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This post is a warning regarding Candlecove-Weaintdeadyet. Some of you may remember, they used to be pretty active on here before deleting their blog. However, I don't think they're going to stay out of the fandom for good. Basically, they've done some questionable and harmful things, and haven't been receptive when asked to change their behavior, so I made this post because I really don't want people to unknowingly put themselves in harm's way by being around them.

Candlecove-weaintdeadyet (WADY) was part of the Candle Cove fandom on Tumblr up until they deleted their blog some time ago, likely because of the drama surrounding them. Even though he hasn’t posted on Tumblr anymore since then, it’s possible that he’ll continue to be part of the Candle Cove fandom, on Tumblr (if he returns) or other platforms. Some people in the fandom already know the details of this drama secondhand, and WADY has probably told his own side of the story to his friends and followers as well. However, because I honestly believe people have a good reason to know what WADY did, I’ve decided to publish the screenshots that show the truth of what really happened, so that people don’t have to rely on hearsay and can form their own, well-educated opinions.

Before I start, I want to say that I’m not writing this to drag WADY through the mud. Again, I genuinely think people should be aware of him. He’s shown that he disregards people’s boundaries regarding NSFW content, particularly during one instance where he planned to make and post NSFW content that included other people’s character designs without telling those people that it was going to be NSFW. Additionally, he’s had a pattern of posting NSFW and fetish-related content without any sort of warnings, even though there are minors in the fandom. Lastly, he’s shown that he isn’t receptive to people who address his behavior and instead twists the truth in a way that makes it seem like he’s being wrongfully attacked. Because of this, I think people should rightfully be aware of his actions so that they can protect themselves.

I cropped and marked up some screenshots slightly just so that this is easier to follow, as well as redacted some names of people to protect them from harassment. (The colors I use to censor names are arbitrary, i.e. all names censored in blue aren’t necessarily the same person, etc.). I haven’t cropped out or marked over anything that’s relevant to what I’m saying.

This post contains subject matter some people may find disturbing, specifically:

NSFW text

Links to NSFW media

Discussion of fetishes

Possibly fetishistic art and writing

Minors being treated inappropriately

Jokes involving CSA, incest, and transphobia

If any of these topics make you uncomfortable, use your discretion, and if you’re a minor, don’t read this at all.

Lastly, DO NOT HARASS ANYONE. Harassment serves no purpose, doesn’t help anyone who's been harmed, and doesn’t effectively cause people to change their behavior.

This behavior has been addressed in the past, but this didn’t go over well. It didn’t lead WADY to take accountability for their behavior, but to instead make excuses and to villainize the person who addressed them.

This is another completely untagged NSFW post of theirs, which motivated someone to say something. (Content warnings for CSA, incest, and transphobic humor. Click to view.)

(I unfortunately don’t have screenshots with the original post’s tags to prove that this had no warnings tagged, but the screenshot below corroborates this.)

This post was addressed by a user on the Candle Cove server. (I’ve spoken with Nina (Skin-taker’s cat) and they’re fine with their name not being redacted, since WADY had vilified them, and including their name here will show what they actually did, and repair their reputation.)

As you can see, according to Nina, the post in question didn’t have warnings.

WADY said this in response:

Note how he tries to defend himself by shifting the responsibility (at least partly) to other people, and away from him, the person who made the post.

Around the same time this was happening, Nina was also pointing out some hypocritical behavior from WADY, which isn’t AS important to discuss here compared to the more serious things in this post, but for context, WADY had basically turned a blind eye to inappropriate things other people have posted, while at the same time confronting Nina for much less serious things (i.e., fat jokes that they can claim).

(I feel like I should clarify: The “asscrack pic” was NOT an actual picture of an ass. The Candle Cove server hasn’t been THAT crazy, despite its past poor moderation. It was just a sculpture of an ass, but it was nonetheless too suggestive for a 13+ server.)

The fact that, according to him, he needs to “keep having to remind himself” that minors are around, is worth pointing out. The existence of minors should be obvious because, again, people have to state their age in order to be verified on the server, and also everyone should know this in general because the minimum age on Tumblr and Discord is 13. Why would he keep forgetting?

A little while after this, WADY left the Candle Cove server, ended their friendship with Nina, and, on a different server they were in, complained about what Nina had said to them. Here’s what they said:

(The redacted parts aren’t relevant. Nina was just talking about unrelated drama before they started talking about WADY.)

Firstly, simply having their behavior addressed and being prompted to take accountability for their actions was enough to motivate WADY to cut someone off and leave a server.

Secondly, note that, in the Candle Cove server, Nina told WADY that they specifically had a problem with him posting extremely dark NSFW jokes without warnings. Here, WADY says something different, that Nina had a problem with him “posting NSFW,” without elaboration.

This is misleading. WADY is sidestepping the fact that he even did anything wrong himself. Not only that, intentionally or not, he’s villainizing Nina in the process. Nina didn’t say anything about them having a problem with people posting NSFW in itself, as if they're a kinkshamer or anything like that. However, without any context, that’s probably what people on this server assumed.

