In defense of Shinji Ikari/Asuka Langley Soryu (Neon Genesis Evangelion)
Alright, Iâve admittedly never done one of these defense posts before, but since I recently re-watched Evangelion, the timing seemed right, as Iâm sure Iâm the only one on the site crazy enough to defend these two. They really are the
of a controversial couple, let me tell you that much.Â
Asuka and Shinji like each other and presumably want to be together, but both misunderstand the otherâs intentions, causing their relationship to fall into dysfunction. Their dynamic is both multi-faceted and a key piece of the narrative, vital to the themes of the Hedgehogâs Dilemma and the events of the later Episodes.Â
Even so, much of the fandom has written it off as simply âabusiveâ, ignoring or missing the greater complexities of their issues, or their hope for improvement. Iâm really not expecting much support here, as Tumblr is one of the most squeamish sites Iâve ever been on, really too much so to properly understand a dark and disturbing show like Evangelion. However, seeing as I am no stranger to Tumblr controversy, I would like to at least put my argument forth for why I believe this pairing is misunderstood. And, oh yeah, massive spoilers.
âAsuka is a bitch and verbally abused Shinji all the timeâ
Thereâs a very specific reason why this is so. The Asuka/Shinji relationship is meant to be a critique of sorts, explicitly displaying the dysfunctional subtext in tsundere anime characters and romance. Asuka is a depressed and traumatized person who has probably never known love, so her abuse is her way of dealing with her conflicted affections for Shinji. Itâs supposed to be looking at such a relationship from a slightly more realistic perspective.Â
Does that fact excuse Asukaâs behavior? Thatâs really not for me to say. But the point Iâm trying to make is that one can not attack that aspect of their relationship without acknowledging the sub-textual flaws in the types of romances AsuShin was meant to deconstruct (regardless of their degree of canon). Goku/Chi-Chi and Bulma/Vegeta from Dragon Ball Z, Ed/Winry from Fullmetal Alchemist, Evans/Maka from Soul Eater, Yosuke/Chie from Persona 4, Ash/Misty from Pokemon, Kiritio/Asuna from Sword Art Online, etc, I donât even watch too much anime I can tell this archetype is everywhere. To a lesser extent, plenty of non-anime couples such as Ron/Hermione from Harry Potter and Fry/Leela from Futurama could be called into question as well.Â
That being said, speaking as someone who has been through enough abuse in their life, I normally found this behavior more often humorous then anything else. Thereâs a great deal of hypocrisy in most of Asukaâs criticisms of Shinji. I mean, I canât help but laugh when she does things like insulting him for drawing the bath too hot, then yelling that itâs not his fault when he apologizes. It really does make them come off like an old married couple, so to speak. But perhaps thatâs just me. Â
I donât see what relevance this has to anything. Unless itâs part of the tsundere romance bit, which I explained above.
âAsuka was disgusted after kissing himâ
This is, on a surface level, apparently true. However, like with the complaints above, Tumblr seems to have forgotten that this is â2deep4meâ Neon Genesis Evangelion weâre taking about here. Very few elements of this series are as they first appear on the surface.
That said, itâs widely believed among the Eva fandom that Asukaâs disgust was actually faked to hide her genuine feelings for Shinji and her disappointment that he did not affectionately react to their kiss, fitting in with her tsundere archetype.Â
The evidence for this fact primarily comes from Episode 22.  As Asuka is having her psyche assaulted by an Angel, Shinji appears in her mind, implying he holds a place in her affections. This causes her to scream: âWhy are you there, dammit!? You wonât do anything! You never help me! You wonât even hold me!â as images of her attempts for romantic attention from Shinji are shown to leave her feeling upset and defeated:
Long story short: Asuka wanted Shinji to express affection for her, but when he misunderstood her intentions and did not, she was greatly distraught, covering it up by pretending to be disgusted so Shinji would not know that he had the power to hurt her.Â
âShinji ends up strangling her in End of Eva.â
Again, this is technically true. But, again, this is Evangelion, so itâs really not so simple.
Shinji strangles Asuka twice over the course of the film. The first time is during his internal contemplation over the fate of humanity. Shinji begs Asuka to help him and let him stay with her. After Asuka callously and violently rejects him, Shinji snaps and strangles her, initiating Third Impact and the extinction of mankind. This scene is rather hotly debated, as thereâs a lot of oddities about it. Asuka is dead at this point in the story, her rejection of him isâŚexcessively brutal, though mostly repeating things Shinji has stated that he believes about himself, and she shows little to no reaction to his strangling, just continuing to glare at him.Â
Personally, I tend to see the most likely interpretation of this scene as being symbolic of Shinjiâs psyche and not based in reality, as most of the scenes preceding it where. Itâs an expression of Shinjiâs frustration over his inability to reach out to her, and of his disgust with himself over the infamous opening scene. This seems to fit with the story, as heâs spent most of the movie up to this point angsting over just that anyway.Â
The second time, while unambiguously occurring in reality, is perhaps even more intensely debated. As Shinji has rejected instrumentality and awakes on a beach, he suddenly notices Asuka, alive and lying beside him. Appearing deranged, he begins to strangle her, but stops when she affectionately caresses his face, breaking down in tears on her chest as the movie and the series end for good.Â
Again, no one can say unambiguously what this scene actually means. Like most of the film, itâs incredibly cryptic mind-screwing. That said, we do have one official-ish comment on this scene, from a trading card series approved by Gainax around the time End of Evangelion was released:
âShinji renounced the world where all hearts had melted into one and accepted each other unconditionally. His desire⌠to live with âothersâ â other hearts that would sometimes reject him, even deny him. That is why the first thing he did after coming to his senses was to place his hands around Asukaâs neck. To feel the existence of an 'otherâ. To confirm (make sure of) rejection and denial.â
(As a side note, another card states that Shinji had specifically hoped to see Asuka again). While I wouldnât put this as the sole interpretation of the scene, itâs the closest thing to Word of God statement we have, and thus the closest to canon.Â
So, did Shinji strangle Asuka? Yes, but probably not out of any malicious desire, at least as far as the scene based in canon goes.Â
In conclusion, Asuka and Shinjiâs relationship is one of my favorite elements of Evangelion. Itâs complex, empathetic, humorous, and just tragic enough, not unlike the show itself. The two of them have so much potential to help each other, if they can just learn to open up and stand on their own feet first. I really wish Tumblr would appreciate their dynamic for what it is rather then spreading blind hate. As I said earlier, I donât really expect many people to be with me on this (Iâm probably going to be crucified for whatever nonsense) but I hope Iâve at least explained well enough.Â