Hello! I am new to this entire system thing and I kinda need...help? I mean, I am pretty certain we are a trauma based (or one that started because of mostly childhood neglect) OSDD system. The host is constantly aware of what is happening, even when the alters are taking over. It feels like I am in the passenger seat of my own body and definitely feel the presence of others being there (well or the one who's fronting ya know-). Yet I still have doubts just because the communication is (1/2)
(2/2) a little bit too... non-existent? I have heard of people having at least one person there 24/7 and being able to have entire conversations with their headmates. Is this something you can/need to practice? Because sometimes hear them and can answer, but at other times I could also be putting things in their mouths... It's as though I can not quite connect to them (yet), which saddens me. Any advice? I am not making all of this up right? For that happened too much...* sighs*
Okay to get this out of the way first since it’s kinda the easiest. No, you are not making this up. You have to be consciously and willingly making it up and obviously it does not seem that you are.
Okay onto the actual stuff.
“It feels like I am in the passenger seat of my own body” is a really common way I’ve seen people describe cofronting. I’ve seen car examples and even bus examples with it.
Having a hard time communicating is also a really common thing I’ve seen among multiple systems. Probably more common than the bus example, actually. You can practice talking to them in your head, but I’ve seen people also write in sticky notes, or journals, or Microsoft notepad or what have you. I’d probably recommend trying both out.















