am I fucked up? 100%

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I think that a lot of people focus on the negatives of Robby, (Which yes he is deeply flawed, that’s part of his entire arc)

I think that fanon robby, mostly post season two, has kind of been turned into this hateful, spiteful man, and overall just a dick. When yes, he had his bad moments, a lot of them over the course of s2. As I said before, that was part of his entire storyline.

But, I think that viewers have this way of seeing robby through one lens. We don't zoom out enough to see an overall character instead of him in very specific scenarios and dynamics.

To me, one of the of the most interesting things, especially character wise, about The Pitt is the fact that it takes place on one single day.

We’re getting one day of these people’s lives, if this was real life and not a tv show it would be nearly impossible and irresponsible to completely characterize them from that. (Yes, I know that’s like entirely the point of the show, but i feel the dramatics flowing so I'm gonna keep going)

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Let’s talk about Samira

His treatment of her is bad and I HATE it. (my shayla please come back)

There's the reasoning of it, that he completely hates himself, sees himself in her, worse sees his better self in her and projects that hatred and jealousy onto her. There's no excuse for his behavior towards her. Reasoning doesn't equal justification. Let me make sure I make that thought clear.

I feel like I notice a lot of the fandom seeing Robby as a character through the lens of that relationship only. Which is an easy thing to do with how volatile that relationship is!

But, I do feel like it's important to zoom out and see him as his own stand alone character. And, to even see him through the lenses of his other relationships, platonic or romantic. There's so much more to see!!!!

Season one is robby’s most haunted day, the day is already bad in memory, then it becomes presently worse with Pittfest and Jake.

Season 2 is the day he’s basically deciding when, how and where he’s end his life. this is a bad day for him. not a “normal” bad day of working in healthcare. these days are genuinely haunted for him.

Other characters are facing their own challenges and arcs that’s bad for them also but, they are not facing the same things.

In season two, we see multiple characters pull robby aside say things like “What’s wrong with you today?”, “You’re not yourself today.” , "I'm worried about you."

This is not his baseline in season one or two. He is not always this man.

These are the story telling clues flashing in our face telling us to pay attention, this is wrong. This man is suffering and drowning.

It just feels wrong to completely hone in on these days and more so season two specifically. (But like yes, what else are we supposed to do when there’s 2 season which is in turn 2 days? I understand that fully!)

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Now lets talk relationships-

To me, fanon doctor robby has really been turned into this avoidant (which YES he is the most avoidant soul, I’m gonna get there) who borders on an emotional tyrant. sometimes coming across as cruel in relationships. From what I've seen, he seems to be continually described as a kind of “hit it and quit it guy.” Overall, there seems to be a theme of he's aggressive, demanding, and dominant

We know he had a long term relationship with Janey Malloy. We don't have much information on how or why it ended but, we can make the assumption it was pretty amicable. Also, the fact that he not only chose to sick around for Jake, but the fact that Janey would allow that.

At one point in his life it seems like Robby wasn't a runner.

Janey continues to worry about him, asking Jake to make sure she's okay because he's worried about him. Robby has amassed so many people that care about him so much it's almost impossible to agree with the majority of fanon takes.

Next, we see his relationship with Collin’s. He shows her a care that we don't really see him have with everyone. Even at the moments he's not being "soft" with her he has an obvious demeanor change when interacting with her.

But, overall we see him kind of tender hearted with her. He makes a “scary” call with a patient and says it’s on him if it goes wrong, keeping her safe. He listens to her, at time chases her around just wanting to be around her.

He even panics and asks dana why Collin’s doesn’t want to talk to him. Asking What's wrong and what he did?

Like I said he’s known to be this avoidant guy and there’s a ton of truth in that. Most of that is attributed to his depression, isolation and grief (as is his entire character arc) but, also we see him desire a relationship with Collin's. For connection still, in the same way he says he still has Janeys number saved in his phone.