(He also doesn’t tell the whole truth about the situation with Nina’s fat jokes, making it seem as though Nina was just complaining about being told off, when in reality, they were pointing out that WADY was unbothered by unwarned NSFW despite being vigilant enough to confront them about fat jokes.)

Here, WADY continues to downplay what he did:

He continues to make it seem as though Nina had a problem with him posting NSFW in general. Also, this just seems like such a flippant thing to say knowing he did post something very disturbing and possibly even triggering without warnings. Whether or not it was just “middle schooler 4chan humor” doesn’t change the fact that it included CSA, incest, and transphobia and should’ve been tagged.

In addition to complaining on this server, he posted a public vent post about this situation on his Tumblr.

Now, it’s understandable, I guess, that WADY would be upset at having some of their problematic behavior addressed. Even though it was rightfully addressed, it could still be a lot to take in. However, without context, this makes it seem as though WADY was being mistreated and victimized, and that everyone else was in the wrong.

Of course, I’m not going to act like it’s necessary or reasonable for people to make sure they’re including every relevant fact and detail and piece of context when they’re just trying to get their feelings out. However, if people vent in public, and others can read the post and be misled by the lack of context, then yes, they should be more careful. If someone reads this, they may assume that WADY was literally “chased out” (as they said) of the server, instead of the reality that they left by their own choice. Or that WADY was being made to “tiptoe around people” (i.e., be unreasonably careful) when the truth was that they were simply told to stop being hypocritical and tag their NSFW posts properly (which isn’t unreasonable).

Also, below are DMs discussing the post. (None of the people here are Nina, just people who were tired of seeing the drama continue.)

(Note: While it may have been vague, vagueness doesn't really have a strong effect in a tiny fandom like this. No matter how vague someone is, it could still be easy for others to suss out who someone’s talking about through the process of elimination since there are only a handful of people in the fandom.)

To summarize, WADY has basically shown that he doesn't take accountability for his untagged NSFW-posting, and that he overreacts when people voice concerns with his behavior, cutting them off and explaining things in a way that makes it seem like they were in the wrong. This makes getting him to address and change his inappropriate behavior pretty difficult, which is partly why this post was written, since handling this privately didn't seem like it was going anywhere and only risked causing WADY to damage people’s reputations further.

Conclusion

Having said all that, I don’t think WADY is, like, an irredeemably bad person or anything, and I do think he has the ability to change himself. However, in the meantime, I don’t think anyone should overlook his behavior. What he did shouldn’t be downplayed—not the NSFW animation that was going to be made without people’s consent, not the randomly bringing up NSFW and fetish stuff around minors, and not the refusal to take accountability for his actions. People should be aware of this, and not make themselves be around WADY if his actions make them uncomfortable, or risk putting them in harm's way.

It's SO mature of him (/s) to accuse his critics of groomer behavior!! Without any evidence, of course!! Glad to see (/s) that he hasn't stopped making up shit to feel victimized about. I couldn't NOT say anything, this is just VILE, falsely accusing people of serious crimes just because he can't own up.

Also more importantly its really concerning to me that he had MULTIPLE pedophilia accusations. The weird shit he did in the CC fandom was not an isolated incident! (also its confusing and also slightly concerning that he chose to call them pedophilia accusations even though nobody here called him a pedophile, just that he posted smut iresponsibly. why would he say that people think he's a pedo if that's not true?? what's the saying… "a guilty conscience needs no accuser"? idk though)

Yeah anyway the point of this ask is to warn you all to keep away from him. This is just morally bankrupt behavior. I've seen him continue to post CC content even after apparently leaving the fandom acting like nothing happened. Do everyone a favor and DON’T let him back in please!!

Also, here's proof that this is in fact candlecove-weaintdeadyet: https://hellspawndoodles.tumblr.com/post/681546631918780416/yannow-i-never-used-to-understand-the-point-of . Its the same art style and the second character is one of his CC redesigns.

Also blah blah blah don’t harrass him /srs

But anyways I'm not willing to straight up show their user platforms on here because i do not want them to find out about the callout post which will end very very badly if they did .... 😬 plus they've pretty much linked their YouTube and other socials on the WADY blog before it was deleted . One candle cove video of theirs is still available on YouTube and it's easy to search in the candle cove tags on YouTube . So I think it's easier to find it for anyone else you just gotta connect the dots .

Also, I could have mentioned this earlier, but the ask box for this blog is open, and I'm fine with people sending me questions or things like this.

This post is a warning regarding Candlecove-Weaintdeadyet. Some of you may remember, they used to be pretty active on here before deleting their blog. However, I don't think they're going to stay out of the fandom for good. Basically, they've done some questionable and harmful things, and haven't been receptive when asked to change their behavior, so I made this post because I really don't want people to unknowingly put themselves in harm's way by being around them.

