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- Find her tolerance limit: First hit her softly and then gradually increase the force of each slap if you see she can take it. - Always make her close her mouth before the slap to avoid her teeth cutting inside her mouth during the slap. - Always hit her in the jaw. Never close to the ear (audition loss hazard), nose (bleeding nose harzard) or eyes. Any hit above the cheekbone (around the eye) will give her a black eye. - If you wanna slap her hard in one cheek, then is useful to support her other cheek with your other hand. This is done to avoid a strong “whiplash effect” on her head. -Avoid slapping her as a punishment/discipline. She has a fatty butt and some sensitive thighs that can be used for that purpose. Those are much safer to hit than her face. Use them. - Never slap her with anger.

A good slap puts a naughty girl immediately in her place. It makes her shut up immediately so it’s really effective against a back-talking girl. Normally it brings instant tears of submission. But it can be a severe tool, so it must be used with care.

Remember: Women are delicate beings and they are easy to break. Better play with your toys without breaking them… so you can keep on playing!

Cheers

;-)

There is a popular BDSM meme that has been floating around for years, “A sub needs to feel wanted. A Dom wants to feel needed.” This pretty much, generally, sums up the D/s dynamic including DD/lg. This is not to be confused with co-dependence whatsoever.

The tug of war bewteeen wanting and needing drives both partners in the delicate and hungered dance of their relationship.

As a Dom, I thrive on the steady stream of communication from my sub; pics, texts, voice mails, Kiks, Skypes and Tumblr messages. It lets me know I am still part of the relationship, I am still important in their life, they still look to me for Dominance and they still needs me.

In turn, my caring, affection, attention and being their biggest cheerleader makes her feel wanted, cherished and loved.

These mutual acts of wanting and needing creates the emotional bond we all live for. When they are absent, it all spells trouble.

This is what makes online relationships and long distance relationships (LDR) so very, very difficult. It all depends on communication technology. Can you imagine trying to edge a sub via postal mail? God help you when Sunday rolls around and there isn’t any postal delivery.

When your partner goes silent, stops sending you cute pics or even texts, the effect can be devastating. It breeds a fierce and ugly emotion we know as DOUBT.

Make no mistake, DOUBT is a motherfucker.

For me personally, I have abandonment issues from childhood (thanks Grandfather) and when my partner stops communicating, DOUBT rides me like a mechanical bull - it is relentless, never-ending and often destructive. But for anyone, DOUBT is always waiting in the darkness, lurking there and growing with every tick of the clock since the last message was received.

The foundation of any flavor of BDSM relationship is communication, it is a must have, it is the top of the list for a rewarding relationship. Because of the ying-yang of the wanting and needing of BDSM, a relationship cannot survive long on when communication ceases. The sub’s needs go unfulfilled and the Dom’s wants are squelched.

So subs, text your Dom and Doms, you do the same.

That is why needy girls should always be prized in the BDSM community, they want you to know they love you.

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A lot of the time when I’m little I only get to be little for a short period of time.  I’m typically pulled out of little space because my daddy talks to me like an adult.  Here are a few things to remember to allow your little to stay little.

Only talk about little things- this doesn’t mean that you both have to use baby voices (you can if you like, but you don’t have to).  Just keep the subject matter kid-friendly and don’t ask them any grown-up questions.

Don’t ask your little to do adult things- of course, they can still help out with chores, but just do it in a fun way just as you would with a kiddo.  You wouldn’t want your little leaving their toys everywhere.  However, don’t ask them to do super grown-up things like drive.

Don’t allow them to act like a grown-up- this means no adult tv, no using dangerous objects (like the stove or knives), and no talking like a big kid.

Keep them entertained- you can either do this yourself by talking to them, playing with them, or teaching them something, or you can give them an activity to keep them busy like put on a movie, ask them to color you a picture, or give them a worksheet to complete.

Dress them up little- putting them in little or just kind of childish clothes can help them get into a little mindset.

Don’t forget their senses- cover them in baby lotion or baby powder so they can smell babyish, put on childish music or read them a story so that they hear childish things, and give them kid foods like pb&j or baby food like applesauce so they taste childish tastes.

Make them feel comfortable- many littles worry about being a bother to their caregiver when their little or they feel as though they’re annoying.  Help them feel comfortable and encourage them to be little.  If that believe you like them being little they’ll be far more likely to stay little.

daddy: *calls me by my first name instead of princess or babygirl*

Including the OP. Because, yeah, someday, daisybug.