My Life Journal

Abandonment sucks. You lose faith in people, question your worth, lose trust in yourself, and so on. I find that the important thing to remember when this happens is that it’s not a reflection of you as a person. There is no such thing as rejection, only redirection. Nobody rejects you, they simply prioritize other things over you. That sounds harsh, but here’s why you shouldn’t take “rejection” personally. It’s not about you. It’s about their current needs and where they are in life. All this means is that as things are right now, you are not “for” them. If the two of you are not meant to be together in this moment, you will separate like oil and water. Their needs are not matching up with yours. This is a difference in philosophies, values, goals, common interests, current lessons being learned. You’re just not for them. They’re not for you. That doesn’t mean you’re worth any less, that there’s something wrong with you, or that you’re unloveable. It just means you aren’t compatible with them (or you were, but aren’t anymore.) It’s not a reflection of you, it’s an indication of where you’re both at in life, and right now, you’re on separate paths. They chose to leave for their own reasons. Even if they think it’s about you, it’s not. It’s about what they want, and there’s nothing wrong with that. We get to choose who we date. You’re a worthy and incredible person all on your own. You don’t exist to be liked or loved. Focus more on liking than on being liked, and learn not to take “rejection” personally. There is no rejection, only redirection. Your people will find you. In order to make room for the new, the old has got to go. To quote Eckhart Tolle, some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.