Trying to get an ex back can seem like an uphill battle beyond your ability. Your heart is hurt and your pride wounded. But you can bounce back from a one-sided breakup and can become a stronger person for it with the correct knowledge. For more detailed information, I would suggest reading John Alex Clark's THE LOVEMAP CODE. For now, here are some rules to look at.
* Do wallow in your misery. Knowing the fact that your suffering from a loss is completely alright. Its normal to grieve. So donât feel awful about feeling bad. Let your emotions finds its way. Release them, instead of holding them back. Cry it out. Talk about it with your friends.
* Do not be surrounded by âa glass-half-emptyâ members. As much as possible avoid being around people who have negative thoughts, they just tend to dwell on all the glory details about the breakup, thus making you remember it. But instead be with friends who have positive thoughts. Optimistic people may help you bring back your energy, and re-introduce excitement and fun into your life, which will help you to move on.
* Donât try to be nice or âfriendsâ. Breaking up may be hard if you make it harder for you, while it fact it is more likely easier to move on provided that you do the right thing after a breakup. You shouldnât consider the thought of being buddies just for the reason that you donât him to be totally out of your life.
* Do pamper yourself. Shower yourself with all the TLC you deserve. Youll feel a lot better immediately.
* Hang out with a friend of the opposite sex. This is not a suggestion of a rebound one night stand, but rather an idea that hanging around with this kind of friend may help you gather yourself from a depressing situation.
* Do not drink. Refrain from this bad habit, in which alcohol influences in to doing something else which isnât right.
* Do not call the person when your sober either. Calling that person may can be even worse, because you cant give a reason or blame it to alcohol. And if your wishing for a reconciliation it may be impossible either. You must at least retain your dignity by not contacting or calling the person.
* Do not ask âwhy?â you wont be able to get closure from the person who broke things off, so FACE it. Closure requires in getting truthful answers to questions why it happened
* Do something creative. Destruction balances with creativeness. Thus when something destructive happens into your life, do something creative on which it can uplifts your well being. It provides you satisfaction with something that you have accomplished.
* Have your bedroom a new look. Make some rearrangement with your bedroom. Eliminating all the things that can remind you of your ex. Its like having a new beginning and looking forward to a better relationship.
* Taking the long view. Donât see yourself as being dumped. But instead think about it the other way around. That in every relationship there is a beginning, middle and ends. And this part of time your has ended for a reason. Thus sooner or later youll be able to find a better relationship.