I remember once when I first started this blog, I got some TERFs really mad because I commented on a post that was like “women don’t need to be told it’s okay to be attracted to men” and I said women who are attracted to men are told they’re bad feminists or traitors and deserve to be told that they’re not. Boy did that get them going...
Since then it’s become even more clear that we’ve gotten ourselves to the point where people do need to be told it’s okay to be attracted to men, because TERFs have decided that the best way to cope with their own trauma from compulsory heterosexuality is to traumatize mlm, bi/pan women, trans women, and basically everyone who isn’t a Gold Star Lesbian by insisting that men are gross and ugly and evil.
If you don’t find men attractive, great for you! Be grateful to the trans women of color who dedicated their lives to making the world safer for you, and stop bragging about it like it’s going to get you a medal. Why don’t you brag about your love for women instead? Or your pride in your own sexuality?
Lesbian positivity is nothing if it’s about tearing down other people in our community. And in case you haven’t heard, there are not only people who are attracted to men in the queer community, there are actual men here.
If you’re attracted to men, you are wonderful and amazing and I love you. You are an important part of our community.
If you are a man, especially if you are BIPOC, trans, fat, disabled, or any combination thereof, you are extremely handsome and so many people are attracted to you. You are an important part of our community.
