Identity Analysis and Discussion

Mesi AroAce or Mesi AceAro: both mesi aromantic and mesi asexual; refers to someone who is on the aroace spectrum (both ace and aro spectrums) but is not completely suptiliaroace (suptilic aroace, suptiliaro/suptiliace).

[Image description: On the left, a venus symbol with an asterisk inside the circle. On the right, a mars symbol with an asterisk inside the circle. End image description.]

Nonbinary woman and nonbinary man symbols!

Horizon Futch

An all-inclusive futch flag! No matter what, if you identify with “futch” you can use this. I modeled it after a horizon to match the all-inclusive butch/femme flags I did!

Stripe meanings under the cut.

femspecere: a gender that may appear feminine at first, but when looked at more closely, it’s actually (closer to) unaligned

mascspecere: a gender that may appear masculine at first, but when looked at more closely, it’s actually (closer to) unaligned

unfemgender | unmascgender

unfemgender: a nonbinary gender that is unfeminine in nature

unmascgender: a nonbinary gender that is unmasculine in nature

[Trans ask game! What has been your gender journey?]

Feel free to reblog, all trans people are included, binary or non-binary! Send a few numbers to someone’s ask box! 

How did you choose your name?

What gives you the most dysphoria? (Acknowledging that not all trans people experience dysphoria)

Do you have more physical dysphoria or more social dysphoria?

What do you do to perform self-care when you’re feeling dysphoric?

What was the first time you suspected you were transgender?

When did you realize you were transgender?

What is your favorite part of being transgender?

How would you explain your gender identity to others?

How did you come out? If you didn’t come out, why do you stay in the closet? Or what happened when you were outed?

What have your experiences with packing or tucking?

What are your experiences with binding or wearing breast forms?

Do you pass?

What (if any) steps do you want to take to medically transition?

How long have you been out?

What labels have you used before you’ve settled on your current set?

Have you ever experienced transphobia?

What do you do when you have to go to the bathroom in public?

How does your family feel about your trans identity?

Would you ever go stealth, and if you are stealth, why do you choose to be stealth?

What do you wish you could have shared with your younger self about being trans?

Why do you use the pronouns you use?

Do your neurodivergencies and/or disabilities affect your gender?

What’s your biggest trans-related fear?

What medical, social, or personal steps have you already taken to start your transition?

What do you wish cis people understood?

What impact has being trans had on your life?

What do you do to validate yourself?

How do you feel about trans representation in media?

Who is your favorite trans celebrity?

Who is the transgender person who has influenced you the most?

How are you involved with the trans community, IRL or online?

How do you see yourself identifying and presenting in 5 years?

What trans issue are you most passionate about?

What advice would you give to other trans people, or what message would you like to share with them?

How do you feel your gender interacts with your race, disability, class, weight, etc. from the perspective of intersectionality?

What, if any, is the difference between your gender identity and your gender expression?

Do you feel more masculine, feminine, or neither?

What is your sexual and romantic orientation, and what are your thoughts on it?

Is your ideal partner also trans, or do you not have a preference?

How did/do you manage waiting to transition?

What is the place (blog, website, forum, IRL space) you get most of your info on being trans or on trans related things?

Do you interact with other trans people IRL?

Are you involved in any trans-related activism?

Floric: An orientation characterized by being a nonwoman attracted to, loving, or desiring/having relationships with other nonwomen. It encompasses gay men (cis and trans, binary and nonbinary), other mlm, and several nblm, nblnb and mlnb identities (depending on the nonbinary individual’s personal identity and relation to (non)womanhood).

It can be used as a counterpart to lesbian, in any way lesbian is used- it can be used a shorthand for “gay men” (though this is reductive), it can be used as an umbrella term, it can be used to mean nonwomen who prioritize their attraction to nonwomen, etc.

It explicitly includes nonbinary folks of any alignment (as long as they identify as a nonwoman to some degree), oriented/angled aroaces, varioriented, aspec and mspec folks.

The flag and some of the stripe meanings are inspired by the most commonly used lesbian flag as of 2019 and its 5-stripe variation, following the widespread knowledge that the “lipstick” flag, its meaning, and its creator are all hot garbage. Here are the stripe meanings!

Jade green: peace and serenity

Spring green: community and support

Aquamarine: independence and freedom

White: non-cis, non-perisex, and gender non-conforming florics

Moonstone: art and magic (from the rainbow flag)

Verdigris: love and trust

Lapis: attraction and intimacy

Etymology: just as lesbian is named after Lesbos, birthplace of Sappho, Floric is named after Florence, birthplace of Leonardo Da Vinci, who is the namesake for the most popular alternative to achillean- vincian.

