âThe Art of Askingâ- Amanda Palmer
Everyone struggles with asking, either for favors, money, or just a simple introduction, and itâs this ongoing feud within the individual that Amanda Palmer dictates to be an issue of maintaining a leveled sense of self-comfort. Expecting the answer of a ânoâ and the insecurity that lies beyond that are what causes individuals to be disconnected from others as he or she feels as though a simple question would be burdening to others and that a response would be more of a liability than an answer. Palmer said it herself that she was never afraid of asking. Whether her request would be as obscene as asking for a strangerâs tampon or as grand as asking the entire internet for her financial backing, Palmer was comfortable with herself enough to find that initiative to ask others for help and to be that perceived âfailureâ in the eyes of others. But she reasons. She reasons her way out of that rabbit hole of distress and insecurities, knowing that a woman would have one of those days, that it would come to be her turn to ask for whichever object sheâs in need of whether it be a pen or a tampon, and that these things will eventually happen.Â
It is okay to ask, and Palmer emphasizes this importance despite how simple the thought really is. Being able to ask and to accept the foreseen ânoâsâ are what enables oneself to live above that insecurity as a potential burden to society. The relationship in jeopardy, the fear of how others would perceive you, and the expectations that society has placed upon you are just some factors that play the larger role in dissuading someone from asking. In Palmerâs case, she felt as though she would be a financial burden on Neil and despite being his wife, Palmer refused to acknowledge the help that she could receive from Neil. It took the understanding of her circumstances, the nagging words of her friends, and a sounded conversation between the couple to finally allow Palmer to realize that it is okay to ask for help when the case is clear that on the other end of her cry for help, there is someone whoâs willing to lend the hand. A relationship can never be stronger than for both parties to understand the faults and cracks between them, and asking each other for help is simply bridging that understanding as this method of communicating distress would only strengthen the relationship. As a society, we need to to take on the supportive roles and help build these healthy relationships to strengthen our network, and we need to understand that these roles exist as a part of a societal resource that can only be tapped through the art of simply asking.Â

















