Sleepy F/O asking you in a tired voice to come to bed.

Sleepy F/O holding onto you like a teddy bear.

Sleepy F/O’s breaths growing more and more relaxed as they finally drift off with their face in the crook of your neck.

Good night, F/O. Sweet dreams.

PS: Everyone is allowed to selfship in whatever way they want!! For selfshippers that feel like many of the posts you see are unrealistic and don’t reflect you and your F/O’s relationship, here are some honest and nuanced messages.

“Your F/O would never get angry with you.” -> When your F/O gets mad, they have a special tone reserved only for you. It holds you gently even when it’s firm, and maintains control without sacrificing honesty. The depth of their affection for you is evident in so many ways, including the way they approach conflict with you. Even when the feelings might be negative, you can always see the love attached to them.

“Your F/O would never think you’re weird.” -> Your F/O LOVES how weird you are!! Your uniqueness is what draws them to you, and sets you apart from the sea of people they could have chosen. Whether or not your quirks get on their nerves sometimes is insignificant; they’re just so happy to have them all memorized.

“Your F/O would never overstep your boundaries!” -> Your F/O watches you and listens to you closely. Even if they’re not perfect, they notice small changes within you and care about you—even if it means adapting to things they’re not used to doing. They intend to keep learning more about you for the rest of their life, and there’s no sign of them ever getting bored. They always repair things with you, and this will never ever change.

“Your F/O would never feel put out by you.” -> You are worth the effort. Every single time. Even when the tasks themselves feel burdensome, you are always worth the effort it takes to help you and take care of you. It is paid back tenfold every time they get to see you joyful and healthy. [Disabled self shippers I am looking at you!]

even if you're closeted, your f/o sees and supports you! they will even find small and subtle ways to express that, such as using you preferred pronouns around safe people, giving you gender euphoric compliments, or buying you clothes that will help you feel more like yourself at home <3 you're not a burden and you'll never be one to them. they love seeing you express your true self and how you're changing into who you want to be

Imagine sharing a juice box with your f/o

For my selfshippers who have a less talked about gender identity

For those who are genderfluid, bigender, agender

For those who use neoprouns or have gender apathy

For everyone who has an identity that is seen as a "transition" stage for other more accepted genders

For you who has been told to "choose" or that you'll eventually change because "no one stays as that identity forever"

You are extremely valid and all of your f/os believe so as well

They'll never expect or pressure you into choosing a more "acceptable" verison of expression or gender. They respect you and use your preferred pronouns -- They'll find cute pins, stickers, anything that has your flag and gift it to you! They'll find characters that share your identity and go, "Hey, that's you! :)"

Whether your f/o is romantic, platonic, or familial, they love you so much and want to see you happy. They're proud that you've found an identity that makes you feel seen and comfortable.

You deserve to exist in this space as much as everyone else

your f/o wants you to be happy by the way. they’ll do anything to see a smile on your face or to hear you laugh. they’ll make you your favorite meal. they’ll watch your favorite movies with you. they’ll cuddle you and shower you with kisses. you always deserve to feel happy and safe and comfortable, and no one believes that more than them.