Apparently this needs to be highlighted -- How to REALLY Please a Woman
Okay, so Iâm going to get really personal here, more than Iâve been willing to do on the internet, but apparently itâs necessary.Â
Thereâs a world of misinformation out there when it comes to PLEASING A WOMAN SEXUALLY.Â
There is a REASON lesbians do it better. Â Men are misinformed and I blame that largely on porn. Â Porn is not what sex looks like, especially not lesbian sex. Â Youâd think everyone knew that, but men seem to base everything they know about pleasing a woman on what they see in the videos theyâre so obsessed with watching. Â
Iâm writing this because I think men deserve the chance to really please a woman and the only way theyâre going to do that is if theyâre given the right information and poor, poor straight women donât even know how to BE properly pleased because theyâve been forced to be touched only by men whoâve learned their skills from porn. Â
Man, do I feel bad for you straight girls.Â
Thatâs right people, Iâm gay.Â
But I have slept with men. Â And the difference is astounding.Â
So Iâm here to help you straight people in understanding the real way to please a woman. Â To really satisfy a woman, you have to be an expert at foreplay.Â
Holy crap!! Â How is that so WIDELY MISCONSTRUED? Â
If you look up foreplay tips, thatâs all you hear about.  Sure, you get, âTouch her all over, whisper in her ear, touch her boobies,â and thatâs all well and good, but the main focus is, âORAL, ORAL, ORAL.â Â
Let me tell you something. Â It is called ORAL SEX because IT IS A FORM OF SEX. Â Anything, I MEAN ANYTHING, that results in an orgasm is sex. Â Anything that is physical touching of the genitals is sex. Â
Foreplay is everything done to the body BEFORE THE GENITALS ARE TOUCHED. Â So that means, kissing, cuddling, caressing, whispering, licking, biting, etc.Â
Now, the problem isnât that, itâs where and how these men do it. Â They donât spend the right amount of time in ANY of the places they need to. Â They donât take the time to really explore a womanâs body. Â I donât know if itâs because they donât want to or what, but, being a lesbian, all I want to do is explore a womanâs body. Â I want to hear every noise she makes from every spot I touch on her body.Â
Men, please stop GRABBING. Â Do not grab breasts, do not grab the ass, do not grab our shoulders. Â Gently caress them. Â Grab without constricting. Â Touch them. Â Glide your fingers across our skin. Â Womenâs entire bodies are sexual. Â You can literally arouse a woman by touching any part of her body. Â
I will be as specific as possible.Â
Touching and kissing the breasts and nipples are amazing, but DO NOT GO THERE FIRST. Â The biggest problem I had with sleeping with men is thisâ it was always the same. Â The routine was exactly the same every time. Â I knew what was going to happen each time it started. Â First this, then that, then bam penetration.Â
Women need diversity. Â We need to be surprised. Â
Start in different places every time. Â
Women love to be admiredâ by eyes and by touching. Â Slowly undress her as you kiss and touch each spot that is exposed. Â Make love to her flesh with your lips, EVERYWHERE. Â Donât just kiss and peck at her skin, donât just smooch her neck and shoulders. Â No, deeply kiss them as if you were kissing her lips. Â Use your tongue. Â Run your tongue down the length of her limbs, the sounds she makes will tell you everything you need to know. Â If she doesnât want a spot touched, trust me, youâll know it. Â But if she LIKES it, youâll definitely know it and that means, KEEP DOING THAT. Â Do it some more. Â Tease her by moving elsewhere and doing the same thing, then move back to that spot that tantalized her so.Â
Donât know where to kiss, lick, suck, and bite? Â
Iâll give you a run down.Â
Ears, ear LOBES (women love to have them lightly nibbledâ that said, some might not, everyone is different, but TRY), neck (front, side, back), the spine (lick/caress from neck down, youâll give her shivers of delight), the collarbone (mmm, one of my favorites), shoulders, inner elbow, inner wrist, sternum, nipples, the WHOLE breast (this means the sides, under boob, lick it, suck it, nibble it, listen to which way drives her the most crazy), rib cage (lick the bottom lining of the rib cage, lightly teeth it!), side of the rib cage, stomach (I cannot tell you enough to use your tongue! Lick around the belly button in circles, lick down to her pubic hair, kiss/nibble back up to the belly), PELVIC BONES (lick em! bite em!), hips, back of the hips, thighs especially the inner thigh (the closer you get to her vag, the more sheâll go crazy with need), back of the thigh, side of the thigh, back of knees, back of calves, ankles (back, side), under the butt, on top of the butt where it meets the spine. Â
Did I miss a spot? Â If you think so, TRY IT. Â I cannot express enoughâ TOUCH HER EVERYWHERE, KISS HER EVERYWHERE, AND MEAN IT.Â
As you kiss everywhere, trail your fingers LIGHTLY across her skin in all these places. Â Do circles, do curves, follow the curves and bones of her body, find some interesting freckles? Â Follow them in the pattern they create with your fingers, tongue, or lips. Â
Move the womanâs body. Â Lift limbs to access places you havenât tried yet. Â Lift up her legs to kiss/lick down the back of her calf to her knee, to her thigh. Â Leave hickies! Â Unless she doesnât want you to, so always ask! Â
Flip her over just to kiss from the back of her neck down the length of her spin.  Caress her as you do this.  Spank her.  If you grab, do so GENTLY, not like youâre squeezing her to death.  Womenâs bodies respond to sensual and gentle touching.  Wrap her legs around your head as you leave hickies on her thighs and gently graze her clit as you âmmmm,â youâll leave her breathless.
Do not, DO NOT, touch her clit until you have her screaming from all the foreplay. Â Even if she is dripping wet before youâve spent ten minutes on foreplay, do not enter! Â Tease her, make her BEG for you to enter her. Â Sheâll either beg verbally, with words or whimpers, or sheâll beg with her eyes and hands. Â A woman will let you know when she is ready to be entered.Â
Do not enter until you know for sure she is begging for it.Â
When youâre kissing/licking her collarbone to her shoulder, run a hand along her rip cage, stomach, or thighs. Â Touch her whole body at once. Â If youâre kissing her thighs, tease a nipple or run your fingers along her collarbone or jaw. Â Did I mention the jaw? Â Oh yeah. Â Definitely spend time there. Â Kiss it, nibble it, lick it, run your fingers across it. Â Grab her face when you kiss her. Â Thread your fingers in her hair. Â Do all of this, at all times. Â
Constantly keep her whole body engaged. Â Do not ever focus solely on one spot. Â
Youâll have a fully satisfied woman after. Â I promise you.Â