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-Kate Rose (Elephant Journal)

Falling In Love the 1st Time: The Love that Looks Right

This is the love that appeals to what we should be doing for society’s sake—and probably our families. We enter into it with the belief that this will be our only love and it doesn’t matter if it doesn’t feel quite right, or if we find ourselves having to swallow down our personal truths to make it work because deep down we believe that this is what love is supposed to be.

Falling In Love the 2nd Time: The Hard Love

The second is supposed to be our hard love—the one that teaches us lessons about who we are and how we often want or need to be loved. This is the kind of love that hurts, whether through lies, pain or manipulation.

Sometimes it’s unhealthy, unbalanced or narcissistic even.

There may be emotional, mental or even physical abuse or manipulation—most likely there will be high levels of drama.

This is exactly what keeps us addicted to this storyline, because it’s the emotional roller coaster of extreme highs and lows and like a junkie trying to get a fix, we stick through the lows with the expectation of the high.

Falling In Love the 3rd Time: The Love that Lasts

And the third is the love we never see coming. The one that usually looks all wrong for us and that destroys any lingering ideals we clung to about what love is supposed to be.

This is the love that comes so easy it doesn’t seem possible.

It’s the kind where the connection can’t be explained and knocks us off our feet because we never planned for it.

We are just simply accepted for who we are already—and it shakes to our core.

This is the love where we come together with someone and it just fits—

there aren’t any ideal expectations about how each person should be acting, nor is there pressure to become someone other than we are.

It isn’t what we envisioned our love would look like, nor does it abide by the rules that we had hoped to play it safe by. But still it shatters our preconceived notions and shows us that love doesn’t have to be how we thought in order to be true.

This is the love that keeps knocking on our door regardless of how long it takes us to answer.

Miley Cyrus is Hannah Montana again

Love, respect and acceptance are very important in any healthy relationship…and I’m not only talking about your relationships with other people, I also mean your relationship with your very own, precious self. 

Some tips:

1 - Make some extra effort every day

Make sure to do things that make you feel more confident, things that boost your self esteem. For example, making a homemade facial treatment, a beautiful makeup, dressing up, or doing something that makes you happy can help you look and feel a lot more confident. Remember, you dress up for yourself and not in order to impress someone… purely for your own happiness! This type of attitude will shift your perspective. By taking a good care of yourself – you show yourself love…

2 - Take a bath with rose petals wearing tiara

It’s a great way to relax and enjoy the moment. While taking a bath, think about all things you love about yourself. You will feel a lot more positive and happy about yourself!

3 - Spoil yourself once in a while

Make sure to regularly treat yourself with something pleasant, for example, buy the most delicious cake, lighten up some candles and take a moment to enjoy it, or go to shop and, finally, buy that beautiful outfit or luxurious lipstick that you’ve always wanted to get, but never thought you were worth it. You are worth it! Do things that bring pleasure, enjoyment and happiness into your life, spoil yourself once in a while!

4 - Start admiring your uniqueness

There is something about you that is unique only to you! Start admiring those things that make you “you”. Do you like wearing mismatching socks? Do you love eating ice cream together with meat balls? Or, probably, you just adore adding ketchup everywhere? Alll these little special things add up to your uniqueness! Embrace, admire and accept them, like this you will start loving yourself more…

5 - Learn to accept and love your appearance

If you want somebody to love and adore you, you need to start seeing (and admiring) your own beauty too! Don’t wait till someone tells you that you’re pretty. Learn to accept and love yourself totally, love yourself just as you are. All the features that you have are absolutely unique to you: your nose shape, your hair, your freckles, your beasts’ size…Learn to fall in love with yourself and you will see the whole world fall in love with you…

6 - Do what you love and follow your passion

It’s very important to find out what you love and start getting busy doing it. It doesn’t matter, if someone tells you that you can’t! Ignore those discouraging voices and start following your dream. Doing what you love will, definitely, add up to your sense of happiness, self worth and self love!

7 - Music and dancing

Listening to new types of music, dancing around and enjoying it with your whole being will help increase your level of happiness and make you love and enjoy yourself even more!

8 - Start wearing vibrant colors

The world already has enough of grey and dark colors to it! Wearing something bright, colorful and beautiful will add sparkle of joy into your life; it’s been proven scientifically that colors have psychological impact on our mood!

9 - What other people think about you is their own business

Stop worrying about other people’s opinions…what they think is, totally, up to them! What really matters is what do you think about yourself…

10 - Find some inspiration

Find inspiring stories and role models to follow. It will give you extra motivation to move toward the accomplishment of your goals and dreams, making you love yourself and believe in yourself more! Life is only what you make out of it, therefore, aim for the best, set yourself enormous goals, be bold, be daring; always remember, you are the captain of your ship!

11 - Self respect

Not only self love and self acceptance are important, so is also self respect. Make sure you always totally respect yourself and never accept anything less from anyone else! The sense of self worth, self love and self respect will help you also show more respect, kindness and love toward others.

12 - Spend time in nature

Whether it is walking on the beach, swimming in the ocean, or hiking in the mountains, interaction with nature seems to have a positive effect on humans. The sounds, smells, and sights of the great outdoors appear to have an amazing stress-reducing capacity. Research shows that spending time with nature can decrease feelings of depression, increase self-esteem, decrease tense feelings, help us to be more caring, less aggressive and violent, be less likely to procrastinate, and better able to work through problems.