Don't forget to ask for permission first.

Remove the kink. The sex. The floggers. The bondage. Remove all of that; at the end of the day what you have is the rawness of two people who are so acutely incorporated with each others emotional and psychological makeup that this is what is all that is needed. The depth of connection in a true D/s is not necessarily a common one. This; us … what we are … is built on a foundation of genuine honesty between two people, the need and desire to find someone who understands how your brain and body operate without judgement and full, open, and true acceptance. The mutual respect and need to have someone on the same wave length as yourself.

If the sex ended today, I would still be His without question or hesitation. I would remain his faithful submissive, his partner, his lover, the one he can tell anything in the world to, the one he can share his fears, the one who will build him up as high as possible and never, ever do anything to tear him down. I would still always need my Sir for guidance, partnership, strength, protection, emotional stability, support, encouragement, discipline, and so much more. What we are far exceeds the bedroom.

A poster in Fet suggested maybe Tumblr would revise their decision, and we could all stay.  Much as I regret the inevitable fracture and loss of our community, I would never stay here. 

I have no desire to give our blood, sweat and tears to anchor a business that trades on those dreams and then actively rejects our fundamental freedoms and the expression of those thoughts and desires that bring us together.

I will stay on tumblr long enough to light a beacon for those who are fleeing in hopes of a better life, who might wish to find us elsewhere.  

What’s inside of us will grow in new spaces. Some things will be lost, some new wonders gained, but we carry the spark not tumblr.  We carry it within us, and it will take hold and grow in any welcoming home.

SpiceNWolf have already found new homes and will continue to look for the “most ideal” as a new home.  Submissive Coffee Club and The Dominant Prompts will work with the other admins to make new homes as well. 

If you are looking for us, you can find us at:

BDSMlr  - SpiceNWolf  

Kinkspace - SpiceNWolf

Fet - Markingly and PetWolfKitten

Wolf is right, though. It’s the holidays and I’m feeling the pressure. It was hard enough keeping up with Tumblr, and the prospect of trying to manage several new medium is making me panic. Add to that the fact that I’m frighteningly antisocial, and you get the picture.

Over the years, we’ve made so many friends here, and lots of you already have my email address, and some even my phone number. If I simply disappear for a while, please know that I miss all of you, and am just trying to retain what little sanity I had left.

Much love always,

Well they say all good things must end so it is natural that Tumblr has decided to kill off a large number of users. It was too much of a good thing. To those that follow me let me just say thanks and I hope that I have brought you some good times. To those lovely ladies that I follow, thanks heaps for giving me much pleasure over the past almost 5 years.

In two weeks I assume tumblr will kill this blog along with heaps of others, one wonders how that will actually happen. I feel sorry for the individuals who use tumblr to support their lifestyle and those who just like to express themselves in a way that “Victorian Britain” wouldn’t have approved. This is censorship and the imposition of another’s arbitrary standards on the whole is both discriminatory and breeches the common law concept of free speech.

But it you have the cash you can impose anything, ask any politician!

However, I will continue to post till the end and then move to another blog I have that should survive.

Thursday was the most mentally exhausting day I think I have ever had in my life. You brought me into a head space I don’t think I could have ever imagine existing. My brain, my body, my everything was absolutely spent. The entire day was everything I had been wanting for so long. And I didnt even expect it…. we had so many other things to do that day - I wasn’t expecting any play time at all, moreless an entire day spent just absorbed in each other. It was much needed and wanted for me, and I am sure you feel the same ☺ The next day I was still foggy and, to be honest, I still do not remember much. I couldn’t tell you where all we went when we took a break. I know some things we did but the details are hazy. I loved it. Being that high and that satisfied is a feeling I will always tell you I wish you could experience. And I can’t help but think the more I get off into my own little world, the more it does for you because I can sense your entire focus change….it’s like you become more intent on the task at hand and you go from relaxed and lenient, to more stoic and unforgiving - firm, and very calculated. That is the part I love when you get to where there is no negotiation, no smiles and silliness - you just do as you please and theres no discussion and debate