Candlecove-weaintdeadyet (WADY) was part of the Candle Cove fandom on Tumblr up until they deleted their blog some time ago, likely because of the drama surrounding them. Even though he hasn’t posted on Tumblr anymore since then, it’s possible that he’ll continue to be part of the Candle Cove fandom, on Tumblr (if he returns) or other platforms. Some people in the fandom already know the details of this drama secondhand, and WADY has probably told his own side of the story to his friends and followers as well. However, because I honestly believe people have a good reason to know what WADY did, I’ve decided to publish the screenshots that show the truth of what really happened, so that people don’t have to rely on hearsay and can form their own, well-educated opinions.

Before I start, I want to say that I’m not writing this to drag WADY through the mud. Again, I genuinely think people should be aware of him. He’s shown that he disregards people’s boundaries regarding NSFW content, particularly during one instance where he planned to make and post NSFW content that included other people’s character designs without telling those people that it was going to be NSFW. Additionally, he’s had a pattern of posting NSFW and fetish-related content without any sort of warnings, even though there are minors in the fandom. Lastly, he’s shown that he isn’t receptive to people who address his behavior and instead twists the truth in a way that makes it seem like he’s being wrongfully attacked. Because of this, I think people should rightfully be aware of his actions so that they can protect themselves.

I cropped and marked up some screenshots slightly just so that this is easier to follow, as well as redacted some names of people to protect them from harassment. (The colors I use to censor names are arbitrary, i.e. all names censored in blue aren’t necessarily the same person, etc.). I haven’t cropped out or marked over anything that’s relevant to what I’m saying.

This post contains subject matter some people may find disturbing, specifically:

NSFW text

Links to NSFW media

Discussion of fetishes

Possibly fetishistic art and writing

Minors being treated inappropriately

Jokes involving CSA, incest, and transphobia

If any of these topics make you uncomfortable, use your discretion, and if you’re a minor, don’t read this at all.

Lastly, DO NOT HARASS ANYONE. Harassment serves no purpose, doesn’t help anyone who's been harmed, and doesn’t effectively cause people to change their behavior.

This behavior has been addressed in the past, but this didn’t go over well. It didn’t lead WADY to take accountability for their behavior, but to instead make excuses and to villainize the person who addressed them.

This is another completely untagged NSFW post of theirs, which motivated someone to say something. (Content warnings for CSA, incest, and transphobic humor. Click to view.)

(I unfortunately don’t have screenshots with the original post’s tags to prove that this had no warnings tagged, but the screenshot below corroborates this.)

This post was addressed by a user on the Candle Cove server. (I’ve spoken with Nina (Skin-taker’s cat) and they’re fine with their name not being redacted, since WADY had vilified them, and including their name here will show what they actually did, and repair their reputation.)

As you can see, according to Nina, the post in question didn’t have warnings.

WADY said this in response:

Note how he tries to defend himself by shifting the responsibility (at least partly) to other people, and away from him, the person who made the post.

Around the same time this was happening, Nina was also pointing out some hypocritical behavior from WADY, which isn’t AS important to discuss here compared to the more serious things in this post, but for context, WADY had basically turned a blind eye to inappropriate things other people have posted, while at the same time confronting Nina for much less serious things (i.e., fat jokes that they can claim).

(I feel like I should clarify: The “asscrack pic” was NOT an actual picture of an ass. The Candle Cove server hasn’t been THAT crazy, despite its past poor moderation. It was just a sculpture of an ass, but it was nonetheless too suggestive for a 13+ server.)

The fact that, according to him, he needs to “keep having to remind himself” that minors are around, is worth pointing out. The existence of minors should be obvious because, again, people have to state their age in order to be verified on the server, and also everyone should know this in general because the minimum age on Tumblr and Discord is 13. Why would he keep forgetting?

A little while after this, WADY left the Candle Cove server, ended their friendship with Nina, and, on a different server they were in, complained about what Nina had said to them. Here’s what they said:

(The redacted parts aren’t relevant. Nina was just talking about unrelated drama before they started talking about WADY.)

Firstly, simply having their behavior addressed and being prompted to take accountability for their actions was enough to motivate WADY to cut someone off and leave a server.

Secondly, note that, in the Candle Cove server, Nina told WADY that they specifically had a problem with him posting extremely dark NSFW jokes without warnings. Here, WADY says something different, that Nina had a problem with him “posting NSFW,” without elaboration.

This is misleading. WADY is sidestepping the fact that he even did anything wrong himself. Not only that, intentionally or not, he’s villainizing Nina in the process. Nina didn’t say anything about them having a problem with people posting NSFW in itself, as if they're a kinkshamer or anything like that. However, without any context, that’s probably what people on this server assumed.

(He also doesn’t tell the whole truth about the situation with Nina’s fat jokes, making it seem as though Nina was just complaining about being told off, when in reality, they were pointing out that WADY was unbothered by unwarned NSFW despite being vigilant enough to confront them about fat jokes.)

Here, WADY continues to downplay what he did:

He continues to make it seem as though Nina had a problem with him posting NSFW in general. Also, this just seems like such a flippant thing to say knowing he did post something very disturbing and possibly even triggering without warnings. Whether or not it was just “middle schooler 4chan humor” doesn’t change the fact that it included CSA, incest, and transphobia and should’ve been tagged.

In addition to complaining on this server, he posted a public vent post about this situation on his Tumblr.

Now, it’s understandable, I guess, that WADY would be upset at having some of their problematic behavior addressed. Even though it was rightfully addressed, it could still be a lot to take in. However, without context, this makes it seem as though WADY was being mistreated and victimized, and that everyone else was in the wrong.

Of course, I’m not going to act like it’s necessary or reasonable for people to make sure they’re including every relevant fact and detail and piece of context when they’re just trying to get their feelings out. However, if people vent in public, and others can read the post and be misled by the lack of context, then yes, they should be more careful. If someone reads this, they may assume that WADY was literally “chased out” (as they said) of the server, instead of the reality that they left by their own choice. Or that WADY was being made to “tiptoe around people” (i.e., be unreasonably careful) when the truth was that they were simply told to stop being hypocritical and tag their NSFW posts properly (which isn’t unreasonable).

Also, below are DMs discussing the post. (None of the people here are Nina, just people who were tired of seeing the drama continue.)

(Note: While it may have been vague, vagueness doesn't really have a strong effect in a tiny fandom like this. No matter how vague someone is, it could still be easy for others to suss out who someone’s talking about through the process of elimination since there are only a handful of people in the fandom.)

To summarize, WADY has basically shown that he doesn't take accountability for his untagged NSFW-posting, and that he overreacts when people voice concerns with his behavior, cutting them off and explaining things in a way that makes it seem like they were in the wrong. This makes getting him to address and change his inappropriate behavior pretty difficult, which is partly why this post was written, since handling this privately didn't seem like it was going anywhere and only risked causing WADY to damage people’s reputations further.

Conclusion

Having said all that, I don’t think WADY is, like, an irredeemably bad person or anything, and I do think he has the ability to change himself. However, in the meantime, I don’t think anyone should overlook his behavior. What he did shouldn’t be downplayed—not the NSFW animation that was going to be made without people’s consent, not the randomly bringing up NSFW and fetish stuff around minors, and not the refusal to take accountability for his actions. People should be aware of this, and not make themselves be around WADY if his actions make them uncomfortable, or risk putting them in harm's way.

CW for basically everything OP mentioned, plus a brief discussion of grooming (I mean, hypothetical grooming to be specific, but still). Also, this ended up pretty long. I just wanna say everything I need to say right here so that I don’t have to go back and keep talking about this.

This post is a warning regarding Candlecove-Weaintdeadyet. Some of you may remember, they used to be pretty active on here before deleting their blog. However, I don't think they're going to stay out of the fandom for good. Basically, they've done some questionable and harmful things, and haven't been receptive when asked to change their behavior, so I made this post because I really don't want people to unknowingly put themselves in harm's way by being around them.

Candlecove-weaintdeadyet (WADY) was part of the Candle Cove fandom on Tumblr up until they deleted their blog some time ago, likely because of the drama surrounding them. Even though he hasn’t posted on Tumblr anymore since then, it’s possible that he’ll continue to be part of the Candle Cove fandom, on Tumblr (if he returns) or other platforms. Some people in the fandom already know the details of this drama secondhand, and WADY has probably told his own side of the story to his friends and followers as well. However, because I honestly believe people have a good reason to know what WADY did, I’ve decided to publish the screenshots that show the truth of what really happened, so that people don’t have to rely on hearsay and can form their own, well-educated opinions.

Before I start, I want to say that I’m not writing this to drag WADY through the mud. Again, I genuinely think people should be aware of him. He’s shown that he disregards people’s boundaries regarding NSFW content, particularly during one instance where he planned to make and post NSFW content that included other people’s character designs without telling those people that it was going to be NSFW. Additionally, he’s had a pattern of posting NSFW and fetish-related content without any sort of warnings, even though there are minors in the fandom. Lastly, he’s shown that he isn’t receptive to people who address his behavior and instead twists the truth in a way that makes it seem like he’s being wrongfully attacked. Because of this, I think people should rightfully be aware of his actions so that they can protect themselves.

I cropped and marked up some screenshots slightly just so that this is easier to follow, as well as redacted some names of people to protect them from harassment. (The colors I use to censor names are arbitrary, i.e. all names censored in blue aren’t necessarily the same person, etc.). I haven’t cropped out or marked over anything that’s relevant to what I’m saying.

This post contains subject matter some people may find disturbing, specifically:

NSFW text

Links to NSFW media

Discussion of fetishes

Possibly fetishistic art and writing

Minors being treated inappropriately

Jokes involving CSA, incest, and transphobia

If any of these topics make you uncomfortable, use your discretion, and if you’re a minor, don’t read this at all.

Lastly, DO NOT HARASS ANYONE. Harassment serves no purpose, doesn’t help anyone who's been harmed, and doesn’t effectively cause people to change their behavior.

This behavior has been addressed in the past, but this didn’t go over well. It didn’t lead WADY to take accountability for their behavior, but to instead make excuses and to villainize the person who addressed them.

This is another completely untagged NSFW post of theirs, which motivated someone to say something. (Content warnings for CSA, incest, and transphobic humor. Click to view.)

(I unfortunately don’t have screenshots with the original post’s tags to prove that this had no warnings tagged, but the screenshot below corroborates this.)

This post was addressed by a user on the Candle Cove server. (I’ve spoken with Nina (Skin-taker’s cat) and they’re fine with their name not being redacted, since WADY had vilified them, and including their name here will show what they actually did, and repair their reputation.)

As you can see, according to Nina, the post in question didn’t have warnings.

WADY said this in response:

Note how he tries to defend himself by shifting the responsibility (at least partly) to other people, and away from him, the person who made the post.

Around the same time this was happening, Nina was also pointing out some hypocritical behavior from WADY, which isn’t AS important to discuss here compared to the more serious things in this post, but for context, WADY had basically turned a blind eye to inappropriate things other people have posted, while at the same time confronting Nina for much less serious things (i.e., fat jokes that they can claim).

(I feel like I should clarify: The “asscrack pic” was NOT an actual picture of an ass. The Candle Cove server hasn’t been THAT crazy, despite its past poor moderation. It was just a sculpture of an ass, but it was nonetheless too suggestive for a 13+ server.)

The fact that, according to him, he needs to “keep having to remind himself” that minors are around, is worth pointing out. The existence of minors should be obvious because, again, people have to state their age in order to be verified on the server, and also everyone should know this in general because the minimum age on Tumblr and Discord is 13. Why would he keep forgetting?

A little while after this, WADY left the Candle Cove server, ended their friendship with Nina, and, on a different server they were in, complained about what Nina had said to them. Here’s what they said:

(The redacted parts aren’t relevant. Nina was just talking about unrelated drama before they started talking about WADY.)

Firstly, simply having their behavior addressed and being prompted to take accountability for their actions was enough to motivate WADY to cut someone off and leave a server.

Secondly, note that, in the Candle Cove server, Nina told WADY that they specifically had a problem with him posting extremely dark NSFW jokes without warnings. Here, WADY says something different, that Nina had a problem with him “posting NSFW,” without elaboration.

This is misleading. WADY is sidestepping the fact that he even did anything wrong himself. Not only that, intentionally or not, he’s villainizing Nina in the process. Nina didn’t say anything about them having a problem with people posting NSFW in itself, as if they're a kinkshamer or anything like that. However, without any context, that’s probably what people on this server assumed.

(He also doesn’t tell the whole truth about the situation with Nina’s fat jokes, making it seem as though Nina was just complaining about being told off, when in reality, they were pointing out that WADY was unbothered by unwarned NSFW despite being vigilant enough to confront them about fat jokes.)

Here, WADY continues to downplay what he did:

He continues to make it seem as though Nina had a problem with him posting NSFW in general. Also, this just seems like such a flippant thing to say knowing he did post something very disturbing and possibly even triggering without warnings. Whether or not it was just “middle schooler 4chan humor” doesn’t change the fact that it included CSA, incest, and transphobia and should’ve been tagged.

In addition to complaining on this server, he posted a public vent post about this situation on his Tumblr.

Now, it’s understandable, I guess, that WADY would be upset at having some of their problematic behavior addressed. Even though it was rightfully addressed, it could still be a lot to take in. However, without context, this makes it seem as though WADY was being mistreated and victimized, and that everyone else was in the wrong.

Of course, I’m not going to act like it’s necessary or reasonable for people to make sure they’re including every relevant fact and detail and piece of context when they’re just trying to get their feelings out. However, if people vent in public, and others can read the post and be misled by the lack of context, then yes, they should be more careful. If someone reads this, they may assume that WADY was literally “chased out” (as they said) of the server, instead of the reality that they left by their own choice. Or that WADY was being made to “tiptoe around people” (i.e., be unreasonably careful) when the truth was that they were simply told to stop being hypocritical and tag their NSFW posts properly (which isn’t unreasonable).

Also, below are DMs discussing the post. (None of the people here are Nina, just people who were tired of seeing the drama continue.)

(Note: While it may have been vague, vagueness doesn't really have a strong effect in a tiny fandom like this. No matter how vague someone is, it could still be easy for others to suss out who someone’s talking about through the process of elimination since there are only a handful of people in the fandom.)

To summarize, WADY has basically shown that he doesn't take accountability for his untagged NSFW-posting, and that he overreacts when people voice concerns with his behavior, cutting them off and explaining things in a way that makes it seem like they were in the wrong. This makes getting him to address and change his inappropriate behavior pretty difficult, which is partly why this post was written, since handling this privately didn't seem like it was going anywhere and only risked causing WADY to damage people’s reputations further.

Conclusion

Having said all that, I don’t think WADY is, like, an irredeemably bad person or anything, and I do think he has the ability to change himself. However, in the meantime, I don’t think anyone should overlook his behavior. What he did shouldn’t be downplayed—not the NSFW animation that was going to be made without people’s consent, not the randomly bringing up NSFW and fetish stuff around minors, and not the refusal to take accountability for his actions. People should be aware of this, and not make themselves be around WADY if his actions make them uncomfortable, or risk putting them in harm's way.

