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i get this ask a lot and like. it’s a lil frustrating bc the whole reason ppl starting pushing everyone to put pronouns in their bio was so trans ppl weren’t outed or othered for having their pronouns listed.

but now it’s used as a dog whistle to lyk who’s “woke” and who isn’t (even tho plenty of the ppl w their pronouns in their bio are still bigoted in many ways). so now everyone is assumed to be cis and pressured into putting their pronouns in every social media they have, thus once again othering trans ppl and forcing them to out themselves

im not cis. im not entirely sure which pronouns i prefer or will use. ppl going “you should list your pronouns” either outs me or forces me to pick pronouns that may feel misgendering just to appease a largely cis crowd.

and it’s like. how do you know they’re cis!!!! yes, i get that transphobes hate the pronoun thing and always have dumbass responses but you can’t assume that everyone who doesn’t immediately divulge specific pronouns or isn’t comfortable sharing them is a cisgender transphobe. i know most ppl assume im a cis woman even tho im nonbinary and it’s disheartening how many ppl would label me transphobic(?) for saying i don’t have a preference on pronouns atm.

another tiktok was showing a clip of a group of people being asked their pronouns and they all said “literally anything it doesn’t matter to us” and all the comments were “why was the group of women so aggressive abt it :/ just say she/her” and one of the people from the clip had to comment and say “hey, we’re all questioning our gender rn so we don’t have an answer pls don’t assume we’re cis women” and they shouldn’t have to fucking do that just bc y’all decided you were entitled to out people!!

Glasses give you an immediate and blinding indication if your mask is not worn properly. If you wear glasses you are more likely to secure the mask tightly to ensure you dont fog up your glasses.

When I got Holly, I socialized her the same way I would have socialized a puppy. She got to meet a bunch of new people, she got taught how harnesses and leashes work, and she got exposed to a TON of ‘uncomfortable’ situations. Car rides? Exposure. Going with me to Petshmo? Exposure. Being around a large group of people? EXPOSURE! 

Wanna know the result? I now have a cat that’s perfectly comfortable going on walks, going on car rides, and actually prefers her leash to being in a carrier! She loves people, and she’s friendly and not shy or defensive even if the person approaching her is a total stranger. She likes going places, even the vets office, because those aren’t terrifying experiences to her anymore because she got used to a lot of the stimuli as a 5 month old kitten (which is how old she was when I adopted her from the shelter). Every person who meets her remarks about how friendly and confident she is. That’s directly a result of how I socialized her as a kitten.

My other two cats weren’t socialized this way and they’re skittish around other people, don’t really like going anywhere other than “home,” and would rather die than be on a leash. They fight going into their carriers (Holly sleeps in hers like it’s a bed), and going to the vet is a terrifying experience for them (I only take them places that I absolutely HAVE to). 

At first, the military wanted to reinforce those areas, because obviously that’s where the ground crews observed the most damage on returning planes. Until Hungarian-born Jewish mathematician Abraham Wald pointed out that this was the damage on the planes that made it home, and the Allies should armor the areas where there are no dots at all, because those are the places where the planes won’t survive when hit. This phenomenon is called survivorship bias, a logic error where you focus on things that survived when you should really be looking at things that didn’t.

Every time a state makes riding a motorcycle without a helmet illegal, the number of ER patients seriously injured in motorcycle accidents skyrockets. Every single time.