How to make your submissive feel owned;
1. Challenge them.
Donât be lazy when giving tasks. Give them a task that allows them to impress you. If you tell them to wear a certain color of panties/underpants, you are giving them a very closed task. Itâs either failed or succeeded. Be creative and they will be.
2. Think about them.
As a Submissive they will idealy think of you a lot. Return the favour. Message them when you miss them. Remember important things for them. You may care, but you have to make them feel like you care.
3. Listen to them.
Be open to their suggestions, their issues, the things they wish to talk about. Often when someone tells you of a problem, they know you canât provide a solutionâĻ They merely want a listening ear, so provide it.
4. Have fun with them outside of kink.
Watch a movie with them, joke with them, flirt. Dare to be silly and be open to just stepping outside the little comfortzone that is kink. They arenât just your plaything, and they deserve to be more.
5. Be honest.
If something disatisfies you about them, tell them. Donât be rude, donât be mean, but let them know. Nothingâs worse than feeling something is wrong and not knowing what. At least give them the chance to improve on it, if you cannot ignore it.
6. Communicate.
Communication is so vital. I know it pretty much what I said in the past few points, but it deserves one on its own. Donât just mindlessly churn out tasks, donât just play. Be a friend to them.
7. Donât turn your back on them.
Itâs not all sunshine and rainbows in any relationships. Things may go shitty in their life, or they may go shitty in your life. If they ask for your help, at the very least, make sure you are there to listen how you can help and if you can help.
8. Give rules and guidelines.
When you arenât around leave specific instruction on what to do and when; Then in spite of your absence they will still feel like they are pleasing you.
9. Be trustworthy.
Nothing makes you feel less of a person than being lied to. You are their owner, you are responsible for them. If you donât make yourself worthy of that right, itâs not ending well.
10. Work on it!
Seriously. Donât be lazy. Donât slack off. How would you treat them if they did? You have expectations, but you also have duties and if you donât fulfill those duties you will sooner or later lose them to someone who will.
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