The Lunatic Tulpamancer

Billy “Aniki” Herrington died today at 48.

Seriously- talk it out, it’ll be okay.

Regards,

I see tons of people make a tulpa because they “need” someone to help them. They need someone there, and they turn to this. And that? That scares the fuck out of me.

It scares me because you won’t always need your tulpa. Life issues are a temporary thing, they’re something that happens and you move past it. Life gets better.

So they’ll support you, they’ll be there for you, all up to the point you’re feeling better and in control.

The question is, what then? What happens after you move past those issues?

Will you keep them around? Love them even though their “job” is done? Or will you toss them away?

A tulpa isn’t just there to fix your goddamn life problems, they are a person. And sure, as your friend, family, maybe even lover, they’ll be there. But you can’t just drop them after that. It’s supposed to be a life long thing. The rest of your life.

And when I see that someone wants a tulpa to fix their life issues, I wonder if they understand that.

yourself and your partner (obviously)

your host

your partner’s host / primary fronter in their system, if applicable

your host’s partner, if applicable

your partner’s host’s partner, if applicable

We don’t have experience with relationships outside the system, except for Vicki and her partner, in which case us hosts are also dating (and also one relationship years ago that was purely online and both hosts were single), but I could see big problems potentially arising if two tulpas in different systems are romantically involved but their hosts aren’t, especially if either host is involved with someone else.

Also, your host should be prepared for your partner and/or their host to nag them about giving you two more time together and making a big deal out of it. Hosts may end up trying to intervene like that even if both tulpas recognize it’s reached a point where they’re being too pushy and doing more harm than good.

I wouldn’t recommend it, personally, but then again I’m biased due to my own experiences and the fact that I’m a host. I’m sure it works out quite well in some cases.

Clearing Up the Controversy: Sentience, Sapience, Consciousness, and What Makes a Tulpa a Tulpa

What is a tulpa?

The purpose of this essay is to expose a few common misconceptions in the community. Phrases like, “tulpas are sentient imaginary friends” or “tulpamancy is subconscious,” while not always entirely wrong, could be more precisely phrased in order to better reflect the true phenomena. When it comes to explaining a concept like plurality or tulpamancy to an unfamiliar individual, every word can be the difference between garnering a positive understanding or creating confusion.

I’ve made every mistake in the book in the past and have lost too many friends, tarnished too many relationships, and missed too many opportunities through poor explanation. That being said, when you fail a lot, you learn a lot. Ergo, here are a few tough-learned, field-tested perspectives on several contested subjects.

See, your body is not just your body, nor is it just your life. Your experiences are shared, you are a collective. And thus, your body is also theirs. And likewise, if the body suffers- if you suffer- everyone suffers, as the body is shared. It’s a far larger responsibility than I feel we talk about.

Are you expected to be perfect? God, no, no one is. However, next time you think of doing something that might put the body at risk, think of who else you’re involving. 

You’re a ship. Either you’ll sail with pride or sink together.

I’m sure they’ll appreciate it! Take care now. ❤️