I'll just talk about my experience :/

This post is a warning regarding Candlecove-Weaintdeadyet. Some of you may remember, they used to be pretty active on here before deleting their blog. However, I don't think they're going to stay out of the fandom for good. Basically, they've done some questionable and harmful things, and haven't been receptive when asked to change their behavior, so I made this post because I really don't want people to unknowingly put themselves in harm's way by being around them.

Candlecove-weaintdeadyet (WADY) was part of the Candle Cove fandom on Tumblr up until they deleted their blog some time ago, likely because of the drama surrounding them. Even though he hasn’t posted on Tumblr anymore since then, it’s possible that he’ll continue to be part of the Candle Cove fandom, on Tumblr (if he returns) or other platforms. Some people in the fandom already know the details of this drama secondhand, and WADY has probably told his own side of the story to his friends and followers as well. However, because I honestly believe people have a good reason to know what WADY did, I’ve decided to publish the screenshots that show the truth of what really happened, so that people don’t have to rely on hearsay and can form their own, well-educated opinions.

Before I start, I want to say that I’m not writing this to drag WADY through the mud. Again, I genuinely think people should be aware of him. He’s shown that he disregards people’s boundaries regarding NSFW content, particularly during one instance where he planned to make and post NSFW content that included other people’s character designs without telling those people that it was going to be NSFW. Additionally, he’s had a pattern of posting NSFW and fetish-related content without any sort of warnings, even though there are minors in the fandom. Lastly, he’s shown that he isn’t receptive to people who address his behavior and instead twists the truth in a way that makes it seem like he’s being wrongfully attacked. Because of this, I think people should rightfully be aware of his actions so that they can protect themselves.

I cropped and marked up some screenshots slightly just so that this is easier to follow, as well as redacted some names of people to protect them from harassment. (The colors I use to censor names are arbitrary, i.e. all names censored in blue aren’t necessarily the same person, etc.). I haven’t cropped out or marked over anything that’s relevant to what I’m saying.

This post contains subject matter some people may find disturbing, specifically:

NSFW text

Links to NSFW media

Discussion of fetishes

Possibly fetishistic art and writing

Minors being treated inappropriately

Jokes involving CSA, incest, and transphobia

If any of these topics make you uncomfortable, use your discretion, and if you’re a minor, don’t read this at all.

Lastly, DO NOT HARASS ANYONE. Harassment serves no purpose, doesn’t help anyone who's been harmed, and doesn’t effectively cause people to change their behavior.

This behavior has been addressed in the past, but this didn’t go over well. It didn’t lead WADY to take accountability for their behavior, but to instead make excuses and to villainize the person who addressed them.

This is another completely untagged NSFW post of theirs, which motivated someone to say something. (Content warnings for CSA, incest, and transphobic humor. Click to view.)

(I unfortunately don’t have screenshots with the original post’s tags to prove that this had no warnings tagged, but the screenshot below corroborates this.)

This post was addressed by a user on the Candle Cove server. (I’ve spoken with Nina (Skin-taker’s cat) and they’re fine with their name not being redacted, since WADY had vilified them, and including their name here will show what they actually did, and repair their reputation.)

As you can see, according to Nina, the post in question didn’t have warnings.

WADY said this in response:

Note how he tries to defend himself by shifting the responsibility (at least partly) to other people, and away from him, the person who made the post.

Around the same time this was happening, Nina was also pointing out some hypocritical behavior from WADY, which isn’t AS important to discuss here compared to the more serious things in this post, but for context, WADY had basically turned a blind eye to inappropriate things other people have posted, while at the same time confronting Nina for much less serious things (i.e., fat jokes that they can claim).

(I feel like I should clarify: The “asscrack pic” was NOT an actual picture of an ass. The Candle Cove server hasn’t been THAT crazy, despite its past poor moderation. It was just a sculpture of an ass, but it was nonetheless too suggestive for a 13+ server.)

The fact that, according to him, he needs to “keep having to remind himself” that minors are around, is worth pointing out. The existence of minors should be obvious because, again, people have to state their age in order to be verified on the server, and also everyone should know this in general because the minimum age on Tumblr and Discord is 13. Why would he keep forgetting?

A little while after this, WADY left the Candle Cove server, ended their friendship with Nina, and, on a different server they were in, complained about what Nina had said to them. Here’s what they said:

(The redacted parts aren’t relevant. Nina was just talking about unrelated drama before they started talking about WADY.)

Firstly, simply having their behavior addressed and being prompted to take accountability for their actions was enough to motivate WADY to cut someone off and leave a server.

Secondly, note that, in the Candle Cove server, Nina told WADY that they specifically had a problem with him posting extremely dark NSFW jokes without warnings. Here, WADY says something different, that Nina had a problem with him “posting NSFW,” without elaboration.

This is misleading. WADY is sidestepping the fact that he even did anything wrong himself. Not only that, intentionally or not, he’s villainizing Nina in the process. Nina didn’t say anything about them having a problem with people posting NSFW in itself, as if they're a kinkshamer or anything like that. However, without any context, that’s probably what people on this server assumed.