It’s the level of Dominant in you that makes me fall that much more in love with you because I just see how absolutely perfect for my being you are. 😍

Thursday was the most mentally exhausting day I think I have ever had in my life. You brought me into a head space I don’t think I could have ever imagine existing. My brain, my body, my everything was absolutely spent. The entire day was everything I had been wanting for so long. And I didnt even expect it…. we had so many other things to do that day - I wasn’t expecting any play time at all, moreless an entire day spent just absorbed in each other. It was much needed and wanted for me, and I am sure you feel the same ☺ The next day I was still foggy and, to be honest, I still do not remember much. I couldn’t tell you where all we went when we took a break. I know some things we did but the details are hazy. I loved it. Being that high and that satisfied is a feeling I will always tell you I wish you could experience. And I can’t help but think the more I get off into my own little world, the more it does for you because I can sense your entire focus change….it’s like you become more intent on the task at hand and you go from relaxed and lenient, to more stoic and unforgiving - firm, and very calculated. That is the part I love when you get to where there is no negotiation, no smiles and silliness - you just do as you please and theres no discussion and debate

It’s the level of Dominant in you that makes me fall that much more in love with you because I just see how absolutely perfect for my being you are. 😍

They don’t just work from down the corridor though.

They work from anywhere in the world.

Think about all the possibilities…

Yesterday, I had to give myself a stern talking to about my position as His sub. I have been needy, which is normal - and kind of cute, but I have also been a bit more pushy than I need to be with my being needy. I realized the other day that I have been asking for play time on a regular basis and telling my Sir what my wants are …. but I haven’t stopped to really consider what HE is needing. He has work, we have projects around the house, little kids running around, homework (he is finishing his bachelors, and I am SO proud of him!), his mother and his grown children are needing him for things…the list is endless for this man. I have become discouraged when plans of having time to play were made and then ultimately were changed (because life happens – adulting sucks sometimes!) and I was making it about me: Why can’t he find time for me when I keep telling him I need this? Why can’t he hurry up through whatever project so that we can play today? ….things like that.

Then it hit me.

I have been horribly selfish, and absolutely not fulfilling my duties to him. I am not helping, or supporting him with my attitude. I am not being my best for him when I am trying to make it about me … all that could possibly do is create more stress on him and making him feel like he has another thing added to his plate that he feels obligated to uphold. That isn’t what I want. Nothing in this world is so important for me to ever want to add anything to his plate with any negative connotation. He isn’t ignoring me - he loves me and treats me like women dream to be treated. There is no change in his action or his affection toward me … he just simply does not have the time, and is not in the mood for long out scene play time. I should honor that, accept that, and be happy with that. But, my inner masochist is sometimes a bitch and wants nothing more than to be pleased and won’t shut up. That is what I had to put in check. There has genuinely been no reason for my ridiculous thoughts and whining.

Why has he not said anything to me about it? Well, there are numerous reasons I’m sure. Maybe he was hoping that I would correct it myself. Maybe he doesn’t have the time right now to check me on my shit (and if that’s the case, please believe it will get brought up later, he won’t forget). Maybe he hasn’t noticed because I have tried to not make it so obvious to him. Maybe he hasn’t figured out a way yet to approach it with me? Regardless of the reason, I noticed it and I need to stop that nonsense immediately. 

I have been trying to listen better and changing a few things up that I have been slacking in - and all while doing that, I still have not been honoring him and respecting him by keeping his needs in line with where they need to be on my priority list. Putting my selfish thoughts first is not doing any of that. I love him with my whole self, and sometimes when life gets challenging it can be hard to see when you’re being selfish - and I definitely saw that I was absolutely not being his good girl. 

Being in a D/s 24/7 isn’t about daily “whips and chains” - it’s so much more than that. And I guess the masochist in me needs to calm the hell down and realize that.

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my tits jiggle so much in this