Enby Practicing At Being More Femme

save all that mental energy for important things

save all that mental energy for important things

save all that mental energy for important things

Self-judgement. You view yourself as those things, so others must see you that way too, right?

Ego is not just about “I’m the best thing ever” it is being preoccupied with oneself, even if it’s in a negative dimension.

And even if it is the case that you are, say, clingy.

Ego cannot let other people form their own opinions, and be content. It torments itself with the idea of running into ego bruises

If it is right, you will find the people who want you to be securely attached to them (positively received “clinginess”, or even reciprocal “clinginess” where you both want each other around a lot)

But those positive outcomes cannot happen unless you can accept there might be some negative ones, some mismatches, along the way.

THIS IS SO REAL

I always say I’m non-binary just cause it’s easier than saying ‘I don’t really know but I prefer to be called this and this makes me happier and I get dysphoria but not all the time and blah blah blah…’

I used to think men didn’t take me seriously because I was too much.

Too emotional. Too expressive. Too soft. Too available.

So I tried to be easier to keep. And all it got me was easily replaced.

Here’s what actually changed everything:

1. I Stopped Over-Explaining

I stopped turning my boundaries into apologies. “No” became a sentence instead of a paragraph.

Men started listening differently.

2. I Stopped Auditioning for Approval

I quit trying to be the “cool girl.” I stopped laughing through discomfort just to be liked.

If being myself made someone uncomfortable, I finally let that be their problem.

3. I Stopped Being Sexual Before I Felt Safe

I confused chemistry for commitment. Desire for devotion.

When I slowed down, the unserious men disappeared. And I didn’t chase them.

4. I Stopped Being Available Out of Loneliness

I stopped replying just because it was late and quiet. Loneliness had been choosing for me.

Peace chooses better.

5. I Stopped Romanticizing Confusion

If I have to decode you, you’re not for me. Mixed signals stopped exciting me. Effort became the bare minimum.

The Truth

Men didn’t change. I did.

And suddenly I wasn’t being desired and discarded. I was being respected.

Men take you seriously when you stop negotiating your worth.

Which one did you stop tolerating first? Comment the number below. Let’s talk.

My name is Jaz and I’m 18. I’ve been really keen to submit before and I wasn’t really sure what to do, so as you can gather, this is my first time doing it… I hope it’s good enough! I’m slowly regaining some body confidence from being dumped about 6 months ago and I’m loving my boobs at the moment! :) 

God and I are a team.

I serve him cause he's Holy.

He serves me with what I need and want IF it's Holy

and yeah...that's basically it.

“paternal”

Yeah I felt so maternal towards certain characters … I was very upset when Steven Universe grew up and his other form started being attractive … like wtf this show is pulling a fast one on me …