Personal ramblings: I am floric. I like that it rhymes with toric, which describes a large subcommunity of floric! I think this term might bother some folks just because it’s a counterpart to lesbian. However, I know this is just because lesbian is one of the oldest and most prominent identities in the LGBTQ+ community- hell, it’s the first letter. Some folks might think that some neolabel can’t stand up to a term with that much history, but I want them to know that I don’t expect this term to suddenly be used as commonly as lesbian is- I want it to grow organically, and I know it’ll never be as well-known or respected, but I think it’s still important to have. It feels right, it makes me feel whole, and you can’t deny that the community exists- because it already does.

I’m actually going to rework this term and flag a bit. At least the flag. Turns out the orange pink one is made by a biphobe so… :T

The colors come from hyacinths as a nod to the myth of Hyacinth/Hyakinthos and Apollo (I know the hyacinth isn’t the plant in question and it’s more than likely a larkspur, but @libragender​ already did that one and I wanted to use the hyacinth colors)

I don’t have specific color meanings other than the white stripe represents non-cis/non-perisex/GNC florics. I’m… really bad at coming up with color meanings so I’ll leave the other five stripes open to interpretation by someone else

It’s why people don’t understand the roots of the word “queer” in the first place, or why it’s important to so many people

It’s why people think “gay” is some apolitical neutral term with zero negative connotations, ever, for anyone

It’s why people actively feed into lesbian separatism, political lesbianism, and TERF movements without even knowing it

It’s why people think “LGBT” is some True Name that has never been changed, challenged, nor shaped over the years to better represent the community

It’s why people feed “who can reclaim which slurs” discourse without giving living human beings older than 25 any real consideration

It’s why people straight-up don’t know what the “drop the T” campaign was/is, or understand the troubled history between the trans community and the rest of the queer community

It’s why people don’t understand what “trans” used to mean, or how that meaning has changed over the years, or why

It’s why people don’t understand the differences between queer communities and identities by country, or often how they’re complicated by race

It’s why people don’t understand what “butch” and “femme” actually mean, the many definitions they can have, or how those labels have intersected across communities for decades now

It’s why people don’t understand the differences between the transfemme and transmascs communitys’ histories, or the differences in struggles they have- and then feed into those struggles without even realizing it

It’s why people straight-up recycle old homophobic and transphobic rhetoric, uncritically and unironically, as if they’ve discovered cool some new bigbrain hot take for the “super smart” gay kids 

It’s why people treat these complicated, contradictory-sounding, or lesser-known identities like “trendy new ways to claim you’re oppressed”- without understanding the history behind those labels, and those communities, and that they’ve been here longer than any of these people have been alive.

Like… yes, we’re moving forward now. Things are changing, and in many ways, it’s for the better! But we seem to forget that most of our community was lost in the 80′s and 90′s, and those folks left a massive, gaping chasm behind.

valeo: a gender/presentation term for a nonbinary person whose gender is defined by strength, courage, helping others, and protecting others, and whose presentation is masculine in a distinctly nonbinary way. a valeo can decide what their presentation is, however, as they see fit. valeos are of any orientation, but often nonbinary people attracted primarily to other nonbinary people, so it can be an orientationgender as well.

I haven’t seen any terms like stag/doe for aromantics so I decided to come up with a few, and they’re based on flowers!

Poppy aro - aromantic person that presents femininely, regardless of gender

Dietes aro - aromantic person that present androgynously, regardless of gender

Scilla aro - aromantic person that presents as masculine, regardless of gender

I hope everybody like these 💙

Edit: I made an edit to the poppy aro flag, please let me know on this post if you prefer it, or prefer the original

These are my proposed presentation labels for the asexual community. This is an updated version of this post, after receiving feedback from the community. Please let me know if there’s anything else you think I should change.

Cupcake Ace

A cupcake ace is an asexual person who presents feminine regardless of gender identity.

Succulent Ace

A succulent ace is an asexual person who presents androgynous or in-between male and female regardless of gender identity.

Nebula Ace

A nebula ace is an asexual person who presents outside of gender; not to be confuse with androgyny.

Drake Asexual

A drake ace is an asexual person who presents masculine regardless of gender identity.

Please let me know if you use the labels, it would make me so happy! Let me know if you have any feedback you would like to let me know, I’m always open to improving these!