Ray-Ray

As much as we love and adore everyone who is interested in joining us, and the community we have grown. I want to make something very crystal clear.

I want to remind to all lers that being a ler is a huge responsibility.

A lee is trusting their body to a ler, being vulnerable in front of a ler and it’s an honor to be trusted like this.

And specifically for this reason a ler should understand all the importance of being in charge.

And I am not gonna be talking about consent and about negotiating the boundaries and not breaking them, because for an adequate person it should be understandable without saying.

There are way more things to pay attention to.

A ler should make sure that a lee feels comfortable. A ler should make sure that the restraints aren’t hurting a lee. Specifically asking “Is. It. Comfortable? Not too tight? Not too loose? Not painful?” before starting anything. A ler should make sure that a lee feels okay during the process. A ler should watch the lee’s state and check on them. A ler should be attentive and watch the lee’s reactions carefully. Watching their breath, the sounds, the gestures, the expressions. A ler should pause if they sense that something might be going wrong even if a lee doesn’t stop them directly. It’s always better to pause and ask “Is everything okay? Are we going on?” and then continue than to harm someone waiting for a safe word.

If you support me, let them hear it.

Just to be clear: Yes, I support OP in this matter. Yes, I encourage you to do so as well. No, this doesn't mean I'm going to police what anyone else thinks or who they choose to listen to. I'm not going to send any anonymous asks berating anyone for being on the wrong side, for being friends with the wrong people, or anything like that. That would not only add an unhealthy amount of stress to my own life, it would also contribute to the same "mob mentality" problem that even OP is standing against. Mob mentality doesn't stop being what it is just because it's being aimed at someone who seemingly deserves it.

If you support me, let them hear it.

A warning to the tickle community out there. Please block @/intensewcuriositytickler if you haven’t already. He is a groomer that resides in Georgia. Guilt tripping minors and trying to get close to them was already obvious what he was doing. He has nsfw stuff on his blog and still interacts with minors, claiming he doesn’t want to do nsfw stuff with them. This is exactly how groomers get closer.

•Hold your friends accountable!!! If you keep enabling their behavior (such as turning a blind eye, or stating they have not done anything wrong even with proof being presented), YOU are ALSO part of the problem

•LISTEN TO THE VICTIM(S)- as someone with a past of trauma and abuse, one of the hardest things to do is come out and say something about it. I never came out about some of mine and it still haunts me to this day.

To those who have come out and shared their experiences:

•Thank you for sharing your stories, and helping the community become a safer place for us all. It can be so hard to speak up sometimes, but we are so proud and grateful to see you standing up for yourself and others

I've been making an effort to identify individuals in the tickle community who come across as very off putting in the sense that I suspect they are dangerous to adults and minors in the community alike. An example of this would be this account who has several off putting posts where they themselves have addressed that a minor was in some form of compromising position with them: