Anytime this week would be great for me, Iâd really enjoy lunch. Maybe Thursday? â I can see what you mean though, about it being people not marks, I just think the sentiment behind it was thoughtful and could help some find a safe space. The more safe spaces the better in my opinion. Maybe it will allow people of all marks to join in unity but that could also just be me being my usual optimistic self. Aside from replying to as many people as possible what other solutions are there? We canât force people to reply to talk to each other, some of us are trying really hard to reply and converse and get involved with everyone and those that want to stay in their own circles will continue to do so and Iâm having a hard time finding a solution. And no, no pet for me! I definitely thought about it but with my schedule I just donât think Iâd be able to give it the proper care if deserves. Maybe a fish.Â
PM: Thank you for sharing this with me, though I clearly wonât be able to write as much as you did, I will say that I read every word. And I get what youâre saying. I really do. I especially agree that it would be insane to believe that everyone would be nice I thought we could at least all be civil. Again, maybe itâs my belief in the good of people. And Iâm not ignorant or blind to things, I know what people like Malakai and the Flannagans are. And I know how to speak to them, even people like Reg Iâve had no issue with. But just like the Flannagans or Smytheâs canât change who they are, neither can the submissives or switches. Rules are rules, especially here, and there are obviously consquences to not following them but the submissices and switches being the only ones who have to bend to those rules hurts. Not everyone is like me and is easy to follow the rules and submit. Itâs like one dominate scares the shit out of one of the submissives and suddenly theyâre an entirely different person, itâs a bit archaic. But itâs a fair point to say that Reg had a point too, thereâs always two sides to things and as a journalist I understand you should never double back on your word.Â
Maybe Iâm not making any sense at all. But, you are my best friend and my brother, Felix, I know what youâve done for so many students in fear and I canât even put into words how much I look up to you for it. And the other reason I love you is that you can think objectively when Iâm being emotional. And I will never expect this place to be rainbows and butterflies. I think itâs just scary at times, but if I keep a close eye on what I say then at least I can avoid what I need to. Thank you again for being so open to conversation with me.Â
Thursday sounds good, come to my suite at about 12:30, weâll eat and be merry. I agree. I really support everything Ross, Campbell Clarington, Sophia St. James, Theo and Vic Sterling, and all the others are doing to try and get us all out of this funk. Itâs nice to see a place of unity. I know what you mean with that which is part of why I said what I said. At the very least, itâs important to put out there that these people are hurting others. Maybe that wonât matter, and thereâs your example of my own humanitarian nature. But, at the very least, letting them know that we all do see it is important I think. That makes sense, you have to make the best decision for yourself and the animal in question. I do think you would do well with a fish though. And the aquariums are relaxing. I got a bird.Â
DM: I know this is going to be a mile long too. And even if you donât respond to it, I hope you read this too. Really I do. Because itâs important Fletch. Thank you for reading it, I understand. I know I had a lot to say, Iâve also been back a little longer than you have this time so I have had a little longer to stew on some of the things Iâve seen. Iâve seen you interacting with all of the above and you have done really well. I will say I got a little concerned about the interaction I was seeing between you and Killian, and I thought about stepping in but I wasnât going to do you the disrespect of putting you in a position to be a damsel. Youâre not. But you need to know I was watching. Iâve got your back and I will always. I will have to disagree with you on that though Fletcher. I know that it may seem like that, that itâs only the Subs and Switches who have to bend to this stuff, but thatâs not the reality either. Itâs easier for me because of how we were raised and how I believe but this is a whole new world for all of us. No longer can Subs (and Switches technically) be punished when a Dominant believes they should be. And yeah in a lot of ways thatâs a good thing, but what about those Subs who think it gives them a right to just be disrespectful as hell to anyone and everyone? Iâm not overbearing and Iâm never going to come out of the blue with a punishment or a harsh word for anyone. I give Subs and Switches the freedom to be themselves. But people like Reg, like Beau, like Malakai, like Zoe, like Kady, like the Flanagans...They werenât raised on the same diet. And thatâs something to understand too. That when youâve been told you make all the rules and hold all the power, and not just told that but youâve been GIVEN that responsibility and then JUDGED on what you do with it your entire life, then all of a sudden itâs not there, and you have to get used to a whole new way of life, thatâs bending. And thatâs the part of this no one seems to get either. Iâm surprised a little, with you having been a former Domme.Â
You know how harshly we were judged, what the expectations were, and how staunch it all was. Your entire name and reputation rested on your ability to control. To hold that power. You know how badly people picked on me and made fun of me and looked down on me for how I was. And now, itâs the cool thing to be. But it wasnât back then. I was ignored then and Iâm ignored now too, but thatâs beside the point. Iâm just saying I donât think the Subs and Switches are the only ones who have to bend at all. This is new for everyone. And honestly if thatâs the route weâre wanting to go, isnât it even harder now for Dominants than it is for Subs and Switches? Because in reality, the power is yours now. Everyoneâs mad that people are asking for respect, which should be given off the bat no matter what your mark is and no matter who you are, but at the end of the day...That is what has always been expected of a Submissive to the world. That isnât new. And now they have the freedom to choose if they will submit, to choose if they will consent, and thatâs not a bad thing, but it is a new thing for Dominants. The world has changed for the negative in the eyes of many Dominants. But it has been nothing but positive for Subs and Switches. Things swung in your favor. Iâm glad it did, but thatâs hard for some people. So I love you and Iâm sorry, but I canât agree with Subs and Switches being the ones who are hurting the most, or being the only ones who have to bend. Itâs just not true, becaue they donât have to bend anymore. All they have to do is say no. Dominants no longer have that either. It used to be that all the time these Dominants could do whatever. Now, they have no power beyond what a Subissive or Switch allows. And understanding that is where that objectivity comes in. And no, scared Submissives arenât a cool thing. Youâre right. I hate that. But also Fletch, you do realize that what youâre talking about (and yes I know who and what you are talking about) was consentual. If that Sub hadnât consented to that punishment it wouldnât have happened. And if it had anyway? One note to the Headmistress and that Domme would have been punished herself. Notice that didnât happen. So what Iâm seeing here, objectively speaking and my own feelings removed, is a Submissive garnering sympathy for something they consented to, which is manipulative and not good either.
 And really, not even just consented to but asked for, because they continued to be disrespectful when called out for it. Those are the rules. It goes back to the exact same thing Parker poorly put here. Not just here at school but out in the real world, if you donât follow the rules, you face consequences. That Submissive had the option to remove herself from those consequences, and no matter how disrespectful she was (which she was, there is no arguing that point) she would have been home free and clear, no consequences. Because again. Thatâs how this new world swings in your favor. Thereâs where that Dominant bending comes in. And the truth is, if youâre not looking to get your face mauled, then be wise enough not to try to pet a bear. I donât agree with what happened no matter how you spin it, but I donât think itâs right to publicly consent to something, not pull your consent, and then use what happened to you to try and make people turn against a Domme who was doing what she has always been known for doing. Itâs the exact same situation as Reginald and Parker, just on a different field. That stuff is taken so seriously now. Iâm glad we can understand each other on those points.Â
You are making sense, you are. And I will always hear and value your thoughts on all of these matters. I just think that in this instance my beautiful sister, youâre seeing things from a little bit of a narrow tunnel. I love you. I donât mean that in a mean way. Iâm just saying thatâs what Iâm seeing from where Iâm sitting. We all have our own things, and I love you just how you are. I just think these situations are ones that as hard as it is, you have to remove your feelings about whatâs happening right now right in front of your salad, and think about the roots of these things. Think about where these things are coming from and what the core issue is, not the dramatics youâre being presented. Youâll be okay, Fletch. Just keep doing what youâre doing, and let me know if you need anything or if you get into a sitaution you donât feel okay with. Iâll take care of it and Iâll take care of you always.Â