(He also doesn’t tell the whole truth about the situation with Nina’s fat jokes, making it seem as though Nina was just complaining about being told off, when in reality, they were pointing out that WADY was unbothered by unwarned NSFW despite being vigilant enough to confront them about fat jokes.)

Here, WADY continues to downplay what he did:

He continues to make it seem as though Nina had a problem with him posting NSFW in general. Also, this just seems like such a flippant thing to say knowing he did post something very disturbing and possibly even triggering without warnings. Whether or not it was just “middle schooler 4chan humor” doesn’t change the fact that it included CSA, incest, and transphobia and should’ve been tagged.

In addition to complaining on this server, he posted a public vent post about this situation on his Tumblr.

Now, it’s understandable, I guess, that WADY would be upset at having some of their problematic behavior addressed. Even though it was rightfully addressed, it could still be a lot to take in. However, without context, this makes it seem as though WADY was being mistreated and victimized, and that everyone else was in the wrong.

Of course, I’m not going to act like it’s necessary or reasonable for people to make sure they’re including every relevant fact and detail and piece of context when they’re just trying to get their feelings out. However, if people vent in public, and others can read the post and be misled by the lack of context, then yes, they should be more careful. If someone reads this, they may assume that WADY was literally “chased out” (as they said) of the server, instead of the reality that they left by their own choice. Or that WADY was being made to “tiptoe around people” (i.e., be unreasonably careful) when the truth was that they were simply told to stop being hypocritical and tag their NSFW posts properly (which isn’t unreasonable).

Also, below are DMs discussing the post. (None of the people here are Nina, just people who were tired of seeing the drama continue.)

(Note: While it may have been vague, vagueness doesn't really have a strong effect in a tiny fandom like this. No matter how vague someone is, it could still be easy for others to suss out who someone’s talking about through the process of elimination since there are only a handful of people in the fandom.)

To summarize, WADY has basically shown that he doesn't take accountability for his untagged NSFW-posting, and that he overreacts when people voice concerns with his behavior, cutting them off and explaining things in a way that makes it seem like they were in the wrong. This makes getting him to address and change his inappropriate behavior pretty difficult, which is partly why this post was written, since handling this privately didn't seem like it was going anywhere and only risked causing WADY to damage people’s reputations further.

Conclusion

Having said all that, I don’t think WADY is, like, an irredeemably bad person or anything, and I do think he has the ability to change himself. However, in the meantime, I don’t think anyone should overlook his behavior. What he did shouldn’t be downplayed—not the NSFW animation that was going to be made without people’s consent, not the randomly bringing up NSFW and fetish stuff around minors, and not the refusal to take accountability for his actions. People should be aware of this, and not make themselves be around WADY if his actions make them uncomfortable, or risk putting them in harm's way.

No , it's really shocking and disturbing how they reacted when called out . Before anyone jumps in saying , " How do you know the people in that animation are uncomfortable ? ? ? ? ? yall are just reaching atp !!!11!! ", I've met someone who was genuinely appalled to find out that their heartfelt redesign was going to be used in a video and were not informed about the contents surrounding the video . What’s even stranger is that W-A-D-Y didn’t bother to check the ages of the individuals involved , which could lead them to inadvertently include a minor's character in the animation. They've shown , through observation , that they tend to panic over stuff whether it be big or small , which makes me wonder why they didn’t apply that same mindset when it came to considering whether people or minors were uncomfortable with the content they were creating . Like buddy did you forget about asking for permission / finding out the ages of those people ? You being a major heartfelt simp doesn't do anything to justify using other people's heartfelts in an nsfw animation where one or two would be dry-humped or literally anything related to rabbit hole .

**posting untagged nsfw**

In that screenshot , where they exaggeratedly ranted about me to a couple of their friends , they mentioned how they also got upset when I pointed out their untagged NSFW posts on their blog . like dude , we don't CARE if its your blog , just put a damn warning ???? Your blog doesn't even mention shit like "minors dni" or "this blog contains 18+ content" . Even if the content is supposedly for adults , still put a damn warning on your posts so people uncomfortable with nsfw won't stumble upon the content featuring a wiki screenshot of a character sexually assaulting another . Ain't no wayyyyy you tried to excuse it by saying that YOU thought it was "funny" and that its just edgy 4chan humor . Yes , its your BLAWWWWWGGGG , but keep in reminder that MINORS / people UNCOMFORTABLE with nsfw are looking at your CONTENT and are seeing it straight on the tags out of all places . Like we don't fucking careeee if its your blogggg again just put a damn warningg . Infact , i was actually triggered of the mentions of SA being out there onto the tags with no warning when i first opened the app ! But i didn't tell them that it triggered me because i was more focused on something else , and now i feel guilty for not telling them that it triggered me , and that is the one thing i will apologize for .

