Soft But Not Subtle

it's hard to overstate just how intertwined disability advocacy and youth liberation are. abeleism and adultism function on such similar axes as to be, in many cases, one and the same. and it's for that reason that i'm consistently disappointed to see disabled adults discussing their oppression with appeals to their own age.

In the comments seeing a lot of aces saying "Yeah I appreciate that kinksters are often accepting of ace people" and that is because there are many asexuals in kink! Sexual attraction or behavior is not essential to kink/BDSM.

"One funny thing: At most of the kink parties Selena went to, no one was doing anything that seemed to be sexual. People would say, 'I'm tying someone up, that's sex,' but much of the time it didn't seem to feel sexual and nobody could explain how this made sense. Was tying someone up really sex, or was it a rope and some trust? Selena didn't care about sex, but she did love rope, so it was unclear exactly what was happening here, and what she actually wanted.