postivity

Admit the truth. You love him, don't you?

Be careful.

Its fine to obsess about a fictional character. Obsess away. Write fanfic, make art, flail endlessly, do your thing.

THE ACTORS ARE NOT THEIR CHARACTERS.

And if you’re confusing the two you need to check your mental health right quick. Leave these men alone. Don’t project on them, don’t stalk them, don’t assume a relationship that doesn’t exist just because they did such a good job as ACTORS of making you feel things and inviting you into what was happening on your screen.

Listen, I’ve been there. I’ve been lucky enough to be on the sets of several shows, meet actors I admired in real life situations (and some really hot ones too), and see the non-public side of some very public and some very private people.

CHILL.

They deserve a life. They deserve space. The best way to thank them for their craft and the onscreen gift they provided is to keep a healthy sense of reality. You do not own them. They do not owe you anything. Take a deep breath.

Thank you.

This is a long one - buckle up folks…

The stir from yesterday with Hudson was insane. People deciding that him liking a random person’s tweet as confirmation of a relationship with anyone is bit of a reach. In the past day, both he and Connor have had pictures with known women in their lives posted. Unfortunately, the ongoing assumptions about their respective sexual preferences made the Connor picture a non-event, while the need for a lot of people to put a label on Hudson for a variety of broader agendas from homophobia to a need for personal validation to shipping wars made his post a firestorm.

Hudson has done the thing he is so good at-stirring the pot to create more chaos in the guise of clarity. We know from the Wonderland interview that if Hudson wants to make something clear, he will say it out loud. Everything else he is basically F’ing around to get a reaction and say outlandish things. People swore up and down he wasn’t media trained when in reality he actually is - extremely well - and he confirmed that he has indeed had media training. He is also very serious about his career, even though his personal style can come off at times like an unhinged toddler, he knows where to draw the line.

This is one person’s opinion, but any thought that he just randomly got overwhelmed and decided he wanted to “hard launch/soft launch” a romantic relationship seems highly unlikely. He isn’t making a move like that on a whim. Especially not when there is so much attention on both he and Connor right now - it is additional distraction he doesn’t need.

People who buy into him liking a tweet as a definitive confirmation of anything one way or the other is the kind of chaos Hudson is known to enjoy creating - not maliciously, but if anything to expose the insanity of how people respond to even random things on social media - thereby negating its validity entirely.

Ultimately, Hudson still has not confirmed his relationship status. The assumptions people jumped to yesterday only serve to reinforce how easy it is to trigger people to jump to their own conclusions - leaving plausible deniability if he ever were to get called on it. There are people still posting pictures of his manager saying she is his girlfriend because they don’t even really know who the real woman in question is. Clearly, she is a close friend and perhaps more either now or in the past - ultimately no one knows and Hudson has not said.

Hudson figuratively yelled fire in a movie theater and watched everybody run for their desired exits.

If Hudson wants it confirmed, he will. He is not sending subliminal messages that you need a secret decoder ring to figure out. He and Connor made it clear they will not play their genuine personal relationship for branding or fan service. He also wouldn’t expose a woman who is speculated to be in a relationship with him to even more scrutiny unless she truly is just a dear friend or himself to the ugly QB attacks on a whim.

Hudson will tell you a joke, but he it does not appear that he’ll tell you a lie, especially regarding people he cares about - including the woman in question. He posted photos of his time traveling in Europe with friends and his team. He liked a chaotic comment on one of those photos that he knew would get people talking and jumping to conclusions.

One of the few things Hudson (and Connor for that matter) has always been serious and consistent about is how important his relationship with Connor is and how nothing will impact him fully expressing their love for each other. They have proven that over and over again in too many ways to count quite publicly-including Hudson making the sunshine comment on Connor’s photo.

Anyone who has read my posts knows I have a clear point of view about what is going on with H+C. While I have my moments of delulu, I try to base my perspective on what Hudson and Connor are actually doing and saying about, to, and with each other, and as I’ve said, much of it is clear and in plain sight - no decoder rings or digging into deep archives of their lives or that of their friends and family needed.

I have no more idea than anyone else what is truly going on. We are all speculating. However, I am a human who has lived life and experienced relationships. I know what I see when I see it, and I see A LOT in the connection between Connor and Hudson on a level that they clearly do not have with anyone else we’ve seen them with. Even in the ice cream video, Connor kind of takes center stage through Hudson’s lens. They openly claim each other in just about every way possible- including ways well beyond what even the closest of friends use to express their feelings.

Hudson and Connor know what is going on and are living their truth without having to say anything. They continue to share things that are perhaps too clearly telling their own business because their connection and feelings are so authentic that they wear them openly - including their clothes.😉🧢

Hudson is also stirring the pot because that is what beautiful chaos monsters do. Proceed with using that chaos as your confirmation of anything with caution.

That concludes my TED talk.