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Is it me or when someone states “trust me,” that it immediately seems suspicious? When someone asks, “do you trust me?” Seems more trustworthy.

IDK, 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’ve seen this pattern of people having statement versus question SUS here of late.

I keep reliving conversations I’ve had in the past. First I’d like to state that the majority of the time when something bothers me and I speak about it amongst friends, I present only the situation. I feel this to be important because I want people to form their own opinions on the situation. This is very useful for me because we could have opposing views. And that helps me see different prospectives to have a more rounded understanding.

There are times I put out my viewpoint in the forefront. I do this when I feel a topic is morally important and that the person needs to take extra thought into the situation presented in front of them. I, by standard, want my friends to form their own unbiased opinions on the situation I present to them. I feel this is important because my personal opinion is that surrounding yourself with “yes men” only hurts you; solidifying your viewpoint when in fact it could be mislead. This is why when something bothers me, I state just the facts of what happened without my emotions of how it made me feel.

I feel that it is best to have friendships that challenge you. Where you are in the same moral ground, but not necessarily on the same opinion on all topics. But you must morally stand for the same thing. Having a difference of opinion is fine as long as it is opinion and NOT morals. An example is that is fine to prefer your coffee order different but NOT disagreeing on human rights.

I recently attempted to warn someone about someone who we knew mutually. I wanted them to know that I personally felt that this person (et. al) were not good. When I presented my reasoning (using an unnamed human example as well as (what I saw as) unsavory behavior), the response was dismissive; stating “if it’s who I think it is, they aren’t a reliable source.” I would not divulge the individual because of privacy as well as you shouldn’t need a face behind a situation to make it real.

I immediately questioned our friendship when I heard the quick response. It immediately made me feel the response was victim blaming/shaming. It immediately made me relive the moment of a doctor telling me that I wouldn’t have gotten raped if I dressed differently/wasn’t where at the party. This was stated to me as I was getting a rape kit done.

My point is that, I do not understand how when you tell someone that a person was victimized, that their response is that they aren’t a reliable source. I can tell you that in my family, since I am not falling within the expectations of what was expected of me, I was often dismissed. I was often seen as less than and untrustworthy. All of this was based on the experiences and expectations of my parents; what they were taught was expected. I accept that they see things very different than me.

I am not angry, but disappointed. For my parents, I accepted many years ago that I may never agree with their viewpoint. It’s not that I do not understand. It’s that I do not agree. The same is paralleled with my “friend” with their quick response. I also understand their view. But again, I don’t agree. Even when I feel someone is a shit human. I still have empathy to them. If I’m told they were assaulted, I would feel remorse for their situation. Even if I felt they were liar and wasn’t “a reliable source,” I would still feel empathy towards them having to endure trauma.

Now I sit here. I evaluate my bonds. I question if there was a misunderstanding OR if the person was just very honest. Which I feel is more likely for me.

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I have been trying to not post my opinions on the tragic events that happened in Atlanta on March 16th, 2021. I originally wanted to post to spread awareness and love within the community. But am heartbroken (and enraged) to learn that many people do not agree with its sentiments. While I’m obviously disturbed and horrified by the recent wave of violent attacks on the Asian community, what I’m really struggling to understand right now are the people arguing that the mass murder of Asian women in Atlanta was NOT a racially motivated hate crime. The media’s trusted source is the killer’s statement that it wasn’t racially motivated. His on record statement was “I’m not a racist because I have a sex addiction that made me eliminate people and places I’m tempted by, which are Asian women at Asian spas.” I’m going to use extremely basic deductive reasoning to state the word of a man who has no problem killing 8 people is probably not very reliable. Why so many people are choosing to blindly believe the killer - no questions asked - is beyond me. I’ve spent the last few days feeling overwhelmed with confusion over what anyone stands to gain from denying and invalidating the terror that is felt throughout the Asian community. Arguing that the Atlanta murders happened because the terrorist was sexually frustrated, mentally ill, and had a religious and puritan upbringing is not only insulting, but shows a serious lack of empathy for the victims and their families and doesn’t make Asians feel any safer. There is no place for the devil’s advocate when people are dying and an entire community is fearing for the lives of our loved ones. This was a hate crime. There really shouldn’t be any debate on this. I would also like to point out that the killer didn’t target any establishments that are developed for sexual pleasure such as strip clubs, porn shops, etc. which were also in the general vicinity of the locations of these tragedies.

The hyper-sexualization of Asian women in America plays a huge role in the violence we face. In my life I have been asked for “happy endings,” had men say “me love you long time,” “$5 sucky sucky?,” and questioned/propositioned about my anatomy. Asian women are often seen and treated as objects and/or trophies. There are so many Hollywood blockbusters that Asian women are portrayed as mail order brides, submissive, or unintelligent comical relief.

I feel like my ethnicity has been targeted a lot here of late. In 2020 (and still to some) I was seen as a diseased virus spreader and was told to “go back to China.” And hate crimes were statistically higher for all Asian Americans of any ethnicity. Because apparently we all look the same.

And now this.