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How to identify, and then deal with, your emotions

Emotional regulation skills

Conflict resolution skills

Creating and enforcing boundaries

Dialectical Behavioural Therapy skills

Emotional intelligence ideals to aim for

Axes of self-care/wellbeing

Self-care self-evaluation (find out where you’re starting)

How to make a self-care checklist

How to start a self-care habit

Reparenting resources

Crash Course Psychology

KhanAcademy: Understanding the Self and Society (some units more relevant than others)

Emotional education activities for children and teens

The emotion sensations wheel by Lindsay Braman

The emotion behavior wheel by Lindsay Braman

It’s incredibly helpful in learning to regulate your emotions to understand the function of emotions and our core needs.

So is understanding the difference between thoughts, emotions, and mood as well as core emotions and primary and secondary emotions.

Learning about up and down regulation and nervous system states and the window of tolerance is also a game changer. Something key for me was understanding that my capacity for something and my tolerance for it are two different things. Increasing my awareness of what this means, looks, and feels like greatly improved my ability to self regulate. If you’re neurodivergent or have trauma, the window of tolerance is only part of the equation— I’d look at the circle of capacity. While the article linked discusses expanding capacity as a goal, I partly disagree that that should always be the goal. For a lot of us, simply recognizing and listening to when we are at capacity is the goal of regulating of emotions and nervous system (because many neurodivergent and traumatized people’s needs, tolerance, and capacity are dismissed). I reiterate this with everyone I work with: pushing past capacity is actively harmful, recognizing when something is too much to tolerate or is something you aren’t capable of is self-protective. The recognition can lead to an increased tolerance and capacity once we understand our needs.

Another helpful tool I use with clients (even though the science is iffy with polyvagal theory) is understanding the nervous system ladder (find free download worksheets here). I add an extra layer to this beyond increased stress decreasing our nervous system regulation when I discuss it with patients: as stress, cognitive load, and demands increase, capacity, tolerance, and self-monitoring/ self-regulation decrease. The goal is to understand your optimal zone and learn what helps you return or stay there.

This frame was made by Gerardo Gambone, this is important because he is the one in charge for the new arc of official comics from Gargoyles! As everybody knows now, next week, on August /12, Issue 1 will be finally published, we are so close that I can't hardly wait. So I thought it would be a good idea to post this to reach as many people as possible.

It is a normal human response to hate somebody who hurts you.

Even if sometimes they are really nice.

Even if they say they are sorry.

Even if they're family.

Your brain is wired to protect you. It protects you by recognising patterns and creating negative output when you are exposed to something dangerous.