Getting Back Together With Your Ex

Knowing how to make a long distance relationship work is much akin to knowing how to make a regular relationship work. Only with a long distance relationship, it becomes more crucial that you implement what you know about maintaining a strong relationship.

Long distance love affairs are as special as any other romantic relationship; however they come with the additional challenge of being apart from their partner by a considerable distance. For more info on building rapport in a romantic relationship, you should read THE LOVEMAP CODE.

There are some factors that need to be considered before you commit to this type of relationship. The challenges one has to overcome are as follows:

* High level of trust.

* Lack of face-to-face reactions on emotional issues. You cannot gauge your partner’s body language on important issues.

* You cannot monitor the behaviour of your partner, which may increase the chances manipulation (in case of cheating).

* Lack of physical connection.

* Boredom and loneliness brought about by different time zones.

Advantages that help make a long distance relationship work

* As they say “absence makes the heart grow fonder”. Being taken for granted is minimized..

* Understanding your partner’s nature and tastes are increased.

* You will have an increased space for the relationship as well as the partner to grow.

If you can create a healthy balance between the pros and cons related to this type of relationship, you can make it work in a great way. Here are some things you can do to help make it work.

* Always communicate and keep each other updated on daily routines.

* Send cards, letters, messages, and gifts when they are least expected to create a little spice.

* Set times for video and voice chats

* Surprise your partner by visiting whenever you have time to make an occasion more special.

If so, you should work towards rebuilding your social life to make sure this never happens again.Most people in a relationship tend to make the mistake in abandoning their social life and this is a no-no, as you will find out in THE LOVEMAP CODE. In this situation you want to have your friends in three reasons.

1. A person who has lots of friends is most likely to be more attractive towards the opposite sex than without friends.

2. Friends may offer you emotional support. Most women sometimes screw up by trying to have that emotional support from their partner. This is a big mistake which may cause their partner to lose attraction to them.

3. It will give you a life beyond your partner.

You have to start new hobbies if you want to put your life together. Such as:

· Taking a class. Cooking class may be a great idea, and get to meet some men. And when you meet your ex again, you may cook his favorite food, thus giving you some time together

· Work as volunteer. Men get attracted when they see some thing you passionately are doing.

· Be involved in a hobby club in your area.

· Dancing. Learning a skill such as ballroom dancing may be able to attract the other person.

· Yoga. Reduces you stress and enhances your posture.

· Music

· Playing a sport

If you want to get back together with your ex, then you need to learn how to read someone's lovemap correctly.

Reading it the wrong way: Let's say that you were a guy and you asked a girl what types of guys she likes. She tells you that she likes the smart, nerdy types and likes them because they're different. Because you happen to be more of a jock type, you immediately pull back and think that you don't have a chance with this girl.

Reading it the right way: Not all girls will give you as big a hint as the one in this example. You should pay attention toe the last line that she "likes them because they're different." This means that she's just looking for uniqueness as one of her lovemap specifications and that you don't have to turn yourself into a nerd just to please her.

Even if you were a jock type, you could still match her lovemap by showing her that you have a unique hobby or talent for example. Like if you learned how to play the harmonica when everyone else was into drums and guitars. Just show her something about you that makes you unique or different.

To get back with your ex, you first have to understand the one thing that governs all relationships – love. Some people think that love is a natural mysterious process that doesn’t have rules or that it can’t be controlled. However, psychology has shown that this process is not random at all, and there are rules. Here are some rules that should be understood and by following them you may increase the chances of making your ex fall for you again. For a clearer understanding, read THE LOVEMAP CODE by John Alex Clark

* Understanding the rule

Marketing is based on researching the costumer’s needs and then providing them the products which will satisfy these needs. If you have a better product but the customer doesn’t need it then he won’t be buying it. This is the same thing as with love. If you can manage to understand the person’s needs and wants you will be able to provide him/her the product that can satisfy these needs, and that would be you.

* The biggest mistake

Trying to impress your target by things that impress you yourself is one of the biggest mistakes everyone commits when trying to make someone fall in love with them. For instance, what impresses you may be your self confidence, so you may also be thinking that it will impress your target as well, which is a very big mistake.

In order to make a person love you or impress any person, you have to know more details about his/her fears, past experience, background and weak points. And by understanding the person’s needs and showing them that you may satisfy those needs then it is more likely that you can make a person fall in love with you.

Is this everything?

Definitely not. This is just one of the techniques that will help you make a person fall for you. There are other techniques that you may use to have a bigger chance to get the person you want. Here are some of them:

* If he love his parents act like them. If a person loves their parents so much, then it is more likely that he/she may be attached to a person who has a resemblance with their parents, or has a similar behaviour.

Trying to get an ex back can seem like an uphill battle beyond your ability. Your heart is hurt and your pride wounded. But you can bounce back from a one-sided breakup and can become a stronger person for it with the correct knowledge. For more detailed information, I would suggest reading John Alex Clark's THE LOVEMAP CODE. For now, here are some rules to look at.

