Hip Bones Are Hip

are 18 or older

have an eating disorder

post sweetspo 💝 not so much meanspo 💔

encourage/promote/support recovery

but aren’t in recovery yourself !

are team tea 🍵 not coffee ☕

feel alone in this and just want someone to understand

are addicted to memes and vines

because my dash is dead.

How to Recognize Abuse

**Emotional Abuse of Men

**Sexual Assault of Men and Boys

**Men Can Be Victims of Abuse, Too

**Domestic Violence Against Men - Know the Signs

**Information for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

**Help for Battered Men

**Battered Men, Battered Husbands

**For Male Survivors of Rape and Sexual Abuse

**Male Survivors of Incest and Sexual Child Abuse

**Help for Men Who Are Being Abused

Help Lines (Phone and Text Chat)

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (or 1-800-787-3224 for TTY)

National Dating Abuse Hotline: 1-866-331-9474

National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673

National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-237-8255

Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men: 1-888-743-5754 (US and Canada)

Hopeline Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-784-2433

National Hotline for Victims of Crimes: 1-855-484-2846

National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888

Polaris Human Trafficking Text Line: Text “BEFREE” to 233733

**1in6/RAINN Chat for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

Support Groups

**1in6 Support Groups

Male Survivor Support Groups

Pandora’s Aquarium - Chat (includes chats specifically for men)

Pandora’s Aquarium - Forums (includes forums specifically for men)

How to Find a Shelter

Domestic Shelters Search (shelter locator with filters to find shelters specifically for male survivors)

SAFE (located in Austin, TX, but states they can help people find resources/shelters in their area)

How to Find a Therapist

**Male Survivor Therapist Directory

Mental Health Services Locator

Resources for and About the Abuse of Kids/Teens

Love is Respect Hotline: 1-866-331-9474 (Hotline for teens)

Darkness to Light Helpline (Sexual Abuse): 1-866-367-5444

Darkness to Light Text Line: Text “LIGHT” to 741741

ChildHelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453

Children of the Night Hotline (Children in Prostitution): 1-800-551-1300

National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929

Covenant House Nineline (Homeless Youth): 1-800-999-9999

Stop it Now Hotline: 1-888-773-2362 (for adults concerned about the welfare of a child)

Jennifer Ann’s Group (for teens experiencing dating violence)

Other Resource Lists 

(While I tried to include the most helpful resources I could here (i.e., resources that lend themselves to one-on-one communication, individual reading, etc.), there are plenty of other great resources, including regional resources, listed in these links. Some of the resources are specific to men and others aren’t, but they are all helpful for male survivors.)

**Male Survivor (regional, international, and online resources)

**Husband Battering: Men and Domestic Violence

**Help for Battered Men: Online Resources

**Help for Battered Men: National and International Resources

Better lock it in your pocket taking this one to the grave

If I show you, then I know you won’t tell what I said

‘Cause two can keep a secret if one of them is dead”

-Ana talking to us

We need to keep this secret, we have to be safe and keep going. You can do this!

I tried to end my life on October, 3rd, 2017, this was my 13th attemt on my life.

Had I died I would not have started dating my current girlfriend

I wouldn’t have gotten to see my baby cousin be born

I wouldn’t have finally accepted my sexuality

I wouldn’t have made the decision to take steps to start recovery

I wouldn’t be able to be there for my little sister when she needs me

I wouldn’t be able to graduate

I wouldn’t be able to see my family ever again

I wouldn’t be able to go out at night and look at the stars

I wouldn’t be able to have weird 3 a.m conversations with my girlfriend

I wouldn’t be able to see My little sisters soccer games

I wouldn’t be able to see the snow or rain again

I wouldn’t be able to see flowers bloom

I wouldn’t get to be here for pumpkin season

I wouldn’t get to celebrate Halloween

I wouldn’t be able to bake or cook anymore

I wouldn’t be able to go the mountains anymore

I wouldn’t be able to love someone who loves me back

If I ended my life I wouldn’t be able to do the things I enjoy or care about the most

What would have happened

My little sister would have been crushed

My family would have to go into debt to even try to cover the costs of my funeral

My current girlfriend, we were friends before dating, would have been devastated

My older sister would fall back into a severe depression

My family wouldn’t be the same

Your boyfriend holds your fragile hand and leads you into the store. You catch your reflection in the marble walls, and you look like the ethereal spirit of a maiden: slender and graceful, gliding over the floor, practically floating.

The jewelry salesman opens up a glass case and pulls out a diamond bracelet. “Try this one on.” He starts to unclasp it, but realizes that it would slip right over your thin hands. And it does, the gems falling and catching the light around your wrist like water. Your boyfriend looks at him. “We can have it made smaller, right?”

A necklace of pure blue sapphires spills over your collarbones, cascading over their knife-sharp edges. The man was almost afraid to give it to you, worrying that the weight of the metal would pull your waifish body to the ground. But you stand tall and strong, like a runway model in your size 00 skirt and XXS blouse.

He holds a mirror up to you. The girl staring back at you has doe eyes and long lashes, made to look even larger in a slim, tiny face. Your cheekbones give you a look like royalty, and the $10,000 filigree of diamonds looks natural on your prominent breastbone. Your perfect lips spread into a smile. “I want this one,” you whisper, like speaking any louder would crack your smooth, porcelain skin.

Your boyfriend touches your hair. “It’s yours.”

you are 14+

you have an ed of any kind

you vape/smoke

you need to get back on track

you enjoy music (perhaps specifically rap, alternative punk, glam rock, etc)

you need a little help staying on track

you need a motivating friend

your cw is less than 160

willing to text outside of tumblr*