ok so there's something i don't understand (and like bare with me i'm awful with words), is some attitudes i've seen towards canon shipping within the community.
I'm polyamorous. I can be in a relationship with multiple people. I can be dating someone who's dating someone I'm not. Some of my ships I'm dating people who aren't dating eachother, sometimes the polycule is completely connected.
But sometimes I see things in the community that act like these types of relationships aren't possible?
I see CONSTANT dissing of even the thought of F/Os as a concept having even slight feelings towards canon characters. To the point of memes and jokes and to the point where it's considered the "norm," that its weird or odd to think otherwise.
I see phrases like "It's ok to be uncomfortable with polyamory," as though it's something fine to be "uncomfortable" with. You're encouraging being uncomfortable with a whole identity - not to mention non-poly relationships are already the majority.
I see phrases like "You can't ship someone with their F/O if you ship the F/O with someone else," which is just blatantly wrong and not at all how shipping works; and again, this sort of phrasing hurts polyam people.
I see people referring to poly relationships as "Threesomes," "Foursomes," etc. Don't. Sexualize. Poly. Relationships. These terms are sexual in nature. It takes THREE seconds to google the non-sexual term - polycule. Some of us are minors or otherwise uninterested in sex - either way, you shouldn't be sexualizing a whole identity.
It is fine to not want to be in a poly relationship. It's just not for everyone. It's fine to not want people to follow you if they're likely to post canon/canon pairings of your F/O. I'm not fully okay sharing myself. All I am asking is to understand that your experiences are not universal; most importantly, just be mindful of the phrasing you use. Think about the people you might be affecting. That's all you really need to do.
Additionally.
• Stop getting mad at people with polyships that you don't like.
• Stop shipping with multiple characters only to make sexual or "slut"-based jokes
• Stop assuming you can only ship one person with their F/O, and stop encouraging this behavior. It's fine if you'd rather not follow someone because they ship with a friend's F/O, but loudly and proudly claiming that only ONE ship is correct, that said F/O can only like that one person, is a bad mindset.
• Stop assuming people who are polyshipping are automatically okay with sharing.
Mono people reblog this please.