**mentioning their fat fetish surrounding minors**

before someone screeches "idk why u have to bring that up about their thing for fat people , Maybe they're just romantically attracted to fat people and not sexualizing them!" let me clarify. The textbook definition of a fetish is "a form of sexual desire in which gratification is strongly linked to a particular object, activity, or part of the body other than the sexual organs." In a case , W-A-D-Y has a fat fetish . They depend on wording / describing their hidden fetish instead of admitting / drawing or doing anything that can make one automatically think " oh yea that person has a fat fetish. " That's how they literally got away with it . What makes their phrasing or how they word fetishistic you may ask , a sentence or phrase can be considered literally fetishistic when it prominently features or focuses on an object, body part, or activity that is considered to be a fetish. In W-A-D-Y's case , is from the screenshots above , mentioning in detail about how round and how constant they always bring up how fat and cuddly their heartfelt is . There are a couple context topics on what directly makes an interaction fetishistic . Indirect , Suggestive / explicit description , and central focus on the interaction . Sentences like these are considered indirect , which proves that they are desperately hiding the fact that they are weirdly fixated on how big and round their heartfelt is . It can also be considered suggestive / explicit description . From the many untagged posts and messages of them explaining in detail about how they "fattened" heartfelt or how hes so cuddly and plush-y . Another reason their phrasing comes across as fetishistic is the central focus on the interaction. In the conversations from the screenshots above the OP's post, W-A-D-Y constantly mentions Heartfelt's overweight figure during what should be a normal discussion. The comments about his weight are introduced out of nowhere, highlighting the fixation. Context is key everyone . It's literally taught in elementary school .

It's so weird how they have to justify their unknowing of minors being around with the phrase of "i forgot we're not all minors here" . Like ??? bro people in this fandom whom are minors have SPECIFIED their age before . The fact that you have to KEEP REMINDING yourself that minors exist just proves what kind of person you are . Every fandom space will have minors in it . I don't care for any excuse you have for this , you should know damn well that there are people that don't have the same mindset of yours .

Again , just like what OP previously stated mutliple times before , this is not to fatshame / or criticize W-A-D-Y for having a fat fetish . I literally don't care on what you do in the bedroom or what you get off to . Unless its actually criminal . Just keep your fetish / sex life out of minor's spaces . Or talk about it in an environment where people are COMFORTABLE with those topics .

**Twisting things around**

I called them passive agressive because the exact tone of the message gives off that vibe . I never even KNEW they had carpal tunnel ??? Like the tags literally just felt like talking to someone with lots of makeup / or anything not conventionally in the fashion / beauty standards and going "wooowwww i could never add on that much makeup ur so confident !!!111!!" . Thats literally what I got from the tags , it didn't sound genuine or an actual compliment . I did not lash out at you , the time where i really lashed out is at ANOTHER person because they were not getting the point i was talking about . I tried to calmly explain to you . You took it as an attack .

**conclusion**

This post is a warning regarding Candlecove-Weaintdeadyet. Some of you may remember, they used to be pretty active on here before deleting their blog. However, I don't think they're going to stay out of the fandom for good. Basically, they've done some questionable and harmful things, and haven't been receptive when asked to change their behavior, so I made this post because I really don't want people to unknowingly put themselves in harm's way by being around them.

Candlecove-weaintdeadyet (WADY) was part of the Candle Cove fandom on Tumblr up until they deleted their blog some time ago, likely because of the drama surrounding them. Even though he hasn’t posted on Tumblr anymore since then, it’s possible that he’ll continue to be part of the Candle Cove fandom, on Tumblr (if he returns) or other platforms. Some people in the fandom already know the details of this drama secondhand, and WADY has probably told his own side of the story to his friends and followers as well. However, because I honestly believe people have a good reason to know what WADY did, I’ve decided to publish the screenshots that show the truth of what really happened, so that people don’t have to rely on hearsay and can form their own, well-educated opinions.

Before I start, I want to say that I’m not writing this to drag WADY through the mud. Again, I genuinely think people should be aware of him. He’s shown that he disregards people’s boundaries regarding NSFW content, particularly during one instance where he planned to make and post NSFW content that included other people’s character designs without telling those people that it was going to be NSFW. Additionally, he’s had a pattern of posting NSFW and fetish-related content without any sort of warnings, even though there are minors in the fandom. Lastly, he’s shown that he isn’t receptive to people who address his behavior and instead twists the truth in a way that makes it seem like he’s being wrongfully attacked. Because of this, I think people should rightfully be aware of his actions so that they can protect themselves.

I cropped and marked up some screenshots slightly just so that this is easier to follow, as well as redacted some names of people to protect them from harassment. (The colors I use to censor names are arbitrary, i.e. all names censored in blue aren’t necessarily the same person, etc.). I haven’t cropped out or marked over anything that’s relevant to what I’m saying.

This post contains subject matter some people may find disturbing, specifically:

NSFW text

Links to NSFW media

Discussion of fetishes

Possibly fetishistic art and writing

Minors being treated inappropriately

Jokes involving CSA, incest, and transphobia

If any of these topics make you uncomfortable, use your discretion, and if you’re a minor, don’t read this at all.

Lastly, DO NOT HARASS ANYONE. Harassment serves no purpose, doesn’t help anyone who's been harmed, and doesn’t effectively cause people to change their behavior.