Stages of Falling in Love with Michonne
When Michonne confronts Rick about his hallucinations, he puts his head down, almost like heâs embarrassed of the way heâs been falling apart. Itâs a vulnerable moment for him. Michonne counters that by showing him empathy, explaining that sheâs been in the same situation. And just like thatâĻthe tension between them is gone. Any doubt in Rickâs mind about the kind of person Michonne is, is gone. Carl likes her. He likes her.
What develops next is (aside from Rickâs low-key elation at having her around) Rickâs concern for her safety. And itâs not a one-time thing. At this point, he is driven to exasperation over her stubborn determination to continue searching for The Governor. But he doesnât say anything. Itâs not his place to.Â
In 4B, Michonne gets to Rickâs heart through Carl. Rick tells Michonne that Carl needs her, and yet seems surprised at her immediate willingness to beâĻwhatever Carl needs her to be. This jars and awes him, because it is a reflection of his own feelings about Carl.Â
It is also during this time that Michonne becomes Rickâs true right hand (as space previously occupied by Daryl). She, too, can fight by his side. She will have his back. She will save his life. But they connect on a different level because of one shared priority: Carl. He can trust her to prioritize Carlâs safety (and now Judithâs, of course) in any and all situations because she loves him as much as Rick does.
Up until this point in their journey, Rick has built his relationship with Michonne mainly as a slightly unhinged widower, and Old McDonald. Now, she has seen the side of him that will brutally murder a group of men who are threatening his sonâs life. When Rick tells her, âIâm okayâ, I perceive that to mean, Iâm still here. The man you know is still here. In this moment (another vulnerable one for Rick), Michonne gives him reassurance, without falter, that she knows who he is. Nothing has changed. She has always seen him, just as he has seen her. Â
âHe had a mission in his mind to take care of her need.â - Danai Gurira (about 6x10)
The above is a quote about the mints (obviously) but it applies to this moment as well. Rick could not go for one more minute, knowing he had the power to give Michonne something she needed..and not do it. âWe should go to Washington.â When he says this, something passes between him and Michonne. She looks at Rick in a little bit of disbelief, and he gives her a slight nod and the barest hint of a smileâĻbecause to do this for her makes him so happy. And just like with the mints, this moment warms her heart. And she offers him a look of gratitude and relief that is so powerful, he has to look away.Â
Here, Michonneâs words from the previous season finale are cemented. It is at this point that Rick understands that even when they are not âtogetherâ (when he is in one frame of mind, and she is in another) that she will be there to pull to fight by him, and to fight for him. He will always be worth that to her. Again, this is because she knows who he is, underneath the scars and the trauma. Knowing this, I believe, Rick is able to fall completely, irreversibly in love with Michonne.
