taintedflower

big shoutout to …

- yumes who have a lot of f/os.

- yumes who are monogamous with their f/o.

- yumes who have an irl partner and their f/o(s).

- yumes who have lots and lots of love to give, and use their f/o as an outlet for that.

- yumes who don’t experience romantic attraction, and find comfort in their relationship with their f/o.

- yumes who see their relationship with their f/o as a little hobby, something silly or fun.

- yumes who take their relationship with their f/o very seriously & devote themselves.

Shoutout to the yumeshippers who are CONSTANTLY BOMBARDED by their f/o’s popular ship !! (+ Bonus points if it’s not even canon!)

Shoutout to the yumeshippers who’s f/o’s are constantly mischaracterised by the fandom to the point where you don’t think your f/o’s fans really like your f/o for who they really are !!!

Shoutout to the yumeshippers who’s f/o’s popular ship has more content than the fandom’s actual canon ships !!

Shoutout to the yumeshippers who’s fandom’s majority of artists ship their f/o’s popular ship !!

Shoutout to the yumeshippers who can’t find artists who draw their f/o WITHOUT SHIPPING THEIR F/O’s POPULAR SHIP !!

SHOUTOUT TO THE YUMESHIPPERS WHO HAVE HAD ENOUGH OF THEIR F/O’S POPULAR SHIP AND FUCKING HATE IT!!!

imagine your f/o holding you in their arms tightly and imagine the feel of their hands as they wipe away your tears, or as they caress you and wipe away the metaphorical tears that your body will not let you cry. imagine them as they wrap you in their touch and squeeze you tight, refusing to let go until your anxieties go away and refusing to let go until they go too

imagine them telling you that you're going to be okay. imagine them seeing you when you're feeling particularly latched onto one of your worries - and stopping you in your tracks by showering you in love and affection. they're able to tell when things are getting bad and they're able to catch it for you because they love you, and they want you to know that they'd love you at your worst, no matter if you would think otherwise of them.

just imagine...even if it feels ooc, they'd treat you this way just for you, no matter how "wrong" it feels. they love you and want nothing more than for you to feel at least a little better in their eyes

If your F/O smokes, imagine asking “what’s in your mouth??” when you catch them smoking inside and then having to pry the cigarette out of their mouth like a dog that’s eaten something it shouldn’t

I’m going to say it again: the concept of nonsharing really isn’t that hard to understand. Some people choose not to share their F/Os because it makes them uncomfortable and that’s valid. Why shame someone for being open about their boundaries? Would you rather they lie about how they feel and quietly suffer, just to keep others happy? It’s much healthier to let people exist within their comfort zones.

Now, how someone handles being a nonsharer is a separate issue. There’s a big difference between respectfully enforcing a boundary and acting out in toxic ways like spreading misinformation about doubles, making possessive or snide remarks, or encouraging mass blocking someone just because they share the same F/O. That kind of behavior is a problem, but it’s a problem with that person, not with the concept of nonsharing itself.

Being nonsharing should have never been seen as an issue to begin with. The real problem lies with those who abuse it and create unnecessary drama. I’ve met plenty of nonsharers who simply block, move on, and stay respectful. And I’ve also seen the kind of nonsharers who give the rest a bad name.

At the end of the day, hating an entire group for the actions of a few is frankly quite stupid and close minded. I fully support nonsharers and their reasons, but I will never support those who weaponize it to be cruel. There’s a difference between having boundaries and being a jerk.

imagine sending your f/o to buy you "just some pads and period snacks", taking a nap, and waking up an hour later to 50 different types of pads (half of which you didnt even know the store HAD), 3 tubs of ice cream, a bag of chips, 6 missed calls, and 72 unread texts begging you to specify what kind of pads