my compliments to the chef(s)

Lazily resting their head on their arms at a desk or table

Stretching so that their shirt rides up, exposing a sliver of their torso

Sleeping sprawled across a bed like a contented cat

Squatting to look at a bug or flower

Awkwardly trying to open a snack at midnight without waking anyone around them

PS: Everyone is allowed to selfship in whatever way they want!! For selfshippers that feel like many of the posts you see are unrealistic and don’t reflect you and your F/O’s relationship, here are some honest and nuanced messages.

“Your F/O would never get angry with you.” -> When your F/O gets mad, they have a special tone reserved only for you. It holds you gently even when it’s firm, and maintains control without sacrificing honesty. The depth of their affection for you is evident in so many ways, including the way they approach conflict with you. Even when the feelings might be negative, you can always see the love attached to them.

“Your F/O would never think you’re weird.” -> Your F/O LOVES how weird you are!! Your uniqueness is what draws them to you, and sets you apart from the sea of people they could have chosen. Whether or not your quirks get on their nerves sometimes is insignificant; they’re just so happy to have them all memorized.

“Your F/O would never overstep your boundaries!” -> Your F/O watches you and listens to you closely. Even if they’re not perfect, they notice small changes within you and care about you—even if it means adapting to things they’re not used to doing. They intend to keep learning more about you for the rest of their life, and there’s no sign of them ever getting bored. They always repair things with you, and this will never ever change.

“Your F/O would never feel put out by you.” -> You are worth the effort. Every single time. Even when the tasks themselves feel burdensome, you are always worth the effort it takes to help you and take care of you. It is paid back tenfold every time they get to see you joyful and healthy. [Disabled self shippers I am looking at you!]

Your f/o doesn’t wish you were better at masking. They don’t wish you acted “more normal” or blended in more with everyone else. They know that sometimes you stand out without meaning to, and that it can leave you feeling awkward or like everyone is judging you. But when they look at you, they don’t see someone who needs to change. They see someone who’s genuine, lovable, and worth being proud of. They’ll always be happy to stand beside you, hold you close, and love you exactly as you are…never asking you to become anyone else.

Imagine you and your cartoon/anime f/o's doing a car wash fundraiser because the show runners ran out of money for the animation

shoutout to disabled selfshippers!

ᯓ★ self shippers with invisible disabilities

ᯓ★ self shippers who can’t indulge with their f/o as much as they want because their health gets in the way

ᯓ★ self shippers who suffer yet can’t get help or a proper diagnosis because the healthcare system sucks

ᯓ★ self shippers who have a hard time being active in the community for various reasons (low energy/fatigue, burnout, pain flareups, etc.) despite wanting to

you are seen. you are loved. i’m glad you’re here, no matter how frequent or infrequent you pop in. thank you for being part of our community.

your f/os love you so much, and i know they’re beyond happy to support you through anything and everything.

you won’t walk this exhausting path alone. they won’t let that happen.

Maybe you're just out running errands, leaving your f/o to deal with their thoughts as minutes painfully feel like hours to them. They lean against their seat, closing their eyes and thinking about all your perfect features, only making their heart race further.

Once you return, it takes all of your f/o's self control to not instantly tackle you onto the ground. Instead, they wrap their limbs around you, squeezing ever so slightly as they try to have you as close to them as physically possible.

Maybe you're at work/school or handling other responsibilities that may take some time. Your f/o decides to kill time by doing something nice for you to come home to! Handling a few chores, making or ordering a nice meal for you both, running errands and buying you a gift or two.

Once you get home you're met with a cozy and welcoming environment, crowned with your f/o expectantly smiling at you as they invite you to take a seat and relax. They'll even fetch you your favorite pajamas/comfy clothes if you'd like them to.

Maybe they're sitting idly by, wandering when you'll revisit their game/show/movie/book/etc. As you go on with your day, they make sure all the details about themselves and their surroundings are perfectly set up for your arrival. They also make sure to take some time to themselves so they can think of everything you've both been through recently, daydreaming about what's next for you two.

Once they notice you're browsing through their source, they ready themselves to catch your attention and take your breath away. Even with their usual behavior and presence, something inside you insists that there's a certain look in their eyes this time around.

Maybe you're the missing piece of their heart, yet to meet one another. They spend their days dreaming of someone who's exactly like you. The feeling of your frame matching theirs so well every time you embrace one another. The way your voice and laughter warms their heart and soul. Your scent, your smile, your personality, your interests. They want all of it, and you're bound to find one another eventually.