I don't think I'm ever going to fit into a community, in meatspace or elsewise. People repetitively turn out to be Too Much People on a scale from awkward disappointment to absolute horror, and I'm too neurodivergent to deal well with it.
There's also a hell of a lot of lip service and posturing about things which, when it comes time to actually cut abusers or stalkers or what have you out if the group or take action, people quietly back the problem people instead.
Actions tell you a lot more about who people are than words do.


















