideals to aim for
Axes of self-care/wellbeing
Self-care self-evaluation (find out where you’re starting)
How to make a self-care checklist
How to start a self-care habit
Reparenting resources
Crash Course Psychology
KhanAcademy: Understanding the Self and Society (some units more relevant than others)
Emotional education activities for children and teens
Social-Emotional Learning activities for kids (information can be adapted for adults)
When you break your leg, it gets placed in a cast. This helps it heal, and keeps it protected while it does. Once it's ready, the cast is removed and you can slowly adjust back to your normal life without it.
When you go through trauma, the brain finds and develops coping strategies to help you recover afterwards. At some point, when the trauma has passed, you won't need those to cope anymore.
It can be difficult to let them go, since they are what protected you while you recovered, but like a cast, they will cause more harm than good if they stay for too long.
This doesn’t mean those coping strategies were never helpful. It doesn’t mean you can’t use them again in the future, if need be. And it certainly doesn’t mean that they were bad or wrong to have in the first place. It just means that it’s okay to move on, and readjust to new things.
TL;DR: Coping mechanisms are helpful, yes, but they're aren't always meant to be permanent.
Are you okay? Do you need to talk to somebody? I know we don't know each other well, but you can vent some frustrations here, if you want to. If not, that's fine too. I just wanted to check in. I hope I'm not disturbing you.
— @fullscalecarapace
I need something to make sense. I'm turning into my father, and I don't know how to stop it. I'm going to shave my head and throw a dramatic tantrum culminating in probably a lot of screaming
I'm sure we could figure out some healthier ways to handle your emotions

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Would you rather have seeds in your meat or bones in your fruit? *v*
I suppose I’d rather have bones in my fruit so they’re easier to hold.
Umm recovery girl told me to see you three times week....
- @dekutheworldsgreatist
Welcome in, Midoriya. Feel free to make yourself comfortable. Is there anything in particular you wanted to talk about?
*izuku pulls up his sleeve revealing his self h4rm scars*
you can see why huh…..?
I see...
Well, where would you like to start? We can address the elephant in the room, or we can talk about other things you like.
I want to make sure you're comfortable before we get into a clearly heavy topic.
i-it started in middle school as a coping mechanism…I stopped around 3 years ago….last night i-i had a mental breakdown and relapsed…..
Ah, that was probably scary to deal with. I'm glad you're seeking out help as soon as it happened.
Can you tell me what you were feeling at the time? Is there a "problem" in your life that you wanted the self-harm to "solve"?
bullying….….i-i was bullied a lot in middle school
And how did that lead to you wanting to hurt yourself? Was it a means of regaining control, thinking you deserved the pain, a form of stimulation amidst a depressing time, or something else?
Mostly depression…..
What sort of things made up the depression? Any thoughts or feelings surrounding this that you feel comfortable sharing? If we can understand those, maybe we can help prevent a relapse in the future.
the bullying i went through in middle school was either getting beaten up…told i was a quirkless freak….and getting either milk or soba poured on me….
it was a mental breakdown after overworking myself again and just a rather not pleasant interaction with my older brother……
Seems like we have a lot to unpack here. Why don't we get started on scheduling your next few sessions so we can address that next time?