Sam Smith saying theyβre going to be misgendered til the day they die hit in such a deep way as a nonbinary person. Itβs something so specific to the nonbinary experience specifically. I went on a date with a trans woman recently who looked a little sad when I got misgendered by the waiter and asked βDoes that [the misgendering] happen a lot?β And I remember being slightly confused for a minute bc I genuinely hadnβt registered the misgendering. I go into public just under the assumption that Iβm going to be misgendered even by those with the best intentions.



















