Discard The Damage

fnaf dca yah

so this is a little scene from a fic im working on about the virus and complications from the dcas perspective. i am excited to share it whenever it decides to be finished 🤨

LS! YN is still dedicated to the act even while tipsy!!!

Flash, Twilight and Sunset

He said "Are you abused by your family?" but what he meant is "If you need help, I can help."

He said "You're beautiful" but it don't mean "You're beautiful inside and after I dress you up with expensive clothing". What he meant is "You're beautiful when you're passionate about the things you like. I would like to hear you talk more. I bought you expensive things because you're worth it, a good person like deserve better and I thought it will help you boost your confidence. Not because you're only beautiful after I dress you up."

And yeah, his funny mixed up mistake made it worse to fuel Marie's insecurities even if he already explained himself. Still, Marie is an overthinker so she tend to think "What if I'm not the first option?"

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I think what people have difficulty with is the idea that there are people out there who aren’t experiencing sexual attraction at all until a certain point, if ever, because we’re taught that sex, libido, and sexual attraction are all the same, both in and out of queer spaces.

And when you’re learning about asexuality and demisexuality, you may learn that people have romantic and aesthetic attraction separately from sexual attraction, and that sexual and romantic attraction aren’t necessarily intertwined, and that may challenge your worldview on sex.

But “I trust you enough to have sex with you” isn’t the same as “I’m not sexually attracted to anyone but you, and the reason I’m sexually attracted to you now after we’ve established this close bond is literally because of the bond of trust we’ve been able to form”.

It’s easy to see how those can get conflated. On the surface, if you’re unfamiliar with asexuality, they may sound the same. But it’s important to acknowledge the difference between “no sex until I trust you” and “no sexual attraction unless I trust you and maybe not even then”.

Demisexuality is housed under the asexuality spectrum. It’s part of the gray area between being allosexual and asexual. It’s part of why the definition for asexuality includes “little to no sexual attraction”. It’s a mostly asexual experience with an asterisk.

While being demisexual may have impacts on a persons sexual activity, even demisexuals have a varied relationship to the act of participating in sex. Libido and sexual attraction are not always intertwined either, which can make telling the difference tricky.

I think of sexual attraction as libido that has a compass. Since I rarely ever experience sexual attraction, but do have libido, it’s noticeable for me when that libido actually has a direction to go, rather than being a floating, nebulous, independent thing.

Remember, not everyone is demisexual. There’s a difference between waiting to have sex and not having sexual attraction at all until a certain point. This also inherently ties demisexuality to romantic attraction and relationships, and not all demisexuals are alloromantic.