Sharpen your Knife

like..

i love a guy who is masculine,maybe with some muscles or a lil chubby,with a masculine body and appearance,even behaviour: strong,dominant with other people,the stereotype of masculine guy

but then you call him sweetheart and he melts? GIMME THAT

Source: https://www.tumblr.com/serene-dipity/803778518438854656/do-you-mollis-really-think-a-woman-can-be-actually?source=share

Oh that's awesome, anon! I'm glad to hear it! 😁

I won’t belabor the point cause obv you’ve read the post already lol but it really is true! I know someone irl who’s 5’2 and she’s the dude-iest dude I’ve ever met (tbh I know several people like that lmao)! How you act and how you dress define so much, so just keep working towards whoever it is you want to be and you’ll get there!

Left wingers do this too. Except instead of "THEY'RE EATING THE CATS AND DOGS" it looks like:

"No one else will ever accept you."

"You're too oppressed to be understood by anyone but us."

or

"Anyone outside our group is dangerous."

Check in with yourself about how online communities make you feel.

Do they make you feel hopeful, or hopeless? Connected, or isolated? Accepted, or tolerated?

Do they encourage you to think for yourself, and use critical thought? Or do they ask you to accept without thinking and toe the line? Is there open communication, or are differing opinions bullied into silence?

Beware of anyone who tries to isolate you.

Beware of anyone who tells you no one else will ever love you like they will, that no one else will ever accept you.

Beware of anyone that tells you life is nothing but pain, or that there is no hope.

Hopeless, lonely people are easily controlled.

I know things are scary right now. I'm scared too.

Look out for people who WANT you scared.

Try to find spaces that make you feel like change is possible. Look for people who make you feel empowered to do something!

My domming ideology, my preference for how I conduct myself and the way that I view myself in Domspace is probably just as close to a brat or pleasure sub as it is to the stereotypical cis male Dom archetype that's very common in these spaces.

I'm sadistic because I enjoy the feelings I can give other people. I love the way they can react to pain, pleasure, and any combination of the two I inflict. It arouses me to have a submissive exert themselves for my pleasure. For that reason, my dominance is almost oriented around a certain degree of selfishness. I want to make you moan a certain way, cry just the way I like, whine and beg in the exact way that scratches that sadistic itch I have. It's like this inverted, perverse version of pleasure domming. It's so addictive. Even when I'm doing something which is meant to be physically pleasurable for you, I enjoy it because it gets me off too. Greedy, selfish dominance.

That same mindset extends to physical pleasure. I'm extremely fucking greedy. I love having my ass eaten and making a sub focus all their effort and energy into getting me off for as long as possible. I love being edged and overstimulated for that same reason. It's about me and my pleasure and they're just a toy I'm using to get off. I like it when they top for me and do the work because they're pushing themselves and working hard for my pleasure.

I love doing scenes where I basically use them to masterbate, or treat them like a pleasureless sex toy that can only get me off. Denial also seeps into this aspect of kink for me, where the dichotomy between my focus on my own pleasure and taking away theirs creates exciting and intense dynamics.

Am I still physically dominant? Very. Do I love doing the work and topping? Obviously. Am I sadistic and cruel for their pleasure as much as mine? All the time. But those components of dominance are expected and typical, while the selfish, self-pleasuring aspects of dominance are mostly expected from Femdoms (a group who has a ton of unearned stereotypes themselves).