bunx

Not everything is a personal attack against you. Your friend may not be ignoring you on purpose but may be feeling drained. Someone isn’t always being short with you because they’re angry at you but may be trying to hold their own emotions together. Please don’t always assume malicious intent. Most of the time, people are just being people and trying to survive their own lives. It’s not necessarily about you.

i think we as a society have to become comfortable again with the idea that even the best of us are sometimes just petty little bitches who don’t like certain things for completely arbitrary and/or personal reasons

me giving relationship advice: communicate or end it

like, i genuinely believe most problems in the average relationship can be dealt with if the people involved just had an honest, open conversation with each other. it doesn’t have to reach a resolution or be peaceable or anything, just hash things out. air out dirty laundry. all parties have a responsibility. one person can’t be doing all the work while the other just stonewalls, indefinitely. work your shit out, no matter how long it takes and how messy it is, bc that’s the test of love/friendship. you fail it if you end things prematurely, and you fail it if you unilaterally fashion yourself as the victim/wronged party and the other as the perpetrator/aggressor. a relationship should be 50/50, and that means taking on the share of the work it takes to mend and maintain relations when the going gets tough. relationships require effort, and a lot of it is just conflict mediation & resolution, which requires all parties to play their part. easier said than done, obviously, but that’s all the more reason to work at it