I have a crush on my art history professor and I don't know what to do
Hello!! There’s not a lot of information here so I’ll try and cover all the bases.
If the issue here is that your professor is of a gender that you were previously not attracted to and you are confused, please don’t worry! If you are interested in exploring bisexuality or pansexuality, tumblr is a pretty great place. Have a scroll through this blog to start, and then see all the A+ blogs I reblog from. Sexuality is fluid, so it is perfectly valid to feel this way now, and it is also perfectly valid to say, even a month from now, that you no longer feel this way any more. ONLY A SITH DEALS IN ABSOLUTES and everyone is constantly growing and changing.
If the issue is the crush itself, then I’m going to jump right in here and say NOTHING. You do NOTHING. I obviously don’t have all the circumstances, but I’m just going to quickly run through the bits that give me alarm bells.
1. Your professor probably doesn’t know you. Heck, when I was in college, I was in lectures of over a hundred people. My lecturers couldn’t pick me out of a line-up. If you make some romantic overture towards them, you’re only likely to embarrass them and get hurt.
2. Even if I’m wrong about that, and they have been making bedroom-eyes at you and sending “I want you I need you oh baby oh baby” signals your way, NOPE. NOPE NOPE NOPE. They are your professor, they are in a position of authority over you. Not a good idea, and the fact that they think that it is is a black mark. Additionally, it’s probably a part of their employment contract that dating is forbidden between professors and students. They could lost their job. And YOU don’t need all that mess. What if the Board of Education or whoever finds out about it and wonders if you really earned your art history grades? Nope. Just nope.
3. I’m going to make an educated guess here and say that you don’t hang out with your professor during one-to-one downtime. Would it be accurate to say that the only time you see them is when they’re giving hour long lectures on their specialised subject to a room hanging on to their every word? Those aren’t natural circumstances. You’re seeing them at their best, in a rehearsed scenario. They could be an absolute shitlord in real life. You don’t have a crush on THEM you have a crush on the personality they exhibit during those brief classes, not to mention (WE ALL DO IT) the fantasies that you have projected onto them - (just-in-case disclaimer: Obviously I am not de-legitimising a same-sex crushes here, this applies to everyone who has ever crushed on a celebrity, a teacher, someone they don’t really know)
4. It’s just a crush! It will fade away, I promise you. Once the end of the year comes, and you’re out of that classroom, they will start to slip from your mind and you’ll forget all about them.
OK AND FINALLY if the question pertained more to “I want to not like them how do I do that” ohohohoh buddy. Friend buddy pal. If I knew that, my life would be at least 60% better now let me tell you. All I can suggest is that you try and project what you’re feeling onto an imaginary character. Find someone you think is good looking in a TV show or a movie and be like “yes, THIS is the shit lord I shall obsess over”. Don’t do it to a real person! ESPECIALLY not someone who might really be interested in you, because you’ll get confused and they’ll get confused and it’s not really fair on them. Just stick to the imaginary hotties that you can daydream about all day long.
If you don’t think you can do that, well, just take comfort in the fact that this is not a forever thing, it’s going to go away as soon as the year ends, and for the moment you have a free reign to stare unabashedly at your professor for hour long stretches without being labelled a stalker.
If you need any more help, please hit me up!