It could maybe be assumed that Robby wasn't always avoidant.

He was abandoned by his mother at a young age which could've made him much more anxiously attached in his youth, not always avoidant. (please bear with my analysis and the psychology of it all lol I only know the few things I know.)

For young men, mothers are usually the first people who they identify emotional safety with. Being abandoned by said mother would put that part of him into fight or flight constantly, giving him a very disorganized attachment style. Probably either anxious attachment, avoidant attachment or both. Especially since we can infer that he never got any mental health even when he was young.

Back to Collins, the ambulance bay scene between them is very important. She in less words, basically tells Robby she accidentally got pregnant during their relationship and chose to abort it. - From his conversation with Samira in season two, we know he wants children and a family.

But, during that conversation with Collins he shows no anger or resentment towards her. Comforting her, telling her that "the guy" would forgive her. His jump to comforting her is immediate. The main thing he actually expresses is that he wishes more than anything he'd forgive herself.

Next, his relationship that’s shown with Noelle is brief, But we can always analyze!!!! This is the only relationship we know of taking place in season which is his “worst” season emotionally. He’s depressed, trying his best to leave for his suicide quest and not break down before then. HE'S SO KIND TO HER - which yes bar is in hell but work with me.

Now yes, he does kind of “leave” her. but it’s implied that they discussed it and they weren’t serious (L robby), and he does invite her to go - whether that was a super empty offer is up to the viewer to decide. (To me, it was obviously a throw away offer but I'm including it anyways) He then tells her it’s not her fault and actually tries to make her believe it.

He even he drops by her desk and pretends to tie is shoe so he can talk to her. Thats a kind, dorky man thats screaming for connection.

Even in his avoidant attachment, he does actively work in relationships to not hurt his partners. - which cannot be said for everyone. (As a chronic avoidant myself TRUST. ME.)

In some situations, more so Collin's it seems almost like he's the one being pushed out more than he's the one avoiding. - which picking partners like that is also part of avoidance and "punishing" yourself for wanting a relationship. - speaking from an avoidant's perspective so that may not be true for everyone. In a conversation Noelle has with Dana, she mentions that Robby sleeps with the TV on. That tells us along with everything else that he's genuinely petrified of being alone, especially with his thoughts. He can't take it.

Robby isn't emotionally unavailable because he doesn't care. he cares too much.

Now, let me make it clear that I'm not saying Robby would be an easy partner to have. HE WOULD NOT. He handles his emotional turmoil sometimes by pushing his negative qualities to the front. In turn, sometimes hurting others. It's wrong and frustrating and a bad coping mechanism but that to me is entirely different from being mean for just sake of being cruel.

I also think fanon has a tendency to grab onto his personality of being chief and push that into his intimate relationships. which I'd argue makes a case for my thinking - He has to be on so often and so strong at work that it'd make sense for him to be much softer within a relationship. Still quick to anger and frustration, but in very different ways. (also yeah I'm a hypocrite talking about fanon stuff and then immediately doing the same thing. all love!)

We can even see this with his friendships (or non-canon relationships based on your shipping headcanons). He yell in conversations with Jack and Dana and then almost immediately after crumbles.

Robby also is actually very accommodating. During the Collins conversation he could've turned it on himself, got upset, and centered his hurt.

Same with Noelle when he explains that his "running" has nothing to do with her.

Honestly, same with Jake during the conversation when Jake expresses his anger towards him for Leah.

Professionally and emotionally he takes on responsibility and pain for people all. the. time.

He's willing to absorb blame and carry it for everyone, romantic, platonic or familial alike. Which leads to his arc in season 2 where he ultimately gets to the end of his rope and has no where to put all this stuff.

The Pitt to me seems to be a show that wants to show the best and worst of people. They’re showing you how a fundamentally good person, who dedicates themselves to helping others can become completely unrecognizable due to grief, trauma and depression but that doesn’t make them a bad person.