* Do wallow in your misery. Knowing the fact that your suffering from a loss is completely alright. Its normal to grieve. So don’t feel awful about feeling bad. Let your emotions finds its way. Release them, instead of holding them back. Cry it out. Talk about it with your friends.

* Do not be surrounded by “a glass-half-empty” members. As much as possible avoid being around people who have negative thoughts, they just tend to dwell on all the glory details about the breakup, thus making you remember it. But instead be with friends who have positive thoughts. Optimistic people may help you bring back your energy, and re-introduce excitement and fun into your life, which will help you to move on.

* Don’t try to be nice or “friends”. Breaking up may be hard if you make it harder for you, while it fact it is more likely easier to move on provided that you do the right thing after a breakup. You shouldn’t consider the thought of being buddies just for the reason that you don’t him to be totally out of your life.

* Do pamper yourself. Shower yourself with all the TLC you deserve. Youll feel a lot better immediately.

* Hang out with a friend of the opposite sex. This is not a suggestion of a rebound one night stand, but rather an idea that hanging around with this kind of friend may help you gather yourself from a depressing situation.

* Do not drink. Refrain from this bad habit, in which alcohol influences in to doing something else which isn’t right.

* Do not call the person when your sober either. Calling that person may can be even worse, because you cant give a reason or blame it to alcohol. And if your wishing for a reconciliation it may be impossible either. You must at least retain your dignity by not contacting or calling the person.

* Do not ask “why?” you wont be able to get closure from the person who broke things off, so FACE it. Closure requires in getting truthful answers to questions why it happened

* Do something creative. Destruction balances with creativeness. Thus when something destructive happens into your life, do something creative on which it can uplifts your well being. It provides you satisfaction with something that you have accomplished.

* Have your bedroom a new look. Make some rearrangement with your bedroom. Eliminating all the things that can remind you of your ex. Its like having a new beginning and looking forward to a better relationship.

First of all you should examine if you want her back at all. Its a common trap guys fall into when trying to get an ex back. Your ex undoubtedly has qualities that you didn't like. But you were in a relationship so you put up with it. However a break up can be a chance to get away from these negative qualities and look afresh somewhere else.

The fact that she dumped you can instil in some guys an automatic reaction of trying to get her back even if they subconsciously don't really want her.

Why? Well your ego has been damaged and you must now prove that you are a worthy person again. You should examine this in the background when trying to get your ex girlfriend back

In trying to get your ex girlfriend back, its important that you go about it in a coherent step by step process instead of trying just any old thing to recover the relationship. Why? Well if you don't have a plan, you're more likely to make mistakes. If a football team went out onto the pitch without discussing tactics and positions, they would look chaotic on the field.

Chances are you've already done this and I’m guessing it’s been a complete failure just like the football team. In John Alex Clarks book “THE LOVEMAP CODE: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology” he goes through the correct strategy that will make sure you get your ex girlfriend back.

If you want to get back together with your ex, you should try using the DISC personality profiling system in order to gauge your basic compatibility with this person as well as accurately predict what his/her likes and dislikes might be. Knowing your ex's overriding personality type under the DISC system can give you a huge edge in your campaign to getting back together with this individual.

The LOVEMAP DISC system is fully explained in THE LOVEMAP CODE, but here are the basics of each quadrant:

D - Dominant personality type who likes to exert power and authority

I - Influencer Personality type who likes to influence and persuade others

S - Supporter personality type who likes to be in a supporting role

C- conservative personality type who values tradition and rules above all else

Do you want to get your ex back? Then perhaps you should stop moping around and try to get a better handle on your situation. One way you can do this is by learning all about the psychology of love through THE LOVEMAP CODE ebook by John Alex Clark. With that said, here are three steps that you should take if you want to get your ex back.

Learn the root cause of the problem: Something must have definitely gone wrong in your previous relationship for your ex to dump you, so you need to look back, think hard and learn what the root cause of the problem is. Here's a hint: it's generally not in what he/she said was the cause of the break up.

Learn his/her lovemap: After you have learned and hopefully addressed the root cause of the problem in your relationship, you should then get to work on learning your ex's lovemap so that you can successfully match it. Keep in mind that being subtle is the way to go here.

Here are a few simple but effective tips for getting your ex back.

Learn your ex's lovemap: I would recommend reading THE LOVEMAP CODE by John Alex Clark for this purpose. A lovemap is your ex's subconscious list of characteristics that he/she would like in an ideal romantic partner.

Use the no-contact rule: Absence makes the heart grow fonder, so don't try to actively keep in contact with your ex after a break up. Use the no-contact rule and avoid contact with him/her for at least three weeks.

The NCR or no-contact rule is one of the most effective methods for getting your ex back. For a better understanding of how the no-contact rule works in your favor, I would recommend reading John Alex Clark's The Lovemap Code ebook.

In order to implement the no-contact rule, you just need to do the following:

Cut off contact with your ex (all contact including text messages and social media) for a period of three weeks.

Use the 3-week period to work on self-improvement and assess your previous relationship, where you might have gone wrong and what you can do to